This girl that was supposed to be his friend or so I thought from what he told me.
But he recently told me that she asked him out on a date and he *supposedly* told her "no, cause I'm in love".
After he told me that, he said that he really does love me and never has or will cheat on me cause he loves me.
anyway, I know who this girl is, but she dont know me and to top it off she knew he was already with me and that we have a daughter together.
we have been together for about 7 years btw.
should I do anything or should I just leave it be?
2007-06-27 10:36:36 · 24 answers · asked by preggo&luvinit 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Look, he told you. You really need to give him serious points for that. Some guys would have tucked that knowledge back, taken advantage of it, and never let you know.
And why on earth would he tell you, then you think he "supposedly" told her 'no'? Why would he tell you anything at all if he was interested.
So, what you need to do is be thankful that your hubby is honest about this stuff, but also ask him to stay away from this other woman for your personal piece of mind. Why? Because she obviously doesn't respect you by making an advance on hiim.
2007-06-27 11:26:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to want a confrontation when another woman shows a blatant disrespect for relationships and the feelings of others. Your husband sounds responsible and he chose to do the right thing in communicating this incident to you. I would leave it be until the need for a confrontation arises, and hopefully that won't be the case.
2007-06-27 10:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by Comancheria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. He said no and was upfront and honest about it to you so you didn't accidentally find out some other way and get angry with him.
Clearly, the girl can't find her own man and she needs to stop poaching.
I would ask him, however, if he intends to be friends with her because that is not acceptable in my book. She's shown she has zero regard for your marriage vows; I'd make sure he throws her out with the trash since that's what she is.
2007-06-27 10:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by Scorch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your husband if would be OK with him that you and his friend have a little talk. After all if I were you I would like to know why this girl thinks she can afford to be disrespectful with my relationship and my life. However if your husband says no, not sneak behind his back. At least apparently he's trustworthy and he loves you. Don't let your insecurities ruin anything of what you and your husband have together.
2007-06-27 10:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by mina 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you trust him at his word then no. The fact that he told you about it and that he told you it's not going to happen should be enough. The issue is done in his eyes. Anything more on your part makes you look bad. At the very least, it looks like you don't trust him, which can breed problems down the road.
2007-06-27 10:42:30 · answer #5 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the fact that he told you shows that he shares his day with you. I wouldn't condemn him for telling you by giving him a hard time or he will be less likely to tell you if it happens again. I would take him for his word, but if it happens again with this girl I would confront her assertively, and tell her to back off. She must have brass balls to do what she did, so she sounds like a home-wrecker. I wouldn't have a problem letting her know her boundaries and nicely reminding him of his.
2007-06-27 10:49:38 · answer #6 · answered by SweetGin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a woman asked me out, my wife would be plotting her butt-whopping as we speak!!!!She would spiral off into a dimension of pissed-off you have never seen. My wife knows I will not cheat on her because she knows I like my genitalia right where it is. But to answer your question, I think you should let her know how you feel. It's best to get the message out.
2007-06-27 10:56:48 · answer #7 · answered by David Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe that he delt with the situation than I would leave it alone. As hard as it maybe I would let it go unless you feel there is more to it. If you cause any attention to the situation she may take it further and you don't need any added stress in you life....
2007-06-27 10:58:12 · answer #8 · answered by benzmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it be..women are always eager to grab whatever another woman has...that is the nature of the beast. Why do you want to become involved in something that is already settled?
2007-06-27 10:47:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should trust in him that he was honest with you and her....If he wasn't then I don't think he would have told you....Give him the benefit that he stood up for himself and for you and his daughter....If he gives you another indication that this woman is persistant then he may have to allow you to get involve and confront her...Otherwise, keep your guard level and continue to move forward with him and your daughter...It's okay for another woman to be envious of what you have as long as she knows she can't have your LIFE**
2007-06-27 10:47:21 · answer #10 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋