I just called my ex and ........?

Question

And I wish I didnt. We split 6 months ago, well, he dumped me because he wanted to get back to his bachelor's life.... even if he's 41.....
I have been missing him terribly and I know from common sources he missed me too but we 've never been able to mend our fences. We lost touch ( phone touch) for 2 moths and we dont see each other since the day we split.
A few minutes ago I felt the urge to call him,because I will leave tomorrow for New Zealand and I will stay there for a long time. Well he was very cold, like I bugged him with my call ( actually I knew he was dining out with another woman and I had sort of " perverted pleasure" in bugging him....)
i was totally shocked at the way he treated me. After all, we shared 1 year and a half together,lived together, traveled together, we even had a child together ( but I had a miscarriage).
I feel desperate, please help,I need advice from you all.

Answer 1

well, i was married for 25 years and finally divorced the cheating, lien, childish SOB...and i wouldn't think of calling him for nothing.
why would you want to put yourself through that? he has moved on and you need to.
when you get the urge then go do something good for yourself.. you obviously deserve better...
be done with him...he will get what he deserves..
mine is 45 going on 22....


go jr go....

Answer 2

He treated you like that because he's over you. He might really be into a new girl and you would ruin any chance if you bug him. It doesn't matter how long you have been together. The point is he broke up with you because he didn't want to be with you. So it's not surprising that he blew your phone call off. He's doesn't want to have contact with you he's happy with the life he has now so that's why he was cold to you. If you were in his shoe's would you want to have your ex calling you after 1/2 a year? Don't think so. It's time that you do what he did and move on so you can find someone else. Don't try calling again because he'll probably be more cold and pissed off if you continue to call him. Just let things be where he left them. He moved on and so should you. He had every right to be cold to you over the phone because he was on a date and you took pride in making a part of his night hell. Be a big girl and don't do it again. That stuff is child's play and you don't want to have the rep of the crazy ex. If you were out on a date the you would be pissed if someone was trying to ruin it on purpose especially an ex.

Answer 3

Unfortunately I agree with the other answerers, and though it's really easy to type crassly that you should just get over him. It's the best advice that can be offered.

If you keep calling him, you might hurt any chance albeit small that exists of the two of you getting back together. Though it seems very much that he's not wanting this from you anymore.
You're more than likely a great human being.. His loss is another's gain.

Answer 4

Next time think three times before you make a move!!
You got poked in the eye for calling him. It was too awkward for him he was on the spot. So you got what you did not bargin for it was a cheap shot and you got hurt.
It would have been sooo different if you had the common courtsey to call at a better time. Now you are both stuck with an awful good bye.

Answer 5

hey, you got your "perverted pleasure" from bugging him in the wrong time and he got his revenge by letting you know that the time was indeed wrong. if you wanted to mend fences, what you have done was just plainly stupid, but if you wanted to burn bridges before your trip, then you succeeded. ok, you wanted to get over him, but you are not over him yet, that's why you were "totally shocked". you know, it's not over until it's over, whether you wish it to be over or not. call him again when it would be a good time and just tell him how much you miss him. if he misses you, he would listen. but make sure that he is not in bed with another woman at the moment and not talking with his boss at work. I mean, what exactly are you trying to do? would you like to help yourself or are you just trying to make his life miserable? because if you are trying just to hurt him, you will be hurt as well. try to care about him if you want him to care about you.

Answer 6

I think that if your ex really wanted to mend things, he'd be making more of an effort to do so. You wouldn't be the only one calling and he certainly wouldn't be in the mood to take some other chick out to dinner.

Move on. I know it's hard, but it is something you have to do in order to be happy. Do not communicate with him. This will give him time to figure out what he wants and make the move. If you don't hear from him, then you'll know he's moved on without you.

Answer 7

You need to move on, as he obviously had. You say that you've heard he has been missing you terribly, yet he has not contacted you in two months and is out having dinner with another woman. That just doesn't line up.

Use your time in New Zeland to get over him. Don't contact him anymore.

Good Luck.

Answer 8

It sounds like he has moved on and you need to do the same. There is no use in hanging on to the past. It was a year and a half of your life. Don't waste any more of your time pining after him. Go to New Zealand and enjoy yourself.

Answer 9

honestly, leave him alone he'll do nothing but hurt u because he's not responding to you the way u want him 2....I UNDERSTAND how hard it is get over sum one u love so much and care so deeply about...sum tyme u expect the person 2 at lease care a little and not be so damn nonchalant it hurts when they act as tho they really don't care, you know... move one, move forward and be real w/yourself---he's a guy when he want to talk to u he'll *** around, and when he do I just hope that u r strong enough to retaliate...GOOD LUCK!!! I know u r a strong WOMAN!!

Answer 10

a whole year and a half together.....wow! Hes moved on...time for you to do so too. And maybe grow up a little.....you admit yourself that you took perverse pleasure in calling him while you knew he was on a date. You didnt want to talk to him...you wanted to aggravate. No wonder he was cold.