I've got a lot to worry about recently and it's taking a toll on my sex life, my husband feels like I don't "want" him anymore but I've been sick and I have a lot going on, I need some advice, how do i let my husband know i'm still interested in sex, just not right now (but without having him feel like I don't want him around?)
2007-08-12 03:44:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hopefully your husband will understand that in marriage, sex has it's ups and downs (no pun intended). We all go through periods of times when we're not that interested due to stress, health, or just plain old resentments.
Sit your hubby down and explain what's going on. Let him know that it's temporary and how much you need his love and support at this time. Tell him you need to feel loved and cherished even when you're not having sex. If he's a good guy, he'll understand. Good luck and I promise you, this will pass.
2007-08-12 03:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife was there a few years back. I tried to just accept it and ended up being resolved to just not have S3X any more. That lasted ohhhhh about a week. She came up with a creative alternative. I knew that this sickness wouldn't last forever so we set up a schedule of whoopie! I mean it actually helped me live with out it if I knew that on this particular day I was going to get lucky. This worked out so well that we just kept it going after the illness subsided. True we slowed down again, but, I fixed that problem too, and am happy to say we are both comfortable in each others comfort zone.
2007-08-12 04:05:21 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sure and show him,tell him and even if you don't want to have sex with him do it anyways b/c you love him if you don't have sex with him he may end up leaving you some men are just like that not saying he is shallow I am just saying..
Talk to ur man and tell him whats on ur mind maybe he can help you not be soo stressed,I always say "don't sweat the small stuff"Just know that I wish you well..
Good luck I hope this helps ya...
2007-08-12 04:17:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience. I went thru this after the loss of my father and my hubby could not understand why I was not romantically involved anymore. Just make sure you continue to show him love and have a heart to heart talk with him to let him know that you still are attracted to him but that your body is going thru some emotional changes. Chances are he will understand. Good Luck and Best Wishes!!
2007-08-12 04:13:17 · answer #4 · answered by blondieoftexas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication. #1 problem in marriages today.Talk to him just like you did us and tell him its only temporary and things will change soon. You must be able to talk to him if the marriage is to survive these little challenges. Men arent mind readers like women would like us to be so he doesnt understand the situation,and besides the sex part,hes probably feeling left out of everything. So talk to him and tell him the whole story and watch how supportive he really can be. Good luck with your medical condition and marriage too.
2007-08-12 03:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem with my husband....unfortunately men and women are very different when it comes to sex. When women get depressed, they lose their sexual desire, but with men, that is a way to make them feel better so they really dont understand when you lose your desire and they think you dont want them. Just try and show him you love him and let him know what u are going through, hopefully he'll understand but from my experience it's not going to be easy...good luck
2007-08-12 07:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by FlaBabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you just told us. Sickness and stress will definitely affect your sex life. Be as affectionate as you can but if you don't want to have sex explain to him why. His needs aren't the only thing that's important.
2007-08-12 03:56:19 · answer #7 · answered by hanchunjeh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that your hormonal because of your stress level and that you need some time to just take care of and nurture yourself.
Sex is not the answer to every problem...which is what most men make it come across like.... "Oh I know what you need"!
Take care of yourself when your stressed. Fix your colon and you fix your depression faster.
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2007-08-12 04:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by eye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're sick why is he asking for sex?
he should be taking care of you, not climbing on!!! Tell him when you fell better, he better be ready, cause your gonna be makin up for lost time
2007-08-12 03:51:40 · answer #9 · answered by DRIVER 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u have to be colser to him, show him alot of love and care , hang out more have fun and make him want u only for him and make him feel that he is the only one who can turn u on to have sex just be closer to him more and i wish u luck with ur husbend.
2007-08-12 03:49:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋