I am considering marrying him. I am deeply in love with this man and we are both here in the USA
2007-12-29 08:51:40 · 9 answers · asked by angel_annie_63 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I need to also add this he is divorced from his 1st wife already. I meant I would be his 2nd marriage... He has connections with her due to his and their children. Im nervous about this because I want someone to lve me for me and he shows love like I wnt. My prob is wll I just be another clitch on his belt
2007-12-29 09:30:25 · update #1
ok.. from what i read.. he is divorced.. and you both wish to marry.. but your uncertain because of the ex wife.. he will always have ties to her .. atleast until the children are grown and even then.. from time to time.. but she is 4000 miles away.. so no worrys on that end.. but muslim and christain are so different.. the way they treat there women.. second class and all.. he may not be that way.. just have to go by what i have heard.. i would recommend taking it slow.. real slow
2007-12-29 11:06:51 · answer #1 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you love and you're ok with the idea of sharing him just think abt his wife and how would that influence her and her life if she knows that her husband instead of working his butt off to get money for her and her children is going fooling around and marrying other women even if you're both in love ...
try to ask him if you can contact his wife call her and tell her and see how would she react because in Islam he cant get married another time without the permission of his first wife....
Wish you all the happinness and hope you find a man that really deserves you
well if that's the case then maybe after he traveled away his way of thinking has changed and so his personality so if you really feel that he loves you and that you love him that much I say go ahead :) but it wont be easy to match the differences between your cultures but i'm sure love will make it easy for you..
and by the way Muslim men dont treat women badly and they dont treat us as secnd class or anything :) some men treat women badly that's because they're bad no matter what their religion is..
best Of Luck
2007-12-29 17:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by Sue913 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you lost your Egyptian Cotton Picking mind?
Okay, first of all, no matter what, this man is tied to a woman 4,000 miles away. So he will continue having kids by her? Or is that part of his future plans?
What happens when (not if) his wife wants to come to the US? If he has a Green Card, she has an absolute legal right to do so. What if you're married to him then? Guess what? Your marriage gets thrown out, and he gets charged with bigamy. What's more, she'll have ownership to whatever he owns, including the house, the financial assets, and everything else in his name.
You really need to think this one through, because you're about to walk into a complete and total nightmare.
2007-12-29 16:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry him. Soon you will join the ranks of just being another wife, while he goes in search of yet another wife to add to his pleasure. How will you feel then?
And don't believe him if he says you're the last wife, he is allowed at least a couple more.
He doesn't love his first wife and he doesn't love you either or he would divorce his first wife and make you his only wife. Wake up.
2007-12-29 17:01:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP!!!!!!!!!!! IF you are so deeply in Love with this Man, How can you be OKAY that he Already HAS a WIFE, and She is the Mother of his Children. AND he WILL be having Sex w/ her as soon as he sees her again. Don't be a Fool !!! get You a ONE Woman Man!!!!! You want to settle for "Sloppy Seconds?" I hope you really THINK about what you are doing?! Good Luck !!!
2007-12-29 17:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by casper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so he's already married and cheating with you. Why exactly do you think he'll treat you any better? You'll be his little american play thing and then he'll move on to someone else. Or he'll go back to his first wife.
Move on girl, you're just setting yourself up for hurt with this guy.
2007-12-29 16:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have hit your head on something hard!!!
He is a married man ...a muslim...how can you consider marrying him? That's bigamy in America and illegal. You are stepping on a banana peel! Get on with your silly self and stop it!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-29 17:15:20 · answer #7 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that must be your dream! For your husband to have a wife and children that is. How romantic.
2007-12-29 17:25:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the power to you. As for me, I don't share my man with no woman.
2007-12-29 17:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by RT 66 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋