Here's what happened. I got married in July and my husband and I seperated in November and it is kind of my fault since I was cheating on him with this other guy whose 20. I'm 25 and so is my husband but the age thing isn't the point. He used to work all of the time and leave me alone and never had time for me so it's not completely my fault. Now that we've seperated I've started dating the other guy. Now everyone keeps saying mean things about me behind my back, And I'm sick of it . What can I do?
2007-12-29 05:23:54 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
stop blaming your self if he didn`t pay any atention to you i understand any way with cheting you only have destroyed your marriage dont do that again you must speak with your partner if there are problems in your relationship and stop saying that you are a easy girl unless you think so nobody cant tell you who you are you know who you are and make your life better you can do it good luck
2007-12-29 05:56:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 5⤋
Problems I see with this question:
"Kind of my fault"...no, it was your fault, you cheated.
"He used to work all of the time and leave me alone so it's not my fault"....he was probably working to support you and this is the thanks he gets. It IS your fault.
People are saying mean things behind your back because of your actions. Stop cheating and perhaps people wont talk about you.
Moving to another town might be the best solution. Go find out who you are and don't date until you know who that is. Good luck :)
2007-12-29 06:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is completely your fault that you cheated(speaking from experience, when I cheated on my husband, I had no one to blame but myself, regardless of what problems we were having at the time), and until you accept that, you are going to be seen as trashy. Sorry, honey, but you ARE trashy for cheating on your husband and trying to place the blame on him, not trying to work it out, and staying with your affair. What can you do? Nothing, just accept the responsibility for your actions and get over others' opinion of you, 'cause you really don't have a leg to stand on when it comes to defending your actions, 'cause there is no defense for your actions.
2007-12-29 06:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by littlevivi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did an unforgivable act cheating. You and yourself alone had control over your actions. You need to step up to the plate and take the hit you messed up. I suggest you deeply sincerely apologize to you (ex) husband, sign the divorce papers and move away to get a fresh start. Learn from your mistakes and don't do it again. It is going to be hard for any man to trust you now, especially if they know your past.
2007-12-29 06:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being trashy. You cheated on your husband. That is simply trashy. You were only married for 4 months and could keep from having an affair.
It is time to be a big girl and except responsibility in life. Your husband was working to help provide you, his wife, with the things that a couple/family need in life. You tosed that away without any regrets, and you showed a lack of respect for him stepping up and being a man.
Your problem is actually your fault and only you can fix it.
2007-12-29 05:31:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
So your husband had to work to provide for the family.....he felt you didn't need a babysitter because you are an adult(supposedly).....but you couldn't find anything else to do but cheat on him!!!!! Yup....it's your fault....and everything everyone is saying is true. Now that the truth is out...what's your problem except that you can't handle the truth !!!!
2007-12-29 08:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kinda your fault IT IS your fault and no one elses. I cheated because my husband was being responsible and working to build a life for us. You say your 12 right.There is nothing you can do about it you made your bed now lie in it and take what is given you seem to not have cared about your husbands feelings so why should anyone care about yours. You made your reputation no one else so live with it.
2007-12-29 05:56:53 · answer #7 · answered by love my life 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I certainly have a chum from Lafayette... she's the kind of lady who would not fall into the stupid stereotypes individuals from exterior of Louisiana provide to the state. nicely, ok, she's Acadian, and that could qualify, yet different than that, she'd be keen to have an prolonged and state-of-the-paintings (if no longer fairly ticked off) communicate with every person who dares call her "racist trailer trash". advantageous pictures, besides.
2016-10-20 07:10:27 · answer #8 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another question answered by azz hole himself...
Here it is, and you should know it because your old enough to know. Cheating is Cheating. And it is your fault. Your husband - WORKED - all the time. It was not like he was at the bar and you had doubts.
I get sick of women saying its not my fault. YES it was if you cheated. Its tough to support and family and you took the oath for better or for worse. YOU failed him.
I think its wrong they talk behind your back, they should do it to your face - your absolutely right!!
Good luck!
2007-12-29 05:46:42 · answer #9 · answered by azz hole 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
That is trashy, sorry the truth hurts. It is not your spouses fault, the fault is all on you. You are the one who cheated. If you were unhappy with your situation, you should have had the balls to tell him it was over. Their was no reason to cheat, you were just weak and selfish. Yep, that is trashy.
2007-12-29 06:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Duncan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is saying "mean" things... Sounds as though they are saying HONEST things... why is honesty a problem??? Don't lie to yourself and say "it's not completely my fault"... It IS. You made vows (ie, that means a PROMISE) to another man and as soon as he was out the door, you were playing him for a fool... and you expect people to RESPECT you for that???
Why bother even asking what you can do? You know the answer to that, but you're too self centered to actually DO the right thing... so basically, you're just wasting time...
2007-12-29 05:33:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋