2007-08-17 03:33:17 · 25 answers · asked by sugarplum 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to have sex with him to know for sure.
2007-08-17 04:00:27 · answer #1 · answered by Handsome Stranger 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Based upon your other questions, I'm of the opinion that you ARE NOT in love with another man. You are in love with your fantacy of him. So you have been emailing each other nice things and kind words. This guy is a friend(?) of your husbands who wishes you to stop your correspondence.
All the stars are aligned for you to take a serious fall here.
Your marriage is suffering because you are going elsewhere for your emotional support. You are dreaming about falling in love(?) with a guy who has not given you the indication that he wants you( maybe he did which is even worse). Your view of this guy is not based upon reality only your vison of him.
The overriding truth here is that any guy who would woo his friend's wife away is a scumbag. Any woman who would fall "in love" with her husbands friend(?) is also a scumbag.
Stop this crap while you still can. Do the right thing the right way. Get your head back in your marriage and put these diversions aside. Work on your marriage with the guy you professed to love when you got married. If this does not work out get divorced and be single without a guy for a while.
Then figure out what real love is for a living breathing person with whom you must be able to live.
If you continue this way you will destroy a number of lives and relationships and for what?
Do you suppose that this guy wants to be with a woman who would cheat? I'll wager, not for long.
2007-08-17 04:24:43 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cnjrtom gave you the best answer. You will feel attractions and have crushes on people...it's natural...what makes you different from the cheaters, liars, thieves and homewreckers...is how you act. You should never have married your husband and comitted yourself to vows, I assume before God, if you had no intention of keeping them. Just because they do it in the movies and on TV and make it look cool...does not mean that it is. Take another look at your husband and remember why you married him, hopefully it wasn't because of a nine-month crush but because you fell in love with him and he has certain qualities that you wanted in a life mate. Rediscover THOSE feelings and stop seeing, talking, or hanging around with this other man. Time to step up to the plate and be a woman--it's not always easy!
2007-08-17 07:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by Nicky C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same way men see other woman better then there wife the wife can see another man better then the husband.
There is no stress with them.
There is no complaints with them.
You don't care if they leave there clothes all over the place.
Not interested if they don't pay the bills or charge up credit cards.
He is funny, smart, kind.
This is cause your not married to him.
2007-08-17 03:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married so you have to remember that, you must not be happy with your husband, because if you were you would not be in love with another man. You need to sit down and talk to your husband whatever is going wrong you need to talk to him, and not some other man. You took vows and you need to honor those vows. Being in love with another man, is not going to solve whatever issues you are having with your husband. Also it is not fair to bring someone else in the midst of your problems.
2007-08-17 03:57:03 · answer #5 · answered by pookster4262 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you get married you don't stop loving other people. I mean, that's an emotion and you can't really control your emotions. But you do control your actions, and you made vows to your husband, so you need to do whatever you have to do to keep those vows. If that means stopping contact with this other man, then this is what you have to do.
2007-08-17 03:40:31 · answer #6 · answered by CNJRTOM 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't have an affair! Look at your relationship with your husband and work on the problems that allow you to have feeling for another man. I wish you the best of luck!!
2007-08-17 04:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
will if you only think your in love then your not you either know it or you dont when you are truly in love you know it but you are married so you shouldnt even be thinking of other guys so maybe its time that you talk with husband either fix the problem or get a divorce its not fair to your husband.
2007-08-20 19:09:05 · answer #8 · answered by twinkle2twinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter what anyone says on here, you are going to make your own decision on this one....just remember that some mistakes will haunt you for the rest of your life. Nothing good will ever come out of something that was kept a secret. The only thing to come out of a secret is more lies and more secrets.
2007-08-17 03:42:12 · answer #9 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well how long you been married?
how do you think you are in love with another guy?
we need more to go one here
2007-08-17 03:40:50 · answer #10 · answered by suepooh23 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You say nothing about your husband. If he is a good person, why lose everything that you have now for an illusion. Give more details.
2007-08-20 23:45:47 · answer #11 · answered by Dana Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋