My boyfriends soon 2 be ex-wife is pregnant by her boyfriend?

Question

She left him and their kids for her current boyfriend about a year and a half ago. I've been seeing him for about 9 months. My boyfriend wants full custody of his kids (he has physical custody now). She rarely calls the kids and only sees them 4 days a month. The divorce has been dragging cause she says she wants custody of the kids, but she doesn't involve herself in their lives. We think it's so she doesn't have to pay child support, which she doesn't pay anyway. Their court date is in like a month from now. She recently told my boyfriend that she's pregnant by her live-in boyfriend and has no intention of getting married to him. I don't live with my boyfriend cause we don't want to do anything that may hinder his chances of getting full custody.

How will her being pregnant and "living with her boyfriend" (which she denied under oath) while they're still married affect his custody case?

When my bf filed for the divorce it was on the grounds of substance abuse.
All the calls and visits to the children she made have been documented. And for the record, my boyfriend and I don't have a "physical" relationship....that's how important this is to him! And to me.

Answer 1

You might have another problem. Many states will not grant a divorce when the woman is pregnant. Even if the baby is not the husband's, they will wait for its birth and do a DNA test before granting the divorce. If the substance abuse can be proven, it's obvious your man deserves custody, but with her being pregnant now, he needs to have this conversation with his attorney.

Answer 2

A woman I know left her husband to shack up with a guy and got pregnant before the divorce....THEY ASSUMED THE CHILD IS THE HUSBANDS! The custody case was postponed until the woman gave birth and a paternity test could be done even though she claimed all along the baby was not her husband's. She got all her kids, even though she does not work and her lover is an ex-con. With all the ended marriages I have seen, the courts lean toward the mother getting custody even if she is a piece of crap. The few fathers I have seen win at this, paid through the nose for a lawyer. I know kids are not property, however, the saying "possession is 9/10th of the law" seems to hold a ring to it when it comes to custody as well. The longer the father can keep the kids in the home prior to the divorce, the better his chances for getting custody. It's not a for sure thing. Sometimes judges have a chip on their shoulder and don't rule in favor of justice. Get to know what kind of judge you have, past rulings their marital satus, etc. You may want to change judges if the one you have has a track record of ruling one way or has a bitterness about certain cases. Your lawyer will know. Kind of like, would you want to go in front of a judge for DWI if you knew his daughter was killed by a drunk driver?

Answer 3

It depends on the judge. Some look at it differently than others. It surely won't help her case, but it may not hurt it as bad as it should either. I think her actions towards her children speaks louder than her current relationship anyway. Living with a guy and having his baby are one thing, but if she is only seeing the kids 4 days out of 30 (31), that says a lot about how much she really wants them in her life.

Answer 4

They really do not base custody on morals like that, more based on safe stable home, nobody doing drugs having adequate space, room for the child, etc. Do not sling mud, it does not work. Look at the facts. It is better for *YOU* not to shack up with a married man. You should not even be involved with him until he is really divorced.

PS Baby-mama might want a DNA test on that baby when it is born...HMMMMM?

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Unfortunatly, our justice system turns a blind eye toward adultry. There probably will be no affect, but he should get a temporary order of child support until the divorce becomes final.

Answer 7

American law is very liberal when it comes to living arrangements i don't believe it well matter .the kids should have a say in this talk with them then be the grown up and do the right thing.o by the why your dating a married man .throwing stones because she got knocked up is childish and in your case crazy .people get pregnant all the time when they don't want to be .it could happen to you .she left her husband your having sex with HER husband .enough said .

Answer 8

Her being pregnant by another man will have no affect on the custody case. Just as you being a whore for a married man won't have any affect on the divorce.

Answer 9

It could go either way, you just never know what type of mood the juge will be in on the day of court! Sounds like he's got good changes of getting them though but you never know! They might have nitty gritty on him that you don't know about.

Answer 10

All the things she does or doesn't do should be taken in to acount. He should try and get as much proof as he can, and you should continue to stay in the back ground so as not to ruin things for him.