Why do people try to hang on to something good long after it's gone?

Question

Why do people choose to stay in relationships and marriages long after they've gone bad?

Answer 1

I guess in some cases its to do with the fact that a lot of people think they will never find/fall in love again, the fear of the unknown, not wanting to move outside their comfort zones.
Broken dreams are never easy to replace and sometimes its hard to envision that times will ever be better again.

Answer 2

The answer differs. Some people are afraid to let go or believe they shouldn't let go; they honour marriage as important and binding not illusory. Some cannot find the strength to change or help convince the other to change.

Many people believe that relationships aren't "disposable items" unlike paper plates or tin cans. There are people though who treat relationships as bad or worse than disposable diapers and they do this by only thinking of themselves and or their own interests.

Divorce often results from one or both people thinking first of themselves and later or not at all of their partner. Staying and not attempting to improve the relationship is harmful to both people however.

No relationship is perfect and we shouldn't expect it to be and we should take care to not think that a relationship or person is perfect.

To take a page from the "self-help" philosophy, a proper attitude towards marriage is to accept that you and your partner are imperfect and try to do what you can do to improve yourself; perhaps your partner will be inspired to change themselves for the better?

A better way though is GOD's way which is to put your partner's welfare before your own (note: this is not a doormat) whether kindly accepting their imperfections or strongly holding them accountable to change when they hurt themselves or others.

Answer 3

Its kind of like a bad habit, its routine. People tend to fall under denial and be delusional and want to believe things are going to get better when in all reality there not and things will only progress to get worse. Sometimes people realize the negative and feel afraid to get out cuz its all they know or they make up for the bad by finding a convenience out of it like financial,emotional,dependency,just having someone there,or even sexual convenience. They may know there in a bad situation but they dont know whats out there

Answer 4

It's really hard to give up on something you've put so much time and effort into. Whether you have kids or not. Its like you keep hoping things will change and its the "hoping" that keeps you in the relationship.

Answer 5

Every marriage goes through ups and downs. Why throw away what could be 50 years of happiness for a couple years of rough spots?

Answer 6

Fear of the unknown. They dont want to move on, they probably have kids and can't imagine life without them everyday. Men figure it's cheaper to keep her and will stay because that is where HOME is. Women stay because they are eother threatened, have low self esteem or need assistance to make the step to leave fearing that their spouse will hurt himself. I hope that helps.

Answer 7

A lot of people are afraid of the unknown and dont want to be alone. I know couples who stuck together just until the kids were older and that wasnt good.

Answer 8

well maybe they have a family and they wanna it too be perfect and keep everthing bad secret

and some religions arnt aloud 2 get a divorce with there husband unless its somthing serious

i hope this helped

Answer 9

Fond Memories are hard to let go...but U must, to be a better
person with your past experiences...2bz.

Answer 10

for the kids which i think is a bad idear.. lol plus they feel they cant find anything better