Want to save my parents marriage.pls help.?

Question

mamma has come 2 know abt. father's 4 yrs. extra marital affair.mamma & papa r not talking 2 each other & papa is iin a state of depression.Pls.help me in bringing them close to each other.

Answer 1

Please do not get in the middle of this, it will only hurt you even more because right now all you see if on the surface and things could be a whole lot deeper than what you see. I know you feel helpless and want them to stay together but there is really nothing you can do. The only thing I would suggest you do is let them both know how it is affecting you and it is not healthy, maybe suggest they seek marriage counseling or family counseling. Know that everyghting happens for a reason. So even if they don't end up toghether in the long run, know that it may be the best option for everyone even though it doesn't seem like it now. Good Luck!!!

Answer 2

First, your mom and dad are going to do what they think is best for THEM and you're not going to have any influence on the decision. You have to just step back and keep out of it. Begging them to stay together will just break their hearts and yours too. If there is a friend or relative you can move in with for a year or so, that will help you "keep your distance" so you don't have to watch this sad thing happen.

Also, your parents are going to be very "wrapped up in themselves" for a while, and it's going to feel like they are ignoring you, like they don't love you anymore. They still love you, they are just very busy. They have so many changes and troubles in their own lives that they just don't have the time or energy to SHOW their caring for others.

Remember that even if your mom and dad don't love each other, they both love YOU.

Answer 3

It is apparent that your papa is responsible for the state of things. While it is natural for your mamma to keep silent as she might have been shocked beyond words, your papa should do some talking to repair the damage.
Tell your papa to end the extra-marital affair without delay and also apologise to your mamma for his deviant behaviour. He must be sincere in seeking an apology. It would be difficult for your mamma to forgive and only a sincere effort could elicit a favourable response.
At the same time, try to find out whether there were any shortcomings on your mamma's end which made your papa go for an extra-marital affair. Ascertain whether she knew about that. Even then your papa's behaviour is inexcusable. But if your mother was aware of any shortcomings on her part which she didn't try to rectify, part of the blame comes on her too. She must be sorry for that and do her best to turn things around.
But it wouldn't help if they keep silent. Silence will only worsen matters. So they must talk with sincerity and respect to each other. Try to convince them to break the ice and talk to each other.

Answer 4

Dear :
You did not mention the age of your father, If your father he maried another woman it will be little bit problem: or just he has illegal relationship with another owman its no problem: (here your father cheating to your mother) : there is another option is there why your father is cheated?

If you are very free with your parents: tell them you both are not talking each other I feel so bad: I cannot constration to my studies. Because always I am thnking about u both.
Almost children very close to mother: ( Few days you have to act keep quite and little bit far from your father ) .
just see what result will come:

wish you all the best : good luck

by badar

Answer 5

Don't listen to him about choosing between them. True, they may not be able to solve their differences... it's something you can't control. Make they both know you love them and that you want them to stay together. Help how you can, but realize that it's out of your hands for the most part.

Answer 6

You have heard the saying TIME HEALS.. It does. The most important relationship in our life is that with our Parents. I am touched by your stand for both of them. We all err and go astray in the path of our life and then sit and resent and regret about what happened. Get your Parents to do the Landmark Forum. I guarantee it helps... It has helped me and many others in worse situation than yours.
Check Landmarkeducation web site for details.

Answer 7

you didn't do anything to destroy the marriage and i don't think you can save it. your father's infidelity was the cause of the break up and only your mother and father can work it out. your best bet is not to take sides . even though your father was wrong he is still your father and i am sure he still loves you. don't do anything . if they truly love each other, they will work it out. if not, they will go their separate ways and nothing you can do or say will make much of a difference. good luck.

Answer 8

Just don't pick a side(love your father or mother more). I guess u love them equally, but don't show more love to either of them. Treat them equally. The rest is up to them. They r adults, u r a girl that hasn't got enough experience to solve the situation. Everything will be OK in the end, right? Always be optimistic! :)

xoxo

Answer 9

I don't know what to write...I feel very sorry...for you ( the kids....the innocents affected cause of the grown up cowards...and i am sorry to use that word..but I really mean it.....cause of selfishness they cheat their life partner and the kids...and I don't know why they wanted to have a married life if they cannot fulfil their duties...as husband and wife or father and mother.

Answer 10

Talk to a freind, teacher, family member, whoever you can find. You can't change the situation, but don't need to deal with it alone either.