love problems?

Question

my husband wants a divorce but i don't. what should i do.

Answer 1

18 years ago, I asked my wife for a divorce. She asked me to try marriage counselling. She flat out told me that I owed her the effort. I agreed and to be honest her showing me that she wanted to work on it, made a difference. Then the counselling itself helped out a lot. Now here we are 18 years later married and happy together.

Answer 2

My husband tried to pull something similar with me not long ago. He said he wasn't happy. I just went about my life like he was never here. I got the house packed up and focused on me and the kids. I had a job in less than 24 hours. I guess he talked to some mutual friends and found out I wasn't going to cry over him and he hadn't devastated my life. He called and apologized like crazy and wants counseling . We have worked things out since and are doing great so far.

Answer 3

when a man sets his mind on a divorce seldom is there anything the woman can do. I am going thru that now. You can try to go to counseling, but most likely he will resist and want to leave anyway. you can try talking, but again, he may resist. From experience, there is not much you can do if he wants to leave. Just make sure you have a damn good lawyer!

Answer 4

Get dressed up in something super sexy, invite him over for a really tasty dinner, and buy him a copy of Sports Illustrated swimsuit edition. Serve the dinner first, then show him the wildest night of monkey love he's ever known. When finished, get him a beer, and sit him down to watch the DVD. He may think twice, but maybe not. He's leaving because you failed to do stuff like this in the first place.

Answer 5

If he is willing, give counseling a shot. Or maybe suggest a trial separation and see what happens. But if he's made up his mind, it may be done. Consider why he wants out. Does he have a mistress? Does he not love you? Something else going on?

Remember it takes two to tango, you don't want to be in a one-sided marriage.

Answer 6

i am sorry to hear that, but you cant make a marriage work if you are the only one that wants to try. You really have to try and get over it. If you have made every effort to let him know you want to try and work things out and he does not seem interested then you really need to try to take the first step towards the divorce. Good luck 2 u and keep your chin up

Answer 7

Lilly,,,don't do anything. Wait it out. Don't push the issue. Go with the flow. Act indifferent about it. Don't tell him you love him. Don't plea. Don't call him. Focus on your self for the next few days. Plan in your head a plan A and B. Focus, don't let him intimidate you. Sometimes if you act all destroyed and distraught, that's fuel for men to continue with their decision. Value yourself right now,,,he will reconsider depending on how you act about this right now.

Answer 8

Try suggesting a seperation instead. Give him time away and see if that helps. I hope he's open to counseling. My ex-husband wasn't. I know it would have helped, but it's like having only one person rowing the canoe. You end up in circles.
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Good luck.

Answer 9

Try marriage counseling. It may work, it may not. Depends on why he wants a divorce.

Answer 10

i never wish divorce on anyone...but if your hubby wants a divorce..there is nothing you can do about it. Dont wallow is self-pity...men are a dime a dozen...go out, get into sexy azz shape(if youre not already) get a boy toy, have lots of fun with him....and your ex will wish he changed his mind