my boyfriend just proposed a couple days ago. I am really happy but for some reason its been buggin me. His proposal wasn't really planned out of too thoughtfull. he came up behind me, put the ring in my face in just said will u marry me? I know it really shouldnt' matter and I should be happy, but it didnt' seem like too much thought was put into it. I was expecting something a little more romantic. he didtn' even get on one knee like the traditional way. I jsut need to know how to get over that and just be happy w/ our engagement. I just feel kinda hurt and I dotn' know why.
2007-12-29 06:28:23 · 14 answers · asked by princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I didnt know there was rules of engagement to propose to a female.
Every indidvidual is an individual and he probably had no idea what you wanted as far as proposing goes. Did you ever explain to him that you wanted a romantic old fashioned get on your knee proposal?
Maybe he is to immature for you.
You need to do some thinking before moving forward I think.
2007-12-29 06:34:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was extremely nervous about being rejected, so he came on stupid. If this wound up being the worst thing he ever did top you, you would indeed be fortunate.
Get over it....but plan to teach him little by little how to behave.
Also, you might now say that since he proposed to you in an awkward way, and now knows the answer, you want him to do it on his knees.
He'll do it with a little prodding.
When you two are old and gray, you can laugh over the whole matter.
Kiss him passioately before you ask him to get down on his knees for you. If he says no, gab his buttt, make him laugh,. jump him, get him on the ground, then let hium get on his knees and ask you.
This annecdoate will carry you towo into senior citizen heaven someday and you'll laugh your asses off as old folks.
2007-12-29 14:38:11 · answer #2 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The proposal really doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things. What really matters if he is the right person or not. We women always have this grand notion of how we our men our going to propose and how it will be perfect and so romantic. But the fact of the matter is that most men aren't romantically wired the way we are. So take a step back and look at the big picture- is he the one? That is what's important. If he is you will have a lifetime to make romantic memories. Best of luck!
2007-12-29 14:41:03 · answer #3 · answered by zchi6 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Over expectations of the way you think things "should" be done can cause some unhappy feelings for you and him. You being underwhelmed and disappointed in the delivery and he not realizing he "screwed up" and did not meet your romantic expectations that he didn't know you had.
Hopefully you can get past the disappointment of how it was done, and just remember what the ultimate meaning of the simple question, and presentation of the ring, and your mutual feelings about each other is what matters above all.
2007-12-29 14:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by Travis W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really agree with the other answers. I think if he knew you well enough he would know that you are a romantic and would want a romantic proposal (as would 95% of all women). So that makes me think that
a) he doesn't know the "true you" very well
b) he didn't do his research (did he talk about it prior to see what type of ring / proposal you've always dreamed of?)
c) he just isn't romantic and doesn't care
You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel.
2007-12-29 15:03:45 · answer #5 · answered by *New Mommy* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and want to marry him, just make sure you are clear about how you'd like the wedding itself to be. You've got plenty of time between now and when you get married to make sure that the ceremony and reception are to your liking, and a little romance there is more important than during your proposal. Talk to him, make sure he understands your expectations, and start looking forward to the big day and your life together. Congratulations and good luck!
2008-01-01 18:53:48 · answer #6 · answered by Kitten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thought the surprise would be exciting for you! Did you act happy about it or did you whine and complain because he did`nt do it like YOU thought he should?
I wonder whether you`re mature enough to even consider getting married? You should appreciate a man that`s willing to commit to you at all!
2007-12-29 14:36:42 · answer #7 · answered by bill k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him how u feel about it. For Ex "Yes I love u but I was expecting little more from your proposer". If he know how important marriage is he would understand. Don't never be afraid to tell a man what you want from him or how you feel about something. Tell the man of your life how you feel if you start hidden your feeling now, u will never be able to express yourself to your soon to be husband. You have to communicate
2007-12-29 14:41:20 · answer #8 · answered by lee lee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have to agree with *new mommy* on this. as for all the other people on here saying get over it... all i can think of are golddiggers. marriage means alot to women. its not just the ring that matters, and making a decision that big in life... you want it to be a nice experience. not something dull. a propasal is one of the few things (especially ur first) that a woman will remember for the rest of her life. talk to your guy, and let him know how it made you feel. its good that he knows for future purposes.
2007-12-29 15:21:25 · answer #9 · answered by ha_ha_bling_bling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you're not old enough to get engaged let alone get married. I'd return the ring if I were you and tell him to look for a girl mature enough to accept an engagement ring as it is given. You're just a spoiled rotten self centered brat.
2007-12-29 18:14:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋