and now she wanted a divorce, she said she wanted divorced before me and this guy at work "WHO HAS 2 kids and a WIFE" are just friends. AND i saw emails saying he was falling in love with her and stuff. yet she said she just blew that off and keep talking to him as friends. what am i suppost to think?
2007-08-17 03:37:23 · 19 answers · asked by cdevido@verizon.net 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OKay she never went out on a date with him b/c she was alway's home after work, I DID CALL HIM AND ASKED WHAT THE HECK IS GOING ON? He just keep saying sorry sorry, his wife is suppost to be physchio, my wife cries everytime i bring up how many times she called him, WE WERE ON VACATION AND SHE TALKED TO HIM almost every day........... SHOULD I TELL HIS WIFE??? my wife said she'll kill me, WE LIVE at least 1 hr. away from this guy and his wife, she know's his myspace password, and stuff as we'll. she left the screen up one day and i look at her messages from myspace and it said he tears up and cries when he thinks of her. that was almost a month ago but she continued to talk to him for 5-10 min. a day. at work, she told me he didn't want to call me so his wife wouldn't find out, DUHHHH it doesn't matter who called who, it comes up on the monthly bill........ i am so stressed,,, all i do is look at the cell phone bill......what should i do? this board is great. thanks
2007-08-17 04:10:58 · update #1
i meant to say HIS WIFE WILL KILL MY WIFE
2007-08-17 04:13:18 · update #2
you're supposed to think "wow, my wife wants a divorce"...then go from there. Talkin to a guy 56 times in a month is not agood sign...your wife asking for divorce is an even bigger sign
2007-08-17 03:45:32 · answer #1 · answered by jmd72inva 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are supposed to think that your wife is and was unhappy long before this guy. Contrary to what most people believe, your spouse doesn't leave you for someone else...chances are; there were major problems long before someone else came along. If there hadn't of been problems, then your spouse would of had the strength to say no when temptation came knocking.
If any of you don't believe that then may I just say, "TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS AND YOUR LIFE, AND ALL YOUR PROBLEMS WON'T ALWAYS BE BECAUSE OF SOMEONE ELSE!".
Our society, is so quick to blame others that we're all running around like a bunch of idiots thinking we can do no wrong...all the while perpetuating the cycle of hurt, hate and negativity.
2007-08-17 11:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on the maturity level of your wife, she should have stopped this behavior before it even began. we trust our wives to do the right thing, even if 'the other person' wants to initiate something. she should have said, i'm happily married and i don't want to jeopardize my marriage - in which now she has... Woman are liers and some do it so often, they are good at it. This can be taken as lesson and 'communicate' about it so that it won't happen in the future, but if she continues doing it, she doesn't respect you nor does she have any intentions on making it work
2007-08-17 10:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by Me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not many people in my opinion, who are married and cheating and not only cheating on their husband but with someone else's husband, will tell the truth about it. They are morally bankrupt. I am sorry this happened to you. Do what you can to save yourself, keep your self esteem in check and realize that the longer you stay in this type of a situation the more damage will be done to you and your Psyche leaving you with permanent scars for you to deal with. Is it worth it? No. You are worth much more than that....RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-08-17 11:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, She is attracted to this other guy trying to denie it to you. Yes, she wants a divorce, If you really love her and want to stay it is time to evaluate yourself and see if there is something you are doing wrong or maybe your doing eveything right but out of routine. Found out what she really likes a man to do to her and do it suprise her, try and win her over by impressing her, like when you first meet her. Good Luck!
2007-08-17 10:51:14 · answer #5 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yah. Just friends. I am not violating any yahoo rules by saying anything about busting him in the head. In no way am I suggesting violent recourse. Not in the least.
2007-08-17 10:46:09 · answer #6 · answered by csiders30 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the fact that she wants a divorce is worse than the possible affair in my oppinion. she really wants to not be with you and that is the real issue here. give her the divorce that way you don't have to stress yourself with what she is up to with this married man.
2007-08-17 10:52:21 · answer #7 · answered by Victoria J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i found out my hubby was doing the same thing last month. if i were married and a friend of mine told me that they were falling for me, i would cut everything off immediately. i think you already know what is going on between them.
2007-08-17 10:57:57 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are supposed to think your wife thinks you are an idiot if she thinks you can believe this crap. Keep those phone and email records, they might come in handy.
2007-08-17 10:55:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at the larger picture here are there aother reasons you are not considering that she would wnat a divorce? Have you truely listened to her complaints and change dany of them?
2007-08-17 10:46:04 · answer #10 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋