Marriage & Divorce - 12 August 2007

In the United States, an immigrant may eventually become a citizen by marrying a US citizen. In our society - despite the number of unhappy marriages and divorces - marriage still symbolizes a most loving commitment. I question the connection between citizenship and marriage. In my experience, the danger of marrying an immigrant is that the motivation may primarily be citizenship. This danger is so great that the concept of a loving committed relationship is further dilluted. What are your thoughts?

2007-08-12 03:51:55 · 7 answers · asked by ? 2

2007-08-12 03:45:42 · 7 answers · asked by anonymous_01 1

I've got a lot to worry about recently and it's taking a toll on my sex life, my husband feels like I don't "want" him anymore but I've been sick and I have a lot going on, I need some advice, how do i let my husband know i'm still interested in sex, just not right now (but without having him feel like I don't want him around?)

2007-08-12 03:44:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

She left me last yr for a job overseas. I am raising my 1 yr old son. She said she will only be in overseas for a yr. She changed when i got into trouble with business. Now she says i did nt tell her everything abt my business and i hv nt truthfull to her. Well, i never in the 1st place talk abt work to her even before when we were dating...I done get tht. Anyway,she just left without saying anything and she says will be back. If it was nt bcos of my son, she wont come back. She says she has lost her love towards me. I dnt get that. How can u lose yr love just bcos i got screwed in business . My question is how can a woman just loose her love towards her husband of 1 yr of marraige. Does nt make sense. I love her like crazy and she says she lost the spark...its only one yr..i cant stop thinking tht she might be going out with another guy and tht thought is KILLING ME....i get too deppresed thinking abt tht every night. I just dont knw wht to do. My son is my only consolation.Pls advise

2007-08-12 03:42:56 · 28 answers · asked by Ram 1

I ask myself this a lot since my wife and I just fight all the time. Where's our common interests...did getting married and all the stuff that comes with it just drain the quality out of it?

Now we could split, but we've given it 4 years, she won't go counselling and has taken her ring off, plus she's quit her job and is going back to her home country for a while. It's a shame lawyers have to be the 3rd person in our relationship!! I just think now...was it all worth it?

2007-08-12 03:37:55 · 25 answers · asked by jonoxk 3

2007-08-12 03:35:23 · 6 answers · asked by Chattie Evangelista 1

I have been married for 13 years. My husband had an affair 2 years ago and begged me to stay, swearing it would never happen again. about 6 months ago, I left a recorder in his truck and found out he flirts every day! yesterday he made a comment to his friend about a young girl that he would like to get her hair in his hands and "You know" Is this kind of talk normal for a married man? Does it mean he would cross the line? I am not a flirt and I dont understand this kind of behavoir.

2007-08-12 03:20:21 · 12 answers · asked by dana t 1

okay.. we were suppose to move into a flat instead of the house that were in... now u all told me to leave him, but i just dont think i can.. we've been together 4 3 years..well now this other place we wantd we cant get because of him... he went to the bathroom in their house and i guess he made a big mess, thats what i was told.... so now we gotta be out by the 1st.. my parents want me to move back home and pay them 50$ a week and save up my money for my own place??? what to do? and no i really am not too happy in our relatinship???

2007-08-12 03:17:13 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

We've been married three years and I love him but it's hard sometimes. I work a full time and a part time job, plus I do almost 100% of the housework (he does his own laundry), I clean the pool, do the yard work and take care of the pets and all the finances and other household business. I try to talk to him about it but he gets mad and says I'm a nag. What am I doing wrong. I know that women agree with me but I am interested in hearing from husbands what they think

2007-08-12 02:38:48 · 16 answers · asked by susan 2

My wife joined a new company and the new colleagues organised nights out on Fridays. The group consists of both guys and gals which I know little about. She will return home way past midnights. Is this a reasonable outing to do so every friday?

2007-08-12 02:35:30 · 21 answers · asked by David 1

Question: Am I over reacting or what is your opinion? I am 65 and my bride of 14 days is 24. In no ways is it an arranged marriage or other reason. She was friends with and had visited with college friends (she is Chinese and the friends are also Chinese) prior to the marraige. She has talked to them since the marriage and informed them that she had gotten married. Last night, a group of them (2 males and 1 female, a couple and a single male) called at about midnight after we had gone to bed. Just to talk. Yes, they did say to tell me Hi. All conversation is held in Chinese which I do not speak. After pleasantries, the non attached male friend asked for my wife to visit them about 500 miles away. She declined because of drivers license and finances and marriage. The first conversation lasted about 20 minutes, interrupted by call waiting on their end and the second call about 30 minutes. (continued)

2007-08-12 02:35:09 · 18 answers · asked by pocbr 3

you were bi leaning toward gay but didn't want your family to know. you found a guy to marry who would put up with you but you never told him the reason you didn't want sex was because you liked ladies better. You grudgingly gave in once a week because that's what wives are supposed to do. when he finally says enough is enough and leaves you - do you put the screws to him for whatever you can get?

2007-08-12 02:31:25 · 6 answers · asked by oldsoftee2001 6

i was in an abusive marriage. my wife was verbally abusive, slapped me, threw things at me, grabbed me by the throat one time. however in between we were great in bed, she could love me like there was no tomorrow one minute, tell me "i was the love of her life and she'd be devastated if she ever lost me". blah, blah, blah. then after a big fight, left me, already bought a new house within 3 months of leaving, haven't contacted me, is filing all kinds of nasty things about me in court. so why am i having a hard time letting go of an abusive marriage? i did love her to death because she could love me so much in the moment but then she could also call me every name in the book if i didn't do exactly what she wanted me to do. maybe i'm just lonely. maybe not. i tried dating just for some companionship but it didn't seem to work. why do i still miss her? i shouldn't.

2007-08-12 02:14:37 · 9 answers · asked by survivor 1

she goes mad every time i come home drunk with a hooker! i tried to explain i only sleep about when i am drunk but she insists that i stop it. i dont want to leave her as she does all my laundry and cooks for me. I feel she needs to chill out.

what would you do??

2007-08-12 02:11:24 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a 25 year old Married man. My wife is 34 I met my Wife when I was like 18 and we fell in love. She was my first and only everything, girlfriend, kiss, sexual partner.. There has never been anyone else. My wife has had other sexual partners, she says about 11 . My wife enoys sex greatly and tells me what she likes and wants. When we first started having sex, i was able to "go" more than once but after a few months it started declining. My wife recently approached me and said she would love it if I could "go" more than once for her because its just not enough. We have had disussions about her previous partners and it was brought up that they could go multiple times. My question is, is there anythign I can do to go more than once, ive tried everything and I just cant seem to get it up and going again. Are there any married women who can let me know what they did to help?

2007-08-12 02:09:25 · 9 answers · asked by Ian O 1

hercules, Hercules, HERCULEEEES!

Thats right....

2007-08-12 02:06:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm happily married, but have recently been watching Babecast/Babestation etc on Sky when my wife is out.

I get a real kick out of texting into the shows and hearing the girls read out and respond to my text. A couple of times the girl reading the text has told me to call her, so I have done and really enjoyed it, but afterwards have felt a little guilty.

Is this cheating on my wife and should I stop it?

2007-08-12 02:01:20 · 30 answers · asked by Charles T 1

married for 16 years :

My wife and I have opened up sexually to one another over the past three years, I have found out her fantasies and desires and likewise she now knows mine, all of witch I am cool with. However, it now feels like she uses these fantasies and desires only as a tool to gain financial reword or to get something that she wants. The last thing being a house in Crete.

Any advice or anyone in the same position.

2007-08-12 01:49:44 · 10 answers · asked by secretdragons 1

she is constantly on at me...... get a job, clean up, stop drinking in the morning, flush the toilet, dont poo on the floor etc etc etc

I have only been out of work for 6 years and occasionally make a half assed atempt to get a job, i also love the free money from the govenment so i can go to the pub.

what should i do to chill her out??

2007-08-12 01:46:40 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

mamma has come 2 know abt. father's 4 yrs. extra marital affair.mamma & papa r not talking 2 each other & papa is iin a state of depression.Pls.help me in bringing them close to each other.

2007-08-12 01:35:00 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife is talking to a person she met on-line. She has to call him several times a day, e-mail and chat everynight, call him before she goes to bed, and even has been on the web cam with. Am I wrong to feel that she is cheating?

2007-08-12 01:34:06 · 18 answers · asked by Eugene M 1

2007-08-12 00:44:53 · 9 answers · asked by S 1

She's waiting for another love.
She's waiting for another love.

She's been waiting for another love,
Someone that she can show into her heart.
And when she finally finds a stronger love,
Your whole world's gonna fall apart.

Chorus

You've been abusing her for far too long;
Think you're a king and she's your pawn.
Get ready now, 'cause pretty soon
She'll be gone and you'll be on your own.

Chorus

I see the hunger burning in her eye;
Any fool could see there's something wrong.
You keep pretending not to care,
But I will hear you sing a different song.

Chorus

Waiting for another lover,
Hoping for the time that she'll find another...

2007-08-12 00:36:42 · 9 answers · asked by duanehofner 3

i am supposed to be married to a very close knitted family with very strong values, something which i have been wishing for since young. yet, i found my in-laws unbearable, whatever "good" gestures they try on me seem to be very imposing and Im extremely sensitive to their presence in my life. My husband is sandwiched & he has been trying unsuccessfully to reconcile any misunderstanding. I cannot stand the sight or thought of them. i told him i wanted absolutely no contact. Am i normal? Am i the unreasonable one? what can i do to like & to accept them? oh, i feel so mean and wicked!

2007-08-12 00:30:06 · 8 answers · asked by noelle12345 1