we have been married for 4 years and lately all we do is argue atleast twice a week about stupid stuff but i feel like we are not understanding eachother, He is away right now for a while and i dont know if i should continue waiting for him
2007-12-29 09:04:41 · 8 answers · asked by B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ask yourself if you can live without him. Can you be the same you without having him with you? Does he complete you? Everybody has bad habits and annoying little things that we do, no matter who you are with, there are always going to be some problems.Search your soul...write him a letter and see if he responds. My husband and I seperated for a year, close to getting a divorce but we love each other and had to live without each other for a little while to understand that we complete each other. You got married for a reason, take yourself back to that and embrace it.
2007-12-29 09:12:38 · answer #1 · answered by cherokee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone argues about stupid stuff. It is too early to throw in the towel. No one said marriage is easy and if they did, they are wrong. It takes a lot of hard work and commitment by both of you. See a counselor if you need to but work on your problems.
2007-12-29 17:12:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me say it like that. If you where realy feet up, you wouldnt ask us but leave.We all only take so much and when feet up go on.So somewhere you not quiet done yet.I would try a letter where he cant talk in between and you can bring things across if you like to do that. Tell him ecxactly how you feel.There is never a good time to break it up, so go if you think you have to.Work on it if you think it work,maybe some counselling help.good luck..
2007-12-29 18:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by siggi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh lord. do you love the guy? do you still want to be with him? then you should work it out. fighting about little stuff is a symptom of a bigger problem. when he comes back(and why is he gone, btw? business trip? if it's something suspicious, that's a WHOLE nother can of worms, and if he's with someone else without your consent, then no, you shouldn't wait for him because you're better than that), sit him down and say, "i'm tired of fighting about this little ****. there's something underneath all this that we're REALLY fighting about, and we should try to figure out what that is, so we can hash it out and get it behind us."
2007-12-29 17:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT for him? YOU'RE HIS WIFE!! Did he leave to get away from you or is he working? Of course you should try to work it out. Marriages have become too disposable. Unless there's physical abuse you need to talk together about whatever problems you're having and try to come to a compromise that will make both of you happy.
2007-12-29 17:10:54 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is too early to throw in the towel...The arguing about the "stupid stuff" is not the real problem....I believe it is the symptom of a bigger problem...Have you considered seeing a marriage counselor?
2007-12-29 17:08:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the book "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. It has a lot of useful information that the two of you can use.
2007-12-29 17:18:10 · answer #7 · answered by Tbone64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It always takes two to argue. You could simply decide to be the more giving and more understanding and take control. We all expect our children to "get along". We would never expect to separate from one of our children because of arguing. Adults can surely learn to "get along".
2007-12-29 17:24:46 · answer #8 · answered by cashmere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋