How do I let a woman go when their is obvious chemistry between us?

Question

I like this woman and I think she likes me but I have no money ($60 bucks a month after bills because of child support). So I feel like I wont be able to treat her the way a woman should be treated. ie Taking her out, buying her Roses when we go out, Paying for everything.
I mean I treat her nice and compliment her but she deserves someone better than me.
So how do I let her know I'm not good enough without hurting her?

Answer 1

Girls like it when guys are straightforward and honest. The best thing u can do is to let her now your situation. Maybe she likes u so much that she wont care about your financial situation. Its better to let her know than for her to think that maybe u just dont want to spend money on her. And as far as saying that she needs someone better, I think that you is all she needs!!!! Hope everything works out!!!!!

Answer 2

i think that you should let her make that choice. Just because you don't have a lot of money doesn't mean you don't have things to offer her. Right now I make more money that most guys I know and would love to meet someone to just be happy with. I would be honest with her if that is the way you feel about the issue. Be proud that you support your kids and take what you got and make the best of it. There are tons of ways to support your woman or show here a good time that doesn't take cash. The truth is if she is really into you as you think...money should never matter.

Answer 3

Don't be silly, do you think she started liking you because of the money you spent on her? I doubt it, and if she did she is shallow and don't think twice about letting her go. I was thinking like you at one time too. Women like men because of who they are and how they treat others. Yes, there are some who attach a price tag to everything and keep a scorecard. I just left someone like that a month ago. Best thing I did. Just let her know how deeply you feel for her and that you would like to do more for her but at this point in time you can't do all that you want. If you want to get better financially work at that. Good Luck Dude

Answer 4

Duh..maybe thats why she loves you ,otherwise she wouldnt be still there,right.First tell her your point to let her know that you would like to give her more.Like said before we like honesty very much but also the finer things that money cant buy.Like picked flowers ,little notes,rent a movieand lay on the floor with candles,run the bathwater and light candles,music and some tendernes,ect.So dont ever think that money matters in keeping a relationship going in that matter.These typ of things mean so much more,believe me.And if not,then she is about material things (some are) then you have lost nothing,but gaint the wistom of her not loving you for you . Good luck..

Answer 5

i wouldn't break up with her over this. women are not as material-minded as you think, and any woman who looks down on you because you only have $60 after your bills and because you actually TAKE CARE of your kid is not worth it.

sit her down and talk to her. say, "i feel bad because i don't feel like i can treat you the way men usually treat women on dates...i can't really afford to buy dinners or movies, i can't buy you little presents or flowers, and i feel like you deserve a guy who can do that for you." if she feels like that, let her go, because she's not worth your time. if she's any kind of good woman, she'll offer to pay for dinners, or split the bill. and personally, i don't even LIKE getting flowers...they're pretty, but i get sad when they die. and i hate getting jewelry because i never wear it, and i wouldn't want a guy to waste that much money on me.

you'll have to get over this money thing eventually...if she wanted to date a rich guy, she wouldn't be dating you. she obviously likes you for MORE than your $60 a month.

Answer 6

Why, what, when. where, who,???

Stop it... that's the first thing you should do. Do you love her? Then why worry about money? That's a sorry excuse to give a woman. She's accepted you the way you are... she doesn't seem to care. You can always find a better job, get more money, etc... but love isn't that easy... when find someone sepcial and care for someone the way you do... that's hard to be duplicated. Think about it...

Answer 7

Sit her down and be honest with her. Tell her your situation, and then say "After all that, I do understand completely if you would like to go and find someone in a better financial situation."

That way, she will have the choice to be with you or not. Maybe it won't even matter to her that you don't have a lot of money.

The way YOU want to do it, you're taking that option of choice away from her, and this is not only unfair to her, it's unfair to you too.

Answer 8

Stop feeling sorry for yourself, for one. It's not attractive. If you like this woman, let her know. If you don't, then don't. You don't have to buy her a lot to be a good boyfriend. Besides, I think she can make the decision on her own who is good enough for her. If you are too embarrassed to ask her out, then say so, but don't use the excuse of "I'm not good enough". Man up.

Answer 9

B-4 you let her go why dont you talk to her she may not want all that stuff! It is sweet what you are trying to do but how do you know that you are not the one for her! If you think this way you will never be happy!!

Answer 10

You are assuming all that. You must ask her how she feels about you being poor. You can't go deciding to break up with her just like that. Money isn't everything you know. I would choose love every time myself.