2007-09-17 10:08:53 · 14 answers · asked by Frenchy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My ex-wife and I used the same attorney and it wasn't too bad. It depends if she wants to move on or not. Start by having her write up a list of what she wants everything from custody arrangements to dividing up the assets and this will give you a starting point for negotiations. Make sure she understands that the more reasonable both of you are the less money you will have to fork over to the scumbag attorneys, they thrive on messy divorces. It can be done, you have to be fair to her and vice versa, when one feels they are getting screw-ed that's when they run out and hire another lawyer. Good Luck
2007-09-17 10:19:25 · answer #1 · answered by Billy Voltaire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats what you tell your wife. The more you too can talk and agree on things the better. If you go threw lawyers keep this in both your minds, they are the ones who keep the divorce going as well as the charging clock.
Lawyers only think of them and how much money they can make off you, they could give a hoot about either of you, just your money. It's better to be civil, stay out of the court system and try mediation. I did the court thing and just found out after 14 years that the local child support unit has ripped off thousands from my x and me and there is not one thing we can do. The court system is horrible and they end up costing you thousands in the end for their negligence. Hope this helps.
2007-09-17 17:36:41 · answer #2 · answered by BuLlY LoVeR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is clueless that your even having issues it won't be friendly at all. Now, if the feelings are mutual then it's easy. Just do what you say u your going to do. Just because your divorced doesn't mean your obligation is over. Especially with kids. And if you make more than her and she is going to have to go through a lifestyle change make sure she is OK for a little while or vice versa. Just try and be as fair as possible.
But if she still has strong feelings for you, it's not going to be pretty. Sorry, I hate to admit it but we as women are sooooooo emotional. Good Luck!
2007-09-17 17:17:05 · answer #3 · answered by sosexicopgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish you two luck. And, if you manage a friendly divorce, you'll enter a very, very, very, small group. I find the concept of a friendly divorce as wildly unlikely as winning four separate lotteries in one week.
2007-09-17 18:02:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she know you feel that way. If its a total surprise you cant expect it to be too friendly. I have been there 3 times. Does not make it any easier. I can talk to exes now but with 2 of them it took years to get there.
2007-09-17 17:13:09 · answer #5 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she want a friendly divorce as well? If so, no problem; If not, just get your divorce.
2007-09-17 17:13:56 · answer #6 · answered by Tonya R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you can both agree on all the terms of your divorce, you will probably be able to get an uncontested divorce, which will allow you to avoid a messy court battle.
Here is some more information that may help:
- https://www.lawdepot.com/contracts/divorce/index.aspx
- http://www.divorceinfo.com/uncontesteddivorce.htm
2007-09-17 17:44:34 · answer #7 · answered by Adam S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that if she wants the same thing, then it shouldn't be a problem. Put in your mind firmly, that all of your possesions are simply material. You will not hold on so tightly to them then. You have to be willing to sacrifice. It will hurt regardless though.
2007-09-17 17:18:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, split everything down the middle and hope she appreciates your kindness with kindness in return.
2007-09-17 17:14:08 · answer #9 · answered by contessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do want a divorce anyway? Why do WANT to pull something apart that God joined? Why cant you sit down a work thru it? I have advice dont get one. or give her everything and you cant possible fight...
2007-09-17 17:14:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋