Marriage & Divorce - 27 June 2007

I have been married to husband #2 for a year and a half. I have a three year old with him. I have 2 older boys with Hubby #1. I haven't seen Hubby #1 in 10 years, due to drugs. Well Hubby 1 is clean for the past 4 years and is back in his kids live. Well hubby 2 who has little or nothing to do with my other 2 kids does not like this at all. I am not allowed to have any contact with hubby 1 at all. Not even if it's about the kids. God forbid he finds out that I had any contact with him my life isn't worth living. What do I do?

2007-06-27 14:22:32 · 5 answers · asked by Buffy39 1

I'm talking about a three way marriage. For example, one man and two woman. The man marries Woman A and Woman B, and Woman A and B marry as well(meaning the women are bisexual). I don't know if there is an exact term, but if anyone does or knows about any cases of this type of marriage it would be interesting.

2007-06-27 14:13:32 · 7 answers · asked by Matt 2

What is the law in California, that considers you common law to someone.

2007-06-27 13:56:38 · 8 answers · asked by CHRISTIAN G 2

2007-06-27 13:06:31 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-27 13:00:01 · 32 answers · asked by Alisha 3

This is something that should have an easy answer but its actually more complicated than it seems. Thankfully this doesn't pertain to me but this seems to be a big problem for a lot of people. The question on the table is, if one spouse totally loses all sex drive (for whatever reason) and only has sex with their spouse a few times a year or never, although its quite unfair to the other spouse is it a basis and "ok" if the spouse-going-without has affairs to satisfy their libido? This always seems to be the cheating man's mantra "I don't get it at home", and some women too, and although its unfair to withhold sexual favors, its not right to cheat either. So what's a person to do? The vows clearly state 'for better or for worse' and having completely opposite sex drives is definitely a bummer but is it an excuse for cheating? I'm kind've on the fence about it personally. I would go w/o or do for myself but if this were a permanent situation, then I just don't know.

2007-06-27 12:37:27 · 46 answers · asked by ? 2

i have worked all my life

2007-06-27 12:33:57 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

What I am asking is... When a person has had a few regular drinks at home or at a bar, how honest do you think they become. Example only: A husband has 5 beers and a wife has 4 beers at home. The night goes fine then the husband comments on a mutual "girl friend" about he wouldn't mind having sex with her. Obvious arguement. Other things are said....End of the night one on the couch and one in their bed.
I don't was comments on that specific situation, but on the honesty of the actual comment and being said while drinking. Also if people really are more honest about things they don't really want to let out, when they have been drinking.

2007-06-27 12:24:17 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

We were smitten.

2007-06-27 12:22:47 · 2 answers · asked by bethbaird1222 1

And I wish I didnt. We split 6 months ago, well, he dumped me because he wanted to get back to his bachelor's life.... even if he's 41.....
I have been missing him terribly and I know from common sources he missed me too but we 've never been able to mend our fences. We lost touch ( phone touch) for 2 moths and we dont see each other since the day we split.
A few minutes ago I felt the urge to call him,because I will leave tomorrow for New Zealand and I will stay there for a long time. Well he was very cold, like I bugged him with my call ( actually I knew he was dining out with another woman and I had sort of " perverted pleasure" in bugging him....)
i was totally shocked at the way he treated me. After all, we shared 1 year and a half together,lived together, traveled together, we even had a child together ( but I had a miscarriage).
I feel desperate, please help,I need advice from you all.

2007-06-27 12:09:22 · 19 answers · asked by Charlenne 1

My Hubsband and I have been together for 3 years, and we have a good open relationship, recently, we had some problems with a few of his friends, what started as a small argument turned in to the biggest fight we've ever had.
He turned into a different person, he said things that hurt me more than I thought possible.
We've made up now but that side of him scared me, and I feel like couseling would be a good idea.

My husband says he is willing to go but he seems so .. reluctant.

and the more I think about it, maybe .. it might cause more problems than it would solve.
not to mention, we don't have a ton of money.

what has been your experience with couseling?
We don't normally have fights like this, should we just move on?

I feel confused...

2007-06-27 11:53:32 · 16 answers · asked by Vanilla 1

i have been living with my fiance for ten years but i am still legally married, some peaple tell me by law im legally divorced is this true?

2007-06-27 11:49:59 · 9 answers · asked by Ruby M 1

what i have being reading on this forum for the past week. most of you have horrible miserable depressing lives with issues upon issues upon issues with your significant others. *goes on knees and thanks GOD for my blessings*

2007-06-27 11:38:53 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-27 11:37:25 · 4 answers · asked by sarasmile 1

my sister inlaw has been through alot in her life when she were 9yrs old her step father touched her and done bad things to her (not sexual intercourse) she told her mother when she was 15 and her mother through him out but took him back into the house that same night,my sis inlaw then left at 15 to live with a friend shereported him to the police but because no one would stand by her she dropped it and he was cautioned,she is 28 now and still hasent got over this,the police say she carnt reopen the case because he were cautioned!but he could be abusing a innocent child again ,but untill he does he carnt be arrested and taken to court for what he did to her when she was little,shes been in a mental hospital at 19 is on medication ,its ruined her life,she feels that she has us to back her up this time and because she wants to protect someone else from this monster she carnt do anythin,why? what else can she do ?it will help her move on and stop this monster from hurting another child!

2007-06-27 11:35:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My daughter just came in front door because my husband left the gate to our fenced yard unlocked for about the 5th time.He also left ladder to pool down last week.last year he did this 3-4 times.He has left utility knifes in her reach.other ladders doen near pool,chairs,and table around pool.I have talked to him several times and it does no good!How and why is he being so careless? on weekends when hes home I have to tell him its her lunch time and dinner time or he will not feed her! I don't understand why or how he can just say he forgot and act like its nothing? I check every night for the ladder should I have to check gate,every thing else all the time?How can I get him to care?

2007-06-27 11:24:22 · 21 answers · asked by monica s 1

ive been married 9yrs now and we have 2children,my husband works but has days off in the week etc.. but he is sooo moody ,i carnt chat to him about how i feel about things ,he just gets snappy with me!,im a housewife and i dont work ,but i keep our house lovely and clean,the kids are happy and well looked after,i do everything i can to keep the family happy but he doesnt seem happy,i feel so unloved sometimes all i want and need is a cuddle (not sex)but he carnt seem to seperate a cuddle witch doesnt lead to sex ,sometimes i think to myself what is the point of being together?we dont do family outings etc .parks,zoo ...he doesnt seem interressted at all,i dont go out nor does he so were together every night we hardly chat ,im very outgoing and chatty n bubbly i love to talk lol,but hes the opposite,im only 32 hes 34 but i feel like a 60yr old ,im scared to leave because the kids would be heart brocken plus im just so used to my life it would feel strange to go at it alone !

2007-06-27 11:15:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

He isn't working because he " can't find a job. " I have noticed that his hygiene is getting bad, he showers every few days but usually only because I ask him to. I cook, I clean, I do it all and when I ask him to do something simple like rinse his dirty glass out before he puts it in the dishwasher, he gets an attitude. He says I nag him too much but I don't feel that I nag nearly enough. He also wonders why I don't want to have sex with him well, this ISN'T the man that I married. He's changed for the worse. I can't have sex with him when I am apalled by his laziness. What should I do?

2007-06-27 10:56:00 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I cant stand my wife going out with her girl friends until 3am dressed to pull.
she spend hours getting ready for going out with her mates, and comes in at 3am.
I cant help it I get so para that she has been chatting up other blokes etc. I get so jelous but cant control it as it feels like a threat to our relationship.
Whenever we go anywhere she does not put as much effort into getting dulled up why??? it makes me feel as if im not as important as her mates.
she says she loves me more than anything and we have 2 children and that she wants nobody else but waiting up until 3am wondering what is happening is making me stress what can i do to stop these feelings as I know it is not fair on her.

2007-06-27 10:53:59 · 21 answers · asked by adam b 1

I can have sex all the time but my husband doesnt want to. We have it like everyother day but sometimes every two days, but I feel that its never enough and want more. Why?

2007-06-27 10:53:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

We are currently separated. The title and registration both are in my name.

2007-06-27 10:48:33 · 14 answers · asked by redneckangel82 1

2007-06-27 10:46:38 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous

This girl that was supposed to be his friend or so I thought from what he told me.
But he recently told me that she asked him out on a date and he *supposedly* told her "no, cause I'm in love".
After he told me that, he said that he really does love me and never has or will cheat on me cause he loves me.
anyway, I know who this girl is, but she dont know me and to top it off she knew he was already with me and that we have a daughter together.
we have been together for about 7 years btw.
should I do anything or should I just leave it be?

2007-06-27 10:36:36 · 24 answers · asked by preggo&luvinit 3

2007-06-27 10:09:14 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

S%@T, I can't think of any. Help me out here! ! !

I'm trying to help a friend who is getting divorced and I can't think of a way to encourage her.

2007-06-27 10:02:05 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-27 09:59:16 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for almost 4 years and we have been togerther for 10 years this is my thing he don't trust me we get into fights about nothing(phone bill, someone hit my car, etc) that just are a few thing and I am so tried of it .We don't have any kids together but I am just so tried I would love to come home with some peace sometimes. I know everyone have fights but it's about the simple things, he question everything I do like what time I got off from work, to did I take a bath when I got off from work and there other things, I care for him but i just tried of the fights, and I just want to leave.

2007-06-27 09:57:12 · 18 answers · asked by Lady J 2

My husband of thirty years has always been negative about my family and friends. He is constantly saying negatives about anyone that I associate with. He does not even like me going to visit my elderly mother. He says very hurtful things about my friends and sisters. He even thinks that the Doctor that I go to is useless and stupid. I have quit asking family to visit because I do not want to hear all the negative remarks after they leave. It seems that he only wants me to associate with his family and stay away from everyone else. I do not understand this behavior. I don't see any reason for him to feel threatened by others. Is there something that I can do to alleviate this problem?

2007-06-27 09:49:19 · 26 answers · asked by Freedom 7

If you could change anything about your past, what would that be? and why?

2007-06-27 09:47:29 · 52 answers · asked by qasizan 2

2007-06-27 09:42:45 · 11 answers · asked by jessie a 1