In the United States, an immigrant may eventually become a citizen by marrying a US citizen. In our society - despite the number of unhappy marriages and divorces - marriage still symbolizes a most loving commitment. I question the connection between citizenship and marriage. In my experience, the danger of marrying an immigrant is that the motivation may primarily be citizenship. This danger is so great that the concept of a loving committed relationship is further dilluted. What are your thoughts?
2007-08-12 03:51:55 · 7 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Easy and lousy way to gain citizenship,but then if citizenship is all your concerned about,then its a very easy way to do it. Marriage itself never lasts in these situations but what the hell, you become a US citizen, able to move on, get a divorce andfind someone else. What a great country we have!
2007-08-12 04:03:57 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't agree more. However, our immigration system is designed to "reunite" families. This was not the case prior to the 1960s. Unfortunately too many people take advantage of the easy path to a green card and to citizenship by marrying a US citizen either by conning them into it, or paying them for it. That being said there are also many people out there who marry their USC because they truly love them and want to make a life with them here in the US. Should gaining citizenship be that easy? NO! But that is the way it is - Congress should really consider that when drafting any new legislation.
2007-08-12 11:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's true that the whole marriage for a green card thing is terrible. I don't like the idea of people abusing it to stay in the country. However, there are people who really fall in love, want to get married, and want to stay together. My husband is a Canadian. And, actually, just as we began dating (at age 19), he had already had a plan in place to go back to Canada when his visa under his parents expired when he turned 21. He really misses Canada. But, he fell in love with me. He said we could go to Canada together, but I'm from Miami, FL and haven't even seen snow. I don't think I could have lived in a frozen tundra like that. So, when we knew we all we wanted was to be together, we got married and he's a permanent resident and probably going to get his citizenship in a few year (duel citizenship, he says he'd die before giving up his Canadian one!).
As a matter of fact, we may end up moving to Canada in a few years. Nothing really good is going on here anyway. So, when I get there, I'll be at the mercy of their immigration laws:)
My husband just walked in and I read him you question, he answered better than I did (and more succinctly), "The only reason I'm still in this damn country is for YOU. If that isn't love..."
2007-08-12 11:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by Dolyn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there should be a law against it. Especially for Philippine women, who are destroying marriages here, because they want so badly to be US citizens, that they will do and say anything to get men to divorce their wives and pay to have them come here, promising to be the devoted wife, when actually their plan is to become a citizen,divorce the guy, whose marriage they have already helped ruin, and take everything they can get from him and disappear into the country. Right now there are many men, caught up in sending money to them, because of their sob stories and willingness to bare all over the web cam of the Internet. They prey on older or not so good looking, horny, stupid men.
2007-08-12 11:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened to a couple of my friends.. one was married to a Mexican and as soon as he got his greencard he wanted to divorce
then it happened to a friend married to a Moroccan. As soon as he got his greencard he wanted to divorce.
the problem is, with both marriages, there were lots of fighting, abuse, and the Mexican guy was always looking at other women in front of her, and the Moroccan guy did cheat on her and she found out about it.
there were clear signs the marriage was not going good and would possibly end in divorce. But of course my friends hung on to the hope that the marriages would get better but it never did... then they were both devastated when they both divorced.
I don't know... problem is too many people don't see the signs.
now we have two no-good men in the USA because they got their greencards by tricking my friends.
But then again my father married my Japanese mother in Japan and brought her to the U.S.... she got her greencard. But unfortunately, it was my father who was the abusive one (he hit my mother and my sisters and I), so she eventually divorced. But her motivation to marry was not for a greencard.
2007-08-12 11:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by Twizzle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, the only reason for marriage is LOVE nothing more.
2007-08-12 10:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by Phoenix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should only be for love - nothing else.
2007-08-12 11:00:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋