Cheating partners should you tell or not.Friends tell they are cheating on their spouse and than you have to look at them in the face ,and thats a hard thing to .That happen to me a few years ago to a close friend .I told and she never fogave me. I don't feel guilty for telling ,rather I would feel gulity if she caught AIDS from the jerk.
2007-12-29 04:39:51 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would gently tell them while they were sitting down.
2007-12-29 04:42:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, while your heart may be in the right place. It really isn't your place to say anything. You'll sort of alter the natural course of that relationship. Chances are that if somebody is cheating the relationship will eventually end anyway. By saying anything you take your friend's options away from them and risk embarassing them. Whether you judge them for being cheated on or not, they are most likely going to feel some level of discomfort at your knowing before they did.
Using STD concerns is not really valid, unless you know if they are practicing safe sex or not. If you don't know then you really have no business saying anything.
2007-12-29 05:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by susquehenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never been in that situation, thank God...but whenever I think about that situation, I always put myself in the place of the person being cheated on. I think about how much worse I'D feel if everyone around me knew about it, and I was the only one walking around like an ignorant idiot. If my significant other was cheating on me, I know I'D want somebody to tell ME.
Your friend was probably just too humiliated about the whole thing, and took it out on you...which isn't fair...I know. But, I for one think you did the right thing. If it was ME, I would have considered you to be a good friend, just looking out for my well being.
2007-12-29 04:47:52 · answer #3 · answered by LolaCorolla 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I broke the silence once. The wife that was being cheated on wanted to talk to me because I was best friends with the girl her husband was cheating with. I felt so bad and didn't like what they were doing that I broke the silence. It happened for the best. The couple separated, the husband is now with the girl he cheated with, the wife found someone else who really loves her. I hated seeing people together and knowing they were all telling lies. It's best if they come out clean and be with the one they truly love.
2007-12-29 05:49:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess your friend is dealing with the embarrassment that you told and is directing her anger toward you. I think you did the right thing in telling...especially with all of the diseases that are being passed around. It is not the easiest thing to do to tell..it is very hurtful...I would hope to have a friend that would tell me if my man was cheating. Maybe one day, your friend will come around to see that you were only looking out for their well being. Good luck!
2007-12-29 04:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You knew. We are all accountable for what we know. I believe that "knowledge is power" and all the other similar cliché phrases that apply here. Sure there is the likelihood for Catch22 circumstances, but in the grand scheme of things you are only responsible for how you deal with what you've been dealt and my goodness, you got a handful...I admire your courage.
The unforgiveness is likely rooted in pride. Eventually, IF your "friend" begins to grow emotionally she will see the value in your integrity and forget the vain things of the world that held her back.
I'm curious as to how you found out and what role that played in your decision...Be blessed in your journey forward :)
2007-12-29 05:21:01 · answer #6 · answered by G-rah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless it's your very best friend, I guess I would stay out of other people's relationships. Maybe both partners know all the details, but hope their family and friends don't. It's always better to keep your mouth closed, because once you say it, you can not ever take it back.
2007-12-29 04:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by judy y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like to stay out of the cheating scenarios. It's a fact that the person being cheated on knows. You won't be telling them anything they don't already suspect and it will just embarrass them and ruin your friendship. For some odd reason, they usually side with the cheater. Stay out of it. I lost my best friend because I told her that her husband was cheating.
2007-12-29 04:53:20 · answer #8 · answered by Julie H 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on how close I am to them. (It's not always the guy.) It also has a great deal to do with what I know about their relationship with each other. In this situation, you have to trust your instincts. Once you've made your decision, detach from the outcome. You are never responsible for another person's reaction.
2007-12-29 04:47:27 · answer #9 · answered by Beach Saint 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not tell on your friends, just don't be part of the cheating. Its not your place to tell on anyone...it will a come out in the wash...and for some reason when we do say something to our " friends" it gets turned around to be our fault!
2007-12-29 05:08:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a very sticky situation. My Husband told my cousin that we saw our friend with my cousins wife. We also had other suspicions about them. After he told my cousin, he got mad at us and now no one talks to us. My cousin has woken up a bit and is thinking about divorcing her, but we all live by each other and it is just a mess. Sometimes we wish we wouldn't have said anything, but I personally would want to know. Depending on the person, they may not believe you and may start to turn their back on you.
2007-12-29 06:31:10 · answer #11 · answered by Mrs. Duncan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋