my sister inlaw has been through alot in her life when she were 9yrs old her step father touched her and done bad things to her (not sexual intercourse) she told her mother when she was 15 and her mother through him out but took him back into the house that same night,my sis inlaw then left at 15 to live with a friend shereported him to the police but because no one would stand by her she dropped it and he was cautioned,she is 28 now and still hasent got over this,the police say she carnt reopen the case because he were cautioned!but he could be abusing a innocent child again ,but untill he does he carnt be arrested and taken to court for what he did to her when she was little,shes been in a mental hospital at 19 is on medication ,its ruined her life,she feels that she has us to back her up this time and because she wants to protect someone else from this monster she carnt do anythin,why? what else can she do ?it will help her move on and stop this monster from hurting another child!
2007-06-27 11:35:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My uncle did similar things to me but I was not affected like her. I blackmailed him for a long time Actually my sister and I did. We did that from the ages of 7-9. I hated him & he knew it. But I didn't see him as a monster just as a jackass.
He's dead now I did not go to his funeral but I did talk to my aunt she is really sweet but out of the loop. No need to break her heart.
I guess different people handle stuff like that differently plus I was not intimitaded by him.
I think something worse happened to her that you don't know about for her to be that traumatized.
2007-06-27 11:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always sue him in civil court for damages done. She will need hard evidence that anything really did happen. Shes going to need times,dates, places, etc. Not easy at all and any attorney he gets will eat holes in her testimony. Unfortunately,her mother should have acted on this when she first found out about this. I wish I had a better answer for you but thats the way our legal system works,sorry
2007-06-27 11:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that happened to your friend....Yes there are things she can do...I don't understand why the police will not do anything...Let me tell ya this, You go back to the police and you tell them that this guy did this and that you are trying to pertect someone elses child from the same thing...I know for a fact that this man can get into trouble even if its been 50 years....Tell everyone you know what the guy did. Let him go through the **** you had to put up with...
2007-06-27 11:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the police have told her she's can't re open the case well then she can't! sad it is but, she will have to heal herself seek counseling and support. This happens all the time even if he went to jail she would not SUDDENLY be all well no more issues. Getting him punished really won't heal the damage done. it is a good ideal to warn parents she knows to not let their kids be alone with him. Maybe she should call someone for legal advice.
2007-06-27 11:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by golly geesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get a book written by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. It's called Bad Childhood, Good Life.
My advice is for her to inform everyone she knows that has little kids that hang around there.
Maybe she could file a civil claim against him. Tell her to go to Civil Court, not county court.
Anything she does now as far as her life, it's up to HER to decide.
2007-06-27 11:44:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
really it doesn;t say much for the police , that is sexual charge , may be there not enough prove for it after all this time to stand up in court... histroic cases to go to court..
2007-06-27 12:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't tell... but was that all one sentence?
2007-06-27 11:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by bucksfan_1979 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋