Would you take your wife to your 20 years High School reunion?

Question

My husband wants to go by himself to his 20 years High School reunion; I'm not sure if it is because he is looking forward seeing his "Old flame/s" or because I'm pregnant (and not as "Good looking" as I was a year ago when he told me he would take me to show me off with his friends, I'm 12 years younger!) or because he is really thinking that I would get bored (I don't know nobody)? What do you think guys? - Specially you males?

Answer 1

i would be wicked mad. tell him how you feel

Answer 2

I actually just went to my 20 year reunion. Now there were a few people that were there that had come out and one showed up with his husband. I could tell during one conversation with a girl she was uncertain of how I was going to react when she brought it up. She mentioned that she had just gotten out of a long relationship and, (rather uncomfortably) said that she still hadn't found Ms. Right yet to which I replied that someday we will find Mrs. Right instead of Mrs. Right Now. After that the conversation really flowed and we had a really great discussion. You are what you are. If they have a problem with you being gay, move on and don't lose any sleep over it. When you go, bring your partner, introduce them as such and don't worry about it. I am sure you will find out that your class has grown up and matured and really doesn't care if you are gay or not, it really doesn't change you as a person. Have a great time! ~Ò¿Ó~

Answer 3

I guess after reading this and seeing some my close friends, I am sorry to say that I am 1 of the lucky 1's.My hubby and I have been thru ALOTT and never take life for granted anymore, tell him you want to go, and if he still acts like he doesn't want you to, then you have evry right to be upset. I would already be upset at the thought of him not expecting you to go in the 1st place. sounds fishy to me. My hubby doesn't like to do much at all without me and even regrets if we cannot go shopping at the grocery store together. He even dresses up decent when we go and pretends we are on a date while we are there. Makes it a whole lotta fun and i love every minute, It is the small things that count and remeber, Communication is the key !
He should Take you and Be proud of what he has and Want to Show you Off, whenever he can- find every excuse for you to go and if he does not - well that would NOT be a good thing in my book.

Answer 4

I don't know if this is the situation in your husband's case but many people have difficulty mixing their social groups. He may feel that he was a different person in high-school and that he'll revert, somewhat, to his old behaviours. It's possible that he doesn't feel comfortable with you seeing him like that. He might be embarrassed of his old friends.

If you want to go (possibly just out of curiosity as to why he doesn't want you to) and he insists that it's only because he doesn't want you to be bored then let him know that you can keep yourself amused (bring a book or something else to do, to assure him). If he changes his tactics at this point, let him know that he can tell you the real reason but don't press for it right then, leave him to think about it. If he won't tell you what it is then go with him, you'll probably be able to figure it out once you're there.

Answer 5

Ohhh a multiple chose answer so fun Now lets see...
a) He doesn't want me to go with him because I'm pregnant....

ehmmm you have a miracle growing inside .You are glowing and you are a sexy mamma.. No i dont think its that one.

B)You are 12 years younger than him...

Was that an issue before? no... He is lucky to have a young wife . not that one either next....

c)He wants to see his old flames???

Now that sounds like something let think.... Maybe he wants to remember old times and maybe you would be upset at some of the actions of his past.... Or maybe there is someone he would like to talk to and if your there he would not be able to talk to that person . Ya this answer is probably the right answer .He doesnt want you there cause there is a chick that he wants to see. But listen if hes going to cheat there is nothing you can do to stop it. If you trust him and you feel fine with him leaving you behind so be it .But if you want to go and hes saying "No" i'd have a problem with that .
Dont let him make you feel bad.You are a mom to be you are young you've got everything going for you .I wish you luck

Answer 6

Wow, he likes living on the edge, doesnt he? I mean, if my husband would have pulled some retarded stunt like that when I was preggers he would have known that a large heavy object would have been tossed in his general direction. No matter WHAT his reasoning, I'd lay down the law and tell him you're going or he isn't. Not cool to leave your pregnant wifey at home for reunion where people want to see where you are in life now. I wouldnt care what his reason was.

Answer 7

As a wife. Why would you want to go and hang out with a bunch of people that you don't know that are going to be talking about things you don't know. I personally would be bored out of my mind. And lets get real about the old flames. The key word there is old. He married you didn't he he didn't marry his old flames. Let him go and have a good time with your blessings. He will get to act like a kid for a night probably something you wouldn't want to see anyhow because it could get embarrassing for him. You take the night to pamper yourself. Set something up with your girlfriends go for a pedicure or spa treatment or something.

Answer 8

Other than the excuse "you'd be bored", ask him why he REALLY doesn't want you to go. Even if he does want to see "old flames", he married YOU and YOU are carrying HIS child.

So stand up and be proud of yourself and your husband, dress as nicely as you can, fix your hair, nails, the whole nine yards and enjoy the evening. You'd be surprised at what you can learn about your hubby in his juvenile days that he never told you.

Have a great evening, maybe suggest dinner afterwards. Good luck!

Answer 9

It could be all of those things, or none of those things. I know when I was pregnant, my husband didn't want to take me anywhere. After confronting him about it, he told me it was because he wanted me to rest as much as I could because my ankles use to swell tremendously, and I had horrible back pain, so I complained a lot :). And I know it is easy to be insecure when you get rejected about something. But honey, if your man can get someone 12 years younger, he should be showing it off! If it is important to you to make an appearance as his wife, let him know. Have a heart to heart. If he thinks its important to you, it should be important to him. Personal tip from me to you - pregnant women are beautiful! Dress up and show it off! You will be glad you did!

Answer 10

Not cool. On all counts. You are his wife and he should take you be proud to show you off to his friends. So what if you are pregnant. That just makes you even more beautiful.

That just make me mad. I am sorry that you are being treated that way. I Know you wanted answers from the guys, but I Just had to say something to you.

Answer 11

Honestly, I felt the same... but unless you hang out with his high school friends or know them, I wouldn't go.
You would just sit there with no one really to talk to and be bored silly... Your hubby would have a better time and not have to worry about introducing you to people... oh we were in science together...we played soccer together... remember the time we did this... and they laugh their head off and you stand there and smile... feeling silly... I've been there.
You know, especially since you're pregnant, wouldn't want to stand around all night...
Let your hubby go... stay home with a pint of Haag n Daaz and relax... you're pregnant with HIS child... it's not about ex-girlfriends... he's actually thinking about your feelings and making sure you won't be bored.(cause you seriously will be honey...)