My husband and I have been together for 4 yrs, married for 3 1/2. We have a toddler and a baby on the way. Lately we've hit some rough patches and even went to talk to a divorce lawyer although we haven't gone back because we want it to work.
Here's my question: I ask him to be more considerate in the way he treats me. He wants me to be more considerate in giving him space (even though we don't see each other hardly at all Monday - Friday) but he still says he needs space for us to work.
I came up with a compromise about his needing space. Two nights a month he goes out with his work buddies (remember, we really only get to spend time together on the weekends because of our schedules so by giving him 2 days away from me, I'm only left with 6 days.) Also, I agreed that once a year he gets a four-five day vacation break and I get one too (if I so choose to take it. Probably won't.)
Is this considerate of me or not?
2007-09-17
14:23:32
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And as far as him for me, I've asked him for these things in return:
1.) call if he's going to be late
2.) let me know like 12 hrs in advance if he's going to be going out, just so I know what's going on.
3.) let me know 2 weeks in advance before he leaves town for the mini vacation
4.) try not to gripe me out all the time about stupid things that don't matter
5.) talk to me more, hug me and kiss me more
6.) Spend time with me (not just running errands and things like that, but real time, like the movies or out to eat)
Am I asking too much?
2007-09-17
14:25:52 ·
update #1
What do you consider to be "consideration in marriage"??? What do you and your spouse do for the other that you don't really want to do, but it's the right or nice thing to do?
2007-09-17
14:27:58 ·
update #2