He keeps her sms in his mobile n talks about her always. He's open to me n doesn't keep secrets but can I trust him so much in this situation? I know he's not the type to flirt or have an affair.
2007-08-17 03:35:44 · 28 answers · asked by candie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just tell him your glad he has a friend , although at times he seems disrespectful to you with some of the situations....take the nice route so he cant turn it around on you....
2007-08-17 03:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by amayseng 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You contradict yourself all over your question. You say you know he is not the type to flirt or have an affair yet you are jealous of his friendship, He is honest with you but you think you shouldn't trust him. Where in the rule book (by the way I have never gotten my copy) does it say men can not have woman friends and woman can not have male friends. I personally as a woman only have male friends. I find woman to be to insecure with themselves and their relationships and it is always so much drama. You have a husband that is honest and open with you he has a female colleague as a friend. Be a good wife and invite her into your home for dinner who knows you may end of liking her also. I will tell you this if you keep doubting your husband and playing the jealousy card you will push him away faster than anything else and it will be your fault.
2007-08-21 01:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, I don't know if you should be jealous [but it's natural and smart to be concerned]
Is he neglecting your needs? Does he put her before you? Is it truly excessive communication? [or just more than you are comfortable with?] If you answered yes, then no wonder your jealous. If you answered no then you should let him know how insecure their relationship makes you feel.
I have male friends at work but I don't call to them and it would be rare to talk with them outside of work... are his conversations personal or does it truly dire to work and only focused on their work?
If he is a good husband [and it's nothing] then he'll give you the respect you deserve and realize it's not worth hurting you or the insecurities it feeds.
Although, he may see it as totally innocent / harmless... an emotional affair can be just as intimate and satisfying as a physical one. ( Is he starving at home in this area and meeting a need he is missing with you...start talking or go to counseling now.)
You may want to ask him how he would feel if you developed a close friendship with the opposite sex?
Hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck!
2007-08-17 04:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by Sorry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being open and doesnt keep you in the dark is not the reason for you not to worry about their intimate affair. What on earth should your husband entertaining and keeping her smses. You should beware of any weird changes in your husband. Tell him that you are feeling jealous even he is open to you. Ask him how would he feels if you did the same thing to him.
2007-08-20 20:18:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i didn't think my hubby was the type to flirt or have an affair either. he didn't have a sexual affair, but he talked to another woman ALL the time, at least 5 times a day, every day, for over 4 months. that isn't friends, that's a relationship. i would watch him very closely.
2007-08-17 04:00:08 · answer #5 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be jealous too.Keep an eye on it and tell him that it makes you feel jealous and that you don't like feeling that way. also ask him how he would feel if you had a male freind that you where close to and talked to all the time.Bottom line if this bothers you he should back off.I had a female freind and it bothered my wife ,at first i thought she was being silly but then i put myself in her shoes and realized that she is more important than any freindship.Now i have absolutely no contact with my freind at all.
2007-08-17 04:16:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is an involuntary emotion, you are or not. The question is should be concerned. It appears you don't think he is messing around or going down an innocent road to messing around. I would be a little concerned and keep an eye on the situation.
2007-08-17 03:56:05 · answer #7 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ha my hubby is a teacher dominated buy females, I have huge issues with a few of the he is close to and seems to treat the same as your hubby treats this woman...
Honey there aint no such thing as not the type to have an affair
2007-08-22 18:34:49 · answer #8 · answered by auscountess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your last words.... I know he's not the type to flirt or have an affair-then why ask, you already know... besides that there is no room for jealousy in a realtionship or marraige it just causes cahos and more problems...
2007-08-17 04:07:12 · answer #9 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe.. u just have to watch out..
here's a story, my hubby used to working in another state. I took the kids to visit him . a lady colleague called him all the time,about 7 times per day.. it just gets to my nerve. Then I told him, u want to come back or u want to stay her... well , he makes clear to me,, He wants to come back home with us..and he quite job and move back with us..
so my point is.. just becareful... and there a a lot of crazy lady may go after ur hubby...I hope it may help u for ur situation..
good luck!!!!
2007-08-17 04:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by back2future 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not at all, i mean maybe they are just friends, i hang out with girls and my girlfriend doesn't trip, i mean sometimes you need advice from a woman's point of view, which he's probably getting from her. NO you shouldn't be jealous at all i don't think he's cheating on you, but if he is don't be jealous, you're his wife she's just on the sideline, she can't compare to you, i mean hello he gave you his last name, if he's cheating don't be at all jealous, don't give her that power over you
2007-08-17 03:45:12 · answer #11 · answered by Rashee W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋