Marriage & Divorce - 17 August 2007

If you were in a rocky marriage almost on the verge of divorce but you still loved your husband and he wanted to work things out & u think u do too but when you kiss there is nothing on your end what would you do?One reason y marrige is on rocks is b/c husband never showed affection and was one sided in the bedroom. He also never appreciated anything that I did for him. So after years of being depressed I had an affair.. I know not right thing to do at all! but I really fell in love with other guy. I dont know who I should be with. Here is my real question. not only am I unsure and weak minded but the other is sterile and unable to have children, something I want so badly. Should that even be a factor in my decision?

2007-08-17 04:10:05 · 14 answers · asked by rdt 1

I left the house for a few days until she decided to end the relationship with the other man. She promised she would never do something like that again. I love my wife very much and agreed to forgive her. She is having hard time excepting my forgiveness because of the guilt she has and she would not have forgiven me if I had done that. We are going to counceling and she says she does want to try to work things out. She still says she loves me and we did have sex but it is not the same as it was before. Is it possible to repair a relation ship like this? We have two kids and I don't want to lose my family and be a weekend father. She thinks I will never trust her again but I feel like I must trust her. How do I show I trust her? Any advice?

2007-08-17 03:57:44 · 28 answers · asked by give_me_somedat 1

A little old lady answered a knock on the door one day, only to be
confronted by a well-dressed young man carrying a vacuum cleaner. Good morning, said the young man. If I could take a couple of minutes of
your time, I would like to demonstrate the very latest in high powered
vacuum cleaners. Go away, said the old lady. I havent got any money, Im broke As she
proceeded to close the door, the young man wedged his foot in the door and pushed it wide open. Dont be too hasty, he said. Not until you have at least seen my demonstration. And with that, he emptied a bucket of horse manure on her hallway carpet. If this vacuum cleaner does not remove all traces of this horse manure from
your carpet, Madam, I will personally eat the remainder. The old lady stepped back and said,Well I hope you got a damned good appetite,
because they cut off my electricity this morning. What part of broke did you not understand

2007-08-17 03:45:26 · 21 answers · asked by islandgirl God and family 5

I love him. but he is very cruel to me.

2007-08-17 03:41:42 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous

should i just live with this fact forever?

2007-08-17 03:41:18 · 14 answers · asked by swtsxybb 1

2007-08-17 03:39:34 · 7 answers · asked by Tanisha H 1

and now she wanted a divorce, she said she wanted divorced before me and this guy at work "WHO HAS 2 kids and a WIFE" are just friends. AND i saw emails saying he was falling in love with her and stuff. yet she said she just blew that off and keep talking to him as friends. what am i suppost to think?

2007-08-17 03:37:23 · 19 answers · asked by cdevido@verizon.net 2

He keeps her sms in his mobile n talks about her always. He's open to me n doesn't keep secrets but can I trust him so much in this situation? I know he's not the type to flirt or have an affair.

2007-08-17 03:35:44 · 28 answers · asked by candie 4

2007-08-17 03:33:17 · 25 answers · asked by sugarplum 3

2007-08-17 03:29:04 · 36 answers · asked by candie 4

There is a old saying, "the new eventually wears off and the old shines through" what is your perception of this saying?
Do men who cheat and leave a good wife after years of marriage ever look back and have regrets/ feel guilty?

2007-08-17 03:24:59 · 14 answers · asked by texas_redlips 1

I bought house before getting married and it is in my name. She has never paid one penny of the mortgage.

2007-08-17 03:24:08 · 20 answers · asked by Buddy Love 5

2007-08-17 03:23:49 · 21 answers · asked by candie 4

Do you use toys? my wife and I do,its fun.

2007-08-17 03:17:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

She left him and their kids for her current boyfriend about a year and a half ago. I've been seeing him for about 9 months. My boyfriend wants full custody of his kids (he has physical custody now). She rarely calls the kids and only sees them 4 days a month. The divorce has been dragging cause she says she wants custody of the kids, but she doesn't involve herself in their lives. We think it's so she doesn't have to pay child support, which she doesn't pay anyway. Their court date is in like a month from now. She recently told my boyfriend that she's pregnant by her live-in boyfriend and has no intention of getting married to him. I don't live with my boyfriend cause we don't want to do anything that may hinder his chances of getting full custody.

How will her being pregnant and "living with her boyfriend" (which she denied under oath) while they're still married affect his custody case?

2007-08-17 03:17:53 · 15 answers · asked by kchow 1

I met him in a chatroom and I aint seen a pic of him but we are together online for around 6 months now. Were from different parts - he in Seattle and me in Texas. He says he was married but divorce now.He gots kids but aint send pics of them either. He called me once from a private number. I gots no way to contact him but just email and chat.He say he love me, I love him. But I feel like he lying. What does y'all think?

2007-08-17 03:17:27 · 16 answers · asked by Confuso 1

2007-08-17 03:15:53 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband wants to go by himself to his 20 years High School reunion; I'm not sure if it is because he is looking forward seeing his "Old flame/s" or because I'm pregnant (and not as "Good looking" as I was a year ago when he told me he would take me to show me off with his friends, I'm 12 years younger!) or because he is really thinking that I would get bored (I don't know nobody)? What do you think guys? - Specially you males?

2007-08-17 03:03:18 · 30 answers · asked by Mykidsmom 1

I have been with my husband for 13yrs. a battle the whole way. once we got married (2yrsago) he seemed to have changed..could communicate and wanted to work together. it didnt last long at all. back to the old him. he works (welding so i know its hot) and comes home to the fixer upper house we just bought and lays on the couch.. i am still at work and then come home and do some dishes maybe throw in laundry and cook for him and our 2 kids and then more dishes and then again the next day. he thinks the house is a mess and that "I" should keep up on it better. I have tried to talk to him but he doesnt listen its like he turns into another person. he starts to verbally abuse me. he (aside from my kids) is ALL I HAVE. I have NO other family and cant support my home if he leaves....wtf do i do?

2007-08-17 03:02:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband just started a new job at his firehouse as an EMT. He works with three girls. He is close to one of them, and considers her a good friend. I think they might have a friendly/playful relationship. Is it normal to have a close relationship with the opposite sex without having romantic feelings for that person?
My husband is a great guy/father. Not the cheating up. He says that he really likes her as a friend/and needs to build a close bond with her (they are medic partners). I guess I am still worried about it though.
Please serious answers only.

2007-08-17 02:57:39 · 31 answers · asked by sunnysideup 4

My husband met some of his siblings (father's side) and his father 5 years ago, I found them. In the last year the oldest of the siblings has become really close to my husband and some accusations have come out. Calling each other all day for months, talking ugly about me, inappropriate speaking to each other etc.(caught them on tape, no sex mentioned, but talked like lovers or they were in love) After I accused them of an affair (of course they denied it), he would not speak to me for 5 months and was moving out. We are trying to reconcile now (since April) but he has changed. It is like the passion and desire he had for me (which began to chang when he was talking/hanging around her alot) is gone. He does not call me (called 3 times a day for 11 years) he calls her everyday now. I feel bad if they are innocent, but they were a littel too close. Others saw it as well, but never mentioned it. The fact that he is calling her everyday still eats at me, how do I get past it, for me?

2007-08-17 02:55:46 · 18 answers · asked by peaches8866 2

Last night I went out with my boyfriend, his best friend, and two of my friends. We had a few drinks, but weren't drunk - just hanging out and talking.

What got me, was that he seemed to be kind of ignoring me - and paying more attention to everyone else. He probably thought he was being polite to them, but I just felt kind of ignored. Not to an extreme degree, but just kind of - there.

He went back to his place and I went back to mine (his best friend's car was at his house and the friend needed it) - we got on the phone after a bit, and I was feeling just 'expressive' enough to mention that that had bothered me. He said that he hadn't noticed that, etc. etc., and would talk to me today about it - I guess the friend was still there. I just feel really weird about the situation. It felt like I was kind of an 'extra' in the outing, and it bothered me - he didn't even notice. Am I out of line here? What should I say when I talk to him?

2007-08-17 02:54:21 · 15 answers · asked by HooliganGrrl 5

HI DOES A NON CUSTODIAL PARENT HAVE THE RIGHT TO PUT A 10 YEAR OLD CHILD ON A PLANE BY HERSELF WITH OUT CUSTODIAL PARENTS PERMISSION KNOWING THAT THE CUSTODIAL PARENTS SAID NO SHE DOES NOT FEELL COMFORTABLE WITH THAT

2007-08-17 02:40:24 · 10 answers · asked by vallygirl123us 1

I never get any kind of benefits so...........I found my own.

2007-08-17 02:22:02 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous

Many brides go in a limusine.

How about grooms?

However incredible this may sound, I've only attended two weddings: my cousin's and brother's.

My female cousin hired a limusine. I was staying in her house when she got married. I don't know how her fiance got to the church, though.

My brother hired a black Mercedes.

How did other grooms usually choose to go the church (or where the ceremony will take place)?

Women may also reply to this if they want.

However, please state if you are male or female.

2007-08-17 02:01:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mother don't like My Wife And that Has Caused confusion in our Marriage and other siblings. I love my wife with all my heart , she said I put her down and caused her to have low self Esteem. Some times when you argue with some one sometimes you to say things that you don't mean. We have two kids together We've bend married since we where eighteen years old the first 4 years of our marriage was great but the next 5 years was rocky. My wife said i give other women more complaments and not her I only did that only three times and that was it . To me my wife is the most beautiful woman in the world. I told her that I'm going to change but she will not give me a chance to prove it. I really love this woman she mean the world to me. I just dont Know what to do.

2007-08-17 02:00:31 · 21 answers · asked by REGGIE R N 1

2007-08-17 01:57:44 · 10 answers · asked by Sandra D 1

My daughter is 15 and is now staying with me. She lived with her Dad before in another state.

My ex-husband sent her to me so that we could both decide if we want to reunite as a family. He moved due to job reasons so we would start over fresh in a new state.

I feel bad because I spent hours talking on the phone with my ex-husband, booked tickets for us both and booked the Salvation Army truck to come and pick up my things that are in storage.

Yet, I can not pick up and make the major transition to be back with my ex-husband again. I still see that he is controlling and money-minded. He was pushing me to sell my things instead of giving them away. I tried to tell him to stay out and he would not.

He also did not show that he really wanted me to come back and cared for me. Someone said that he should have shown interest in me and now what I do with my stuff.

I feel sad because now he will move on and I will be alone after my daughter leaves for college.

2007-08-17 01:56:20 · 11 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

army and weighed 130lbs (but I still wore the same size clothes), I stayed at about 134lbs for like a year, then got up to 160-got pregnant was 202 when I gave birth, lost 20 and now I am stuck at 184. my husband doesnt seem like he loves me or wants to be with me anymore. I want to lose weight for myself but I dont want to do it for him becuase he should love me no matter what i look like right? what do u all think?

2007-08-17 01:50:47 · 22 answers · asked by hotmama07 2

2007-08-17 01:44:08 · 14 answers · asked by Sandra D 1