There is a old saying, "the new eventually wears off and the old shines through" what is your perception of this saying?
Do men who cheat and leave a good wife after years of marriage ever look back and have regrets/ feel guilty?
2007-08-17 03:24:59 · 14 answers · asked by texas_redlips 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People always have regrets, but the regrets would depend on the individual situation. In some men's case they would never think twice about having cheated and left a good woman. Some men would regret their actions.
The saying means: Our true character will eventually shine through while the fakey cover up behavior will fade away as time passes and we get to reallly know people.
2007-08-17 03:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by ruthie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what your talking about. Marriage, at first every thing is Love you honey bunny wunny lots of sexy lots of cuddling on the couch. After about a month its love ya, sex once a week or month no cuddling lots of fighting you know. It is not new any more you go back to the same person you were before you got married, or worse ! Marriage in real life is nothing like it is in the movies, maybe at first but after a while it gets old and it is what it is. I got a new truck, I would clean it every day for the first month the first stain in the carpet and its not a new truck any more I just toss the trash in the floor until I have time to clean it out . On that last question I don't know I am a woman and have never cheated but I would think if he had a good wife then and he did that to her he would at least feel guilt or shame. I would hope if he was human he would feel something.
2007-08-17 03:50:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My perception of the line is that no matter what superficial changes may have been made, it's still the same at the core. When it's talking about people, it means that a leopard doesnt change it's spots, even if it's covered in mud.
As for the cheater question, I'm sure some do, and some don't, all depends on their particular circumstances. The better question is who cares what a cheater regrets. They get what they get.
2007-08-17 03:36:25 · answer #3 · answered by holly should but wont 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you know when you have something that is old, like a chair maybe, and you put a fresh coat of paint on it and it looks shiny and brand new? Eventually the new paint wears off and you can see the "old" thing again. That's kinda what it's like when you meet someone new. They try to act all perfect and "shiny" to attract you and then when they become more and more comfortable they drop the facade and let their true self shine through and you see what's really underneath.....just like that old chair when the "new" wears off.......that's what I think that saying means....
Now, for the second question.....yes, sometimes I think they do look back with regrets.
2007-08-17 03:39:52 · answer #4 · answered by Tallulah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's like dishes, you silly! Why do you think women buy new dishes every few years. New is exciting it lights up the room, old is just that old and we've looked at it a hunderd times, old can't be new unless you paint it or put a ribbon on it, dress it up somehow. Relationships are different and they can be dressed up with effort! If a person is talking to a person about another person then it is to make them feel better about getting on with their life after a break up or divorce.
It's like "you have to get rid of the old to make room for the new"... You can't replace something you already have!!!!
Therefore I would not regrete new dishes but I might a new man... material things are much different then human being some might regrete and others might not it all depends ont he situation!
2007-08-17 03:36:32 · answer #5 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"The new eventually wears off and the old shines through" generally means that when a relationship starts to mature, you both stop working so hard to impress eachother and go back to your normal habits (both good and bad ones).
As far as the second question, I wouldn't know. I've never cheated and don't see myself ever doing it in the future. I don't think very highly of people who do, no matter what their bullcrap excuses are.
2007-08-17 03:35:16 · answer #6 · answered by Ritz Grimarren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see that attire. I see a wonderful, talented, funny man. I love ya just the way you are, ((((((((((Jack)))))))))). No religion, no disease can change that. And, to be honest, I don't give a rat's asss what any religion has to say about HIV - or homosexuality. So, I can't really say how it's been influenced by it. Overall, religion continues to be popular in a day and age when humanity should be past such archaic thinking because people love to have an excuse to judge others - at least, this applies to the Abrahamic religions. And, I say "screw 'em".
2016-05-20 21:29:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You can polish old shoes, until they look new. But sooner or later they will start to look old again. Same goes for ppl, if you have a cheater, who cleans up his act for a while, the old patterns usually return with time.
2. I hope to never find out, i love my wife and wouldnt want that kind of a regret hanging over my head.
2007-08-17 03:43:00 · answer #8 · answered by Qyllix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i believe it means is that...the new eventually wears off...although it may look like a new situation or partner we often find that over time we experience the same issues over and over again. So when the surface differences fade away what shines through is the similarities.
Meaning we tend to find ourselves partnering up with the same types of people, or find ourselves in the same situations over and over again.
2007-08-17 03:36:57 · answer #9 · answered by aurora_diem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asked two questions that have nothing to do with each other. Nothing stays new forever, that's the meaning of that line. To answer your 2nd question, some do, some don't.
2007-08-17 03:29:59 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋