I love him. but he is very cruel to me.
2007-08-17 03:41:42 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wait for him to take a long, hot bath, toss the hair dryer into the tub with him. After the body stops twitching, call 911 and cry convincingly.
2007-08-17 03:47:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anne Jovie 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
You don't love him. You are in love with the idea of the man he could be if he wanted to be. (and he has you fooled into believing he would be that man if you were only worthy - which is a lie. He isn't the way he is because of you and he won't change because of you either) You don't actually love him. You just hang around hoping he will change and love you and respect you. That he's going to wake up one day and realize how lucky he is to have you and treat the way he should.
It will never happen. He's not a nice guy and he doesn't love you. he sees you as a means to an end. he has a need and you fulfill that need. Nothing more.
If you leave him and he shows emotion, it's not because he loves you and doesn't want you to go. It's because he lost his control over. If he cries, it's a manipulation on his part to get you back under his thumb, and if he reacts violently, it's to scare you back under his thumb. If he acts indifferent, it's because he doesn't care.
2007-08-17 03:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. I hope you weren't abused growing up, because this is not something you or any of us should tolerate. You accidentally spilled your drink, this should never set someone off...it was an accident. You boyfriend needs to get help, because he has anger issues and is abusive. You should also get help because you're either drawn to this kind of person because of past abuse of you have self-esteem problems or something (I'm not a profession so I don't know). If you don't want to just leave him, which is not a bad option, you should consider looking into couples therapy or something along those lines. Best wishes, and please be safe.
2016-05-20 21:32:30 · answer #3 · answered by mariana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll give you a tip a friend gave me a long time ago...It works for me. He said: "Pay attention to the words and eliminate everything before the word BUT."
SO...Of you analyze your own words: "I love him, BUT he's very cruel to me...." Eliminate everything before the word BUT.
What is left? The answer is : "He's very cruel to me".
Now...Ask yourself...WHY do I want to be with someone who is cruel to me? What do Ï get out of it ? What is the good side to this? Am I being benefited or just the opposite?
I think you can see things better now. You may love him, but he doesn't love you. He may SAY he loves you; but actions speak louder than words....Think about this. People don't change unless they really WANT to.
Good luck...TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. You are the most important person in your own life, and you should make choices that bring you happiness and peace- not stress.
2007-08-17 04:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him real good and drunk, until he passes out. Then tie him real good to the bed posts and leave him there until he wakes up. When he wakes up and starts yelling, rip his left nipple off with a pair of pliers. If he does not shut up, tear the other one off! Then, take a switch and whip the hell out of him with it, I mean tear his butt up. Then you can just ask him how he likes it right before you pour a bottle of rubbing alcohol on all his open wounds. He will scream and cry like a little girl, then go get a baseball bat or hammer and bust his knees so he can not get up in your face again for a long, long time. Then call his mother to come get the sorry piece of trash she raised because he needed some place else to live. Then leave him.
I hate cruel guys that hurt women, don't know if you can tell.
2007-08-17 04:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not deal with him, you leave and get over him, yes it will hurt like nothing else, but time will heal you. The more you allow it the worse it will get, it will not get better.
Also when you leave you will see a whole different person, do not fall for it, it is just to lure you back with him and his misery, ever heard the saying "misery loves company" ?
If you ever go back, the abuse just gets worse.
He is obviously very insecure and needs you to abuse to make himself feel better
Learn from the mistakes you made with him/knowing him and find someone that will treat you like you should be. Because there are literally a million good guys that get passed over daily.
I admire your for reaching out and asking, so many women continue to be abused.
Good luck to you.
2007-08-17 03:53:33 · answer #6 · answered by Doogle Magoogle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R U SERIOUS??? You turn around, you run, and you never look back. You will be miserable forever if you do not. He will hurt you mentally, physically, financially. The list goes on and on. Get a self help book like Co-dependant no more or something and read it. Highlight the things that sound like your situation and read it over and over. If all else fails, find another guy to get you through it, but get the hell away from the abuser before he ruins you forever.
2007-08-17 03:48:55 · answer #7 · answered by catsaver001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's the real question I think: Why do I love an abusive boyfriend?
Figure that one out and I suspect a lot of things in your life will fall into place.
2007-08-17 03:52:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't LOVE YOU back than leave him
If he loves you but is naturally cruel (to everyone else as well) than have him see a psychologist/therapist and ask him to take some Anger management classes.
But if he's only cruel to you he may have a reason.. ask him why and go to therapy together.
If he refuses therapy/classes and continues on his way than LEAVE him.
2007-08-17 04:02:12 · answer #9 · answered by thepenpal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him. I have been there for four years I would tell myself he loves me it will get better he will change. And I also would tell him I was sorry for what I did and I did nothing he just like to hurt me. I love him so much but he never changed I left him a year ago. I am saying you need to leave you can tell yourself that it will get better, he loves you, he will change. But it will never happen. He might really love you but he will still hurt you. I hope I helped you. Good luck
2007-08-17 03:51:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw. honey.
if you are being brutally hurt, i say you should probably leave him and call the cops or somthing. I understand that you love him but you also should be aware of you own health. If its only a boyfriend, imagine what he could possibly do to you when you are married. Please do it for the best and call authority because this is very dangerous.
Good Luck and I'm Sorry : )
2007-08-17 03:48:28 · answer #11 · answered by shhweet candy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋