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Question

I will be marrying him and it is my concern because I pay the bills in this household. I am not against him taking care of his children, all of the money I can use I use on the kids as well.
He never intended to get behind but that's life. He will gladly pay up, but he would like to be able to continue working in order to do so.
And the other question was just plainly put why does the court blindly let a lazy women take the money out of good WORKING men's wallets? These women obviously don't care enough about their own children to get off of their *** and work.

I'm sorry to all of the ladies who think its too difficult but I know PLENTY of women raising children as single mothers and working as well. Lazy isn't a disability.


And WHY do the courts so often make things so the man has a big financial responsibility and hardly gets to see his children?

Once again, not against him taking care of his kids but upset he's the only on doing it.

Answer 1

the women being lazy or not lazy has nothing to do with the amount of child support a man has to pay.. he made the kids and he needs to asume all responsiblities for it..next time look to fall in love with a man that doesn't have kids and that way he will have more money to spend on you and your bills,

Answer 2

I am with a man who is a GREAT dad and yet his wife left him (long before I met him) took his two children away accross the country and has been sitting on her *** for over 4 years, working a little here and there and going to University (she had a good job, she already had 2 diplomas post-sec.) It is not the child support that is the problem, a man has a duty to support his children and he has always paid fairly, I respect this man so much for always paying his child support. The problem is, now she wants so much more than just child support becaue she has all these student loans. We are ending up paying another $700/month in "expenses" for the kids. We are not rich, and our family is suffering (we have twins, they are 1 and I just went back to work). I just wish the courts would tell her to get off her *** and get a job. I feel for his kids too (10 and 12 years old), she gets all this money for the kids and spends it on her "arts" degree. It is just sad what women get away with and my poor man, who LOVES all his kids and supports them hardly gets to see them cause she moved accross the country. A divorced woman is looked upon as a "poor single mom" while a divorced dad is looked upon as a "scumbag who should shut-up and pay up", even if it means paying her with his credit card (which we had to do last month). Well, all those lazy greedy women must be very unhappy, that is all I can say. Good Luck.

Answer 3

His first responsibility is to his children. Maybe he didn't want his wife to work, and the courts look at that when the divorce went through. There is no reason a man gets behind in child support unless he got hurt and couldn't work, and even then he could go down to the courts and have help with that while he was off. If he got behind because he was out having fun, then to bad. He might not be able to see his kids because he was not a good dad when he had the chance, you pay for all the mistakes you make in life. You might be paying if you stay with him.

Answer 4

When you marry this man and if you have children with him and if you decide that you two are not made for each other and you want a divorce, you will thank the courts for being there.

As for men paying so much, it is all based on income and you will find in life that men generally make more money than women.

However, until you walk a mile, so to speak, in a single mother's shoes, keep your children support opinions to yourself.

Answer 5

Sweetheart , she could up off her lazy fat butt and go get a job that pay's equal to the amount or more to your husband , her ex-husband , but it wouldnt make a snail's trail of a difference it might lower his child support but he will still pay a similiar amount .

He can ask for a review on the amount he pays by ringing child support and asking them to send out paperwork , he re-fill's it out with his current annual income and bill's he pay's and so on and so forth but unless some miracle happens it wont do any good.

If they were still married he'd be forking out 10 time's more then what he is now and while your not against him taking care of his children financially you are way to bitter on this subject to see that you can be upset and let it annoy you but legally nothing is going to change it even if she work's.

I know there are a lot of women out there who refuse to work and want to stay home with their kid's even after they've all started 1st grade they feel that they are disadvantaging their children by not being home yet what they fail to realise is they can find jobs within school hour's , cleaning , shop assistant work , even some council's have park job's that run from 9:30 and they knock off by 2;30 , it's NOT impossible , they just wont believe they can do both because their self esteem and the capability of mingling with soceity become's less after 10 or 15 year's home out of the work force raising children.Please dont confuse the reasons they stay home with their children as not caring enough about their children thats just a childish attack on it that will have women in here attacking you so maybe refrain from that accusation hey.

This is why women need to be able to work and keep their self esteem up and have their own saving's account's so they dont feel that without a man their nothing to society.I dont get child support off my 1st husband I chose not to for my own sanity but that doesnt mean he shouldnt support his daughter by paying for a school camp I cant afford even on my wage that she really wants to go to and he offered to pay and hasnt try explaining a dead beat dad to your 9 year old daughter.

Hope this answer helped if not I tried.

Answer 6

Have to agree with you - Much and all as there are some situations where women really should stay at home with the kids for a while at least after the marriage has fallen through, there are also many women who should get off their behinds and get jobs.

Answer 7

You know the deal...He has to pay child support and the courts don't care what the mother spends it on...If you are that concerned about all his money going to his children...then perhaps you should rethink your decision on marrying him. Do you realize that his ex wife will have to pay for child care if she works? Do you have any idea how much childcare cost? That is why I stayed home with my kids...because it was costing me to work.

Answer 8

As a divorced woman who raised three kids, WITHOUT any financial support from my ex, I dident sit on my A**, I worked my tail off to support my family, while he sat on his a**, & spent what ever he earned on himself.
No matter what I went through I feel that there are woman out there who in my opinion, are pissed at their exes, & they figure that its to their advantage to make their former mates as miserable as they can, by taking them to the cleaners financially, not letting them see their children & alot of other things just to make them "pay" for what they did.... divorce them!! The only people these woman are hurting in general are the children, they are learning hate, spite, & things we should be teaching them not to do.
Unfortunatly there are alot of men who ARE a** holes like my ex was & do nothing to help with their children & they ruin it for all of the good guys out there. its a dog eat dog situation, that really has no answers.

Answer 9

as the court in my state told my brother "i do not care what she does with the money I care only that you support your kids" it is not up to you to pay support for his kids and it should be based upon his check only I agree with you that the mother could get off her rear and work even if she does he would still be supporting his kids and that is the commendable thing in a world where so many skip out

Answer 10

I hear where your coming from there are plenty of women in this country who wait for handouts they sit around all day watch soap operas and wait for the check to arrive ...a lot of women still have this mentality of a man is supposed to take of me ....How about this educate yourself provide for yourself and your child and take the child support checks and save for the kids college ....How many mothers who get checks can say the have done that I can gurantee you not many