Marriage & Divorce - 17 September 2007

I'm 20 and married and all of my friends have chosen their career paths and I keep changing my mind. I hate it and I feel like I can't just choose to do one thing for the rest of my life. What to do?

2007-09-17 14:54:50 · 9 answers · asked by Barbara 3

My husband has been gone for almost 4 months and at first we would stay on the phone or on messenger for as long as we could to talk . For the past month it feels like we have nothing to say to each other anymore. I try to bring up things to talk about but I only get a one word answer and nothing else. I have asked him to talk to me more but he doesnt see anything different. Any ideas how to spice up a long distance marraige?

2007-09-17 14:52:57 · 8 answers · asked by nannangel79 2

2007-09-17 14:51:37 · 15 answers · asked by brooke 1

Friend of mine is driving her Wife mad and us as well. He does not take his wife to anywhere. It is really annoying going to his place. It is funny when ever we go there and wife comes, we all need to watch floor…hahahahah..
It's need to stop. He is a normal/good friend and can not leave him just because of this. He is my childhood friend.

Thanks for your advice.

2007-09-17 14:44:56 · 5 answers · asked by nobody 1

I cheated on my husband well not really cheated but I just kissed another guy. I wasn't going to tell him but some body was blackmailing me and I had to tell him the truth. He got mad and yelled at me then moved out of our bedroom to one of the guest rooms down the hall yesterday. I was so upset and when I tried to talk to him about it he walked away. i really want things back the way they were, because I love him and I had a lot of trouble sleeping last night because I wasn't in his arms as I have been for the past 5 years and the fact that he's so mad at me. what can I do?

2007-09-17 14:42:26 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't know his SSN

2007-09-17 14:41:09 · 12 answers · asked by Dianne S 1

even though I have moved on it still bothers me every year
does it ever stop bothering you?? Every year no matter how busy i am I still get upset when it comes into my mind

2007-09-17 14:40:14 · 8 answers · asked by beaq 1

me and my wife both have opposite sex friends. do u think its selfish 4 her to want me to herself

2007-09-17 14:33:24 · 7 answers · asked by J J 1

we both have been hanging out for a while, we talk on the phone endlessly, we get along great, it all started innocently but we now there are some feelings involved... the problem is that he is not single, his relationship has not been working out, i never meant to hurt anybody, and if anything i'm the one who is going to get hurt in all of this. should i put distance between the other party involved? should we continue to just hang out and not follow our feelings?? what is the healthy thing to do?

2007-09-17 14:24:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

He lived with his mistress for 4 months while I was out of the country for work. When I came back, he says he cheated because he was lonely that I wasn't there beside him. It's been a couple of months now, and I just found out that he is still seeing his mistress, he never broke it off with her. So it can't be because he is "lonely." All this time he has been sneaking around behind my back. Does he love her? If so, why doesn't he just divorce me and our 2 kids? That mistress of his is younger, rich, lives in nice place.

I don't get it. Every night he comes home to me. But most afternoons, he stops by her place. I don't think he loves her, so why is he still seeing her?

2007-09-17 14:23:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been together for 4 yrs, married for 3 1/2. We have a toddler and a baby on the way. Lately we've hit some rough patches and even went to talk to a divorce lawyer although we haven't gone back because we want it to work.
Here's my question: I ask him to be more considerate in the way he treats me. He wants me to be more considerate in giving him space (even though we don't see each other hardly at all Monday - Friday) but he still says he needs space for us to work.
I came up with a compromise about his needing space. Two nights a month he goes out with his work buddies (remember, we really only get to spend time together on the weekends because of our schedules so by giving him 2 days away from me, I'm only left with 6 days.) Also, I agreed that once a year he gets a four-five day vacation break and I get one too (if I so choose to take it. Probably won't.)
Is this considerate of me or not?

2007-09-17 14:23:32 · 5 answers · asked by shellj_foxy 3

Do you plan to stay with them even though you're not attracted? Or are you going to cheat on them or leave?

Why?

2007-09-17 14:19:12 · 15 answers · asked by Jason 4

what age is the "right" age to get married??? is 21 too early??? just wondering.

2007-09-17 14:15:58 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am not married but am involved with someone who is. (Please no lectures on the wrongness of affairs, etc etc). She has no plans to leave her spouse, which is fine as she obviously is unfaithful- which is not my fault. She actually initiated our relationship. This is not her first affair. She claims she loves her partner and is perfectly happy with them - I have asked her how she can cheat on him if she "loves" him and her response is always "I don't know" or she gets into how much she likes me.

Now keep in mind - I have never cheated on my significant other (when I've been involved, which I currently am not). And yes, I understand that doesn't make this situation "OK". Now if I become involved in a relationship with someone - I will end it with her. I do not condone cheating. This question isn't about me - I am just confused as to the entire situation. Has anyone else been in HER shoes?? I am interested in input - NOT in comments condeming affairs - that's already understood.

2007-09-17 14:09:22 · 11 answers · asked by The Other O 1

I am 27, my hysterectomy was done in 01/07. My doc did a total complete abdominal. Ever since I have not felt like the same person at all. Before I was in pain alot that is why my husband and I both thought this would be good. But now that I have physically recovered just fine, my hormones are a mess! They can not get me right after giving me many diff. types of hormones. I don't talk to my husband, I haven't had sex with my husband, it's like I am not married. We have been together 10 years and he is the love of my life. He had been telling something had to change or he was going to leave. He thinks that I just don't care and that I use my hysterectomy for an excuse on all of it. Well he left me 3 days ago and my world has come to a total end! He won't talk to me or anything, no matter how much I tell him I love him and want him he will not come home. He says I should have said all that sooner. I really can not take life right now and I feel like it just needs to end. What do i do?

2007-09-17 14:07:09 · 47 answers · asked by Alone 1

2007-09-17 13:56:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-17 13:50:39 · 29 answers · asked by NY 2

2007-09-17 12:25:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

What do you do when you want them all the time, and they want you about once a month? Talking openly has not worked. Neither has porn.

2007-09-17 12:19:52 · 11 answers · asked by Dave S 2

My husband told me he's planning on filing for divorce after I decked him the other day and he found out I'm in love with someone else, which I don't understand why he's so angry about we have been seperated for a month because of his constant going out with his friends to bars and strip clubs until all hours of the night. But anyway he said he's going to try for full custody of Ava! I don't think that's right and plus don't the courts prefer the mother anyway? Plus it will be better off since he works 12 hours a day and I just work part time, so I'll have more time with her. I want full custody and I only want him to have supervised visitation because my new guy really likes her and i don't want my daughter to be confused.

2007-09-17 12:09:03 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

i would like to know if you married your high school sweethearts. how long did you guys date? Where did you meet? When did you decide you wanted to spend the rest of your life with them? Did you have anyone discourage you? Did anyone say you wouldn' make it?

2007-09-17 11:43:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

We got him a lawyer and wants to get divorced before he gets out. She's kind of crazy and has not answered the lawyers letters. She lives in IL and the lawyer says that if she does not reply there is nothing that can be done until he gets out. Is there anyway he can get divorced if she doesn't reply. They have a child together and he of course the lawyer has included the necessary for my brother to pay child support as soon has he gets out. As far as visitation the lawyer has it set to where they can agree to the dates, etc... The have no assets to split. There is nothing for her to contest. She just wants to make his life a bigger hell and not let him free. We know she has moved on and has a "boyfriend" (it's funny what you learn on myspace, lol) Anyway what can he do if she doesn't reply?

2007-09-17 11:42:27 · 4 answers · asked by el_al_or 3

I will be marrying him and it is my concern because I pay the bills in this household. I am not against him taking care of his children, all of the money I can use I use on the kids as well.
He never intended to get behind but that's life. He will gladly pay up, but he would like to be able to continue working in order to do so.
And the other question was just plainly put why does the court blindly let a lazy women take the money out of good WORKING men's wallets? These women obviously don't care enough about their own children to get off of their *** and work.

I'm sorry to all of the ladies who think its too difficult but I know PLENTY of women raising children as single mothers and working as well. Lazy isn't a disability.


And WHY do the courts so often make things so the man has a big financial responsibility and hardly gets to see his children?

Once again, not against him taking care of his kids but upset he's the only on doing it.

2007-09-17 11:38:12 · 16 answers · asked by AlmostAnon 1

I can't take the lies and upset any more. I am disabled and have given this man my check for the last 5 years. His past wife NEVER worked and NEVER paid for a thing. My husband got us into huge debt because of income tax and he never bothered to leave money for me if he should die. He just doesn't care. He only wants me around because he cannot afford to live in the state we do without my money. He is constantly angry and never interested in me, even though I am model gorgeous. I am fed up. What do I do? I cannot afford to live on my own. We have only been married 3 yrs no honeymoon. I don't have the energy to stick it out for 2 more years. This man is worse than my father who is 3 yrs older. I hate him and hate what he has done to us financially. I thought I could expect more from a Policeman. What to do? PLEASE HELP ME. I don't have children he had 3 one died, so he has 2 and a grandson. Hasn't anyone heard of birthcontrol? Who has children in their late 50s?

2007-09-17 11:28:14 · 7 answers · asked by MaggieMae 4

i've been in a relationship for 7 years and throughout the majority of it my husband and i faught. he was always so angry and said it was because of his childhood,which was a bit disturbing, but i stook by him and tried to help. he was abusive and very condecending, but i always thought that he would get better, which he did a lot, but now i'm wonderig if he's changed enough for me and i'm not sure if i'm willing to wait another seven years for him to improve even more. we have two beautiful children and i am worried about seperating but i don't know if i'm as strong as i once was to deal with this any longer. he's the breadwinner in the family and he always give us what we need and anything that we want. we live in a wonderful neighbourhood and we are pretty well off, but we haven't always been well off like this, that's why i don't think i would miss any of this. i'm not ungrateful i just feel so confused and depressed. any advice would help, but please only serious answers. thx

2007-09-17 11:07:43 · 11 answers · asked by divineangelbullard 1

Why do people choose to stay in relationships and marriages long after they've gone bad?

2007-09-17 10:46:36 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

We're having a race, on who can get out of the living first, cos who ever looses has to turn everything off and lock up.

2007-09-17 10:41:52 · 26 answers · asked by Lisa T 6

I enforced child support April of 2006 and it was official through courts July 2006. I have been calling the Child Support Services Dept every Monday for update and got no real answers then I recieved a court date February 2007 and he didnt show. Then a bench warrent went out for his arrest and still nothing. I filed for another enforcement in July 2007 and last week I called and they said it was in the Intake Dept. I supplied them with his social, date of birth and place of residency and nothing has been done. Why does this have to be so hard? Why do I have to force him to take care of his child and why do I have to force the government to their jobs?

2007-09-17 10:19:17 · 5 answers · asked by lilsp53306 1

2007-09-17 10:08:53 · 14 answers · asked by Frenchy 2

i've been in a relationship for 7 years and throughout the majority of it my husband and i faught. he was always so angry and said it was because of his childhood,which was a bit disturbing, but i stook by him and tried to help. he was abusive and very condecending, but i always thought that he would get better, which he did a lot, but now i'm wonderig if he's changed enough for me and i'm not sure if i'm willing to wait another seven years for him to improve even more. we have two beautiful children and i am worried about seperating but i don't know if i'm as strong as i once was to deal with this any longer. he's the breadwinner in the family and he always give us what we need and anything that we want. we live in a wonderful neighbourhood and we are pretty well off, but we haven't always been well off like this, that's why i don't think i would miss any of this. i'm not ungrateful i just feel so confused and depressed. any advice would help, but please only serious answers. thx

2007-09-17 09:58:02 · 24 answers · asked by divineangelbullard 1