Marriage & Divorce - 9 May 2007

my husband cheated cheated on me while we were engaged. i didnt find out about it until later, after the affair had been going on for a year. i am trying to forgive but i need to talk about it and find out exactly why he did it. everytime i try to bring up the topic, he gets mad and storms out of the house or goes into the bedroom and locks the door. i am trying to forgive but it infuriates me everytime he does this. what should i do?? we get along fine as long as we dont talk about it.but im still hurt..

2007-05-09 10:39:28 · 26 answers · asked by eliza l 3

Heres the scoop. I am married not because i haveb to be, but because i wanted to be. I am happy for the most part. but since i have been married an old friend has gotten in touch through email, we arent going to meet. but we just chat back and fourth on the computer. this was never a sexual relationship with this other guy - so i justified this being okay for awhile. but now i am questioning .. should a married lady not go behind her husbands back to talk with a man from the past even if it wasnt a sexual relationship. However he has expressed feelings for me if my current relationship broke up. where do i draw the line. Note i would never get with this guy if my marriage failed any way

2007-05-09 10:30:33 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I feel like I'm constantly trying to please my wife. I'm always trying to make her laugh, cater to her, and pay her all this attention, but most of the time, she acts completely aloof towards me as if to say "keep trying." It's led to all sorts of problems (most of which she's probably not aware of), but I've told her on a few occasions that I feel like a sap. i feel like a small dog jumping up and down around a bigger dog trying to get the bigger dog's attention. The bigger dog acknowledges the little dog every so often...just enough to keep it trying, but ignores it the rest of the time. Now it's not THIS bad, but its' pretty close.

And when I'm not "bouncing around her trying to get her attention" she asks me what's wrong, then SHE'LL start to cater to ME.

The bottom line is I don't want ot have to be an a s s h o l e to get my wife to pay attention or be nice to me.

What can I do here?

2007-05-09 10:28:48 · 11 answers · asked by Shawn L 1

I am 28 and I have been w/ only one woman who is now my wife. We have two children, both boys. Sometimes I feel that I blame them for everything wrong in my life. Like if i wasn't married or have kids I could go do what I want with my life and relly be happy. I am stuck in a marriage I don't like and I don't want to pay child support or alamony. Everytime I bring this up w/ my wife she yells at me. I wish I could work it out, but mostly I dont care. I want to find someone else to be with, but I am afraid of the legal ramifications. What do I do?

2007-05-09 10:28:28 · 13 answers · asked by ibyt2692 3

I've been married for 3 years and I don't have my wife's respect. She's told me she respects me but I'm positive she doesn't.

One thing that bothers me is that when she talks about other men in her life, her father, her brother, etc. she has a different tone...a respectful tone. Now maybe when she's speaking of me in front of THEM it's the same way, but I don't see it.

I want to be able to stand up to my wife. i want to be able to say something and for once hear her say "OK" without there being 100 conditions.

Any books, or websites I can go to or buy would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

2007-05-09 10:19:47 · 12 answers · asked by Shawn L 1

What an achievment eh? Two kids and 10 happy years later still together. What about you?

2007-05-09 10:14:03 · 26 answers · asked by babyshambles 5

2007-05-09 10:00:06 · 21 answers · asked by casey308 2

Ok there is this lady at my church that I have known for about 8-10 years. I am a very quiet person and whenever church is over with I speak to whoever is n my path and leave. I don't stick around. Now when I first started going to the church I use to look at her then look the other way b/c she is attractive. There has been times that she has caught me looking at her and she just smiles, and there have been times that she will walk in and she happily speaks to me as she is going to her seat but not to anyone else.As time went by we began to speak to each other each time we meet. Each time we talk I act myself and I always seem to make her laugh and smile . In 2005 I took a break from school and have been n birmingham for about 2 years and I told her that I would b going back to savannah on June 15. Once I told her that I plan on leaving b'ham in the middle of june she started smiling, became very enthusiatic and started encouraging me and ect. then all of a sudden she said "let me give you my cell number " . As she was about to give me her number she paused b/c her oldest sister came around the corner and asked her where they were having dinner, therefor I stepped back so it wouldn't look like I was being nosy. Her sis was trying c if she what they were having and if she needed to bring something and she was like " just meet me over moms house" and her sister was like "ok I will c u at moms house".At the same time I was trying to slowly leave b/c I picked up my Bible and as if I was about to leave, but she started talking to me again. That's when she was like, "let me give you my cell b/c I wan to you to call and keep in touch with each other and I am going to b checking in with you so we can stay on top on this." When she said that I pulled out my cell phone, but she was like "do you have a piece of paper" therefor I pulled out the church bulletin and she wrote her name and cell # one it. Each time we talk I call her Mrs. so and so, but this time she just wrote her name without the Mrs on it. (example Mrs. Ann, Ann). I wonder if she did that b/c other church members were around. What is so mind boggling is that her husband is n the military and he rarely, rarely comes home. I have never seen them together, but that doesn't mean he hasn't been home,she has a daughter that is 5-6 years younger than me that is n college. Once I ended the conversation I told her that I wouldn't b at church the next week, but I would give her a call at the end of the week to let her know how things are shaping up and she was like " that's fine, make sure you call". What's so mind boggling is you giving me your cell # and you have a husband ( SHE IS MARRIED) ? why didn't you give me the house #, why did you rush your sis off, why did you wait until you daughter left to do all of this and when i pulled out my cell phone out of my pocket why did you ask for a piece of paper and why did you stress that I call you? Keep in mind that I am a 25 year old MAN. It's no her responsibility to get me back in college; it's mine. So what do you think she is trying to do and how can I find out her motives. My friends said I should call her and ask her out? someone please help. Feel free to e-mail me

2007-05-09 09:38:50 · 9 answers · asked by stocks4bt 3

Gotten a divorce and then remarried that person after a period of time?

2007-05-09 09:35:19 · 13 answers · asked by IceIt71 3

I've been happily married for 7 years. I love my wife very much, but lately, I noticed she is different. She's always been a "party girl" but its gotten more frequent over the past year or so. We used to spend so much time together, but lately she's much more focused on going out with friends or meeting up with her guy friends. She has one guy friend (who I went to school with) with whom she is very close with. Also, she constantly talks about how she thinks marriage is unrealistic and how she's not sure if she wants kids. We have had several talks about it but she insists she is in love with me and that she just wants to live it up still while we are young and living in a big city. But the bottom line is that her behaviour really bothers me and I feel we are both going down different paths. What should I do?

2007-05-09 09:31:19 · 72 answers · asked by vizzini 1

I suspect it wouldn't matter, but am curious, as the husband is convinced if the wife makes up her mind to divorce him and he refuses to sign that the divorce will not go through. He will not go to court..will refuse to cooperate entirely? Suggestions? (and he won't sign and cooperate, so working with the husband is out of the question.)

2007-05-09 09:13:40 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

which one will you be more sexually attract to, the man who is open or the man who is little mysterious?

2007-05-09 09:07:09 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I found a photo of my husbands ... well, you know... on his cell phone, he CLAIMS he doesn't know how it go there, he didn't take it, I accused him of cheating becuase he has no answer to this mystery? He says he would never do that to me, and I want to believe him what are you thoughts. We have been together 6 yrs, and I have never thought about him cheating until now?

2007-05-09 09:06:02 · 41 answers · asked by Curley-Q 1

I have been married to my husband for 4 years, I love him very much and it doesn't really bother me I was just curious.

I have lost 10 pounds and he never says anything, yes I know 10 pounds isn't a lot but it's still something.
I clean the house, he never says nothing.
I change my hair color sometimes he never says nothing unless I ask him about it.
The only time he notices anything is if I have a new shirt (well new to him, I just haven't wore it in a long time), then he doesn't even compliment me he just asks me when I bought it.

2007-05-09 09:00:06 · 12 answers · asked by T 6

Most of the women on Yahoo Q&A seem to think in exactly the same way when it comes to questions of what to do about real or imagined infidelity. "Divorce him" , "leave immediately", "Install spying software", "check his cellphone bill" etc. What planet are you people from?

2007-05-09 08:45:14 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous

During the sep. I got pregnant w/ my 3rd. I NEVER claimed it his & NEVER made him pay anything. We got together & 2 yrs later I found out & had him convicted for molesting our dghtr - he pled guilty as there was evidence. He served no time & for the past 3 yrs - works to pay a minimum of child support & medical coverage for all 3 children. I am heavily dependant upon that for income right now as I only work PT w/ no benefits & job prospects are not panning out very well. My family helps tremendously & God Bless them for that. He ate through what little savings I had when we reconcilled &left me with no other choice but to file bankruptcy. I need to do this very soon in order to try & save some money rather then continue to pay off his debt. Is it true that I need to divorce first then file bankruptcy - the second I divorce he can drop my youngest from the medical coverage & he's the only one on a life saving prescription?

2007-05-09 08:45:10 · 15 answers · asked by martiek7 3

im 19, im not married, but most married people say they hate it....why? What do YOU hate about it.

2007-05-09 08:42:49 · 28 answers · asked by woah 2

We are seperated and he wont talk to me anymore. But i'm 4 months pregnant and of course want him to be in the babies life So should I just leave messages everytime I find something new..Like on the 30 th I find out if its a boy or girl, the first kick. Or should I just let him be? He said he wanted to be in this babies life..Clueless.

2007-05-09 08:42:24 · 18 answers · asked by ERICKSMAMA 5

The true natural tendency of the male in all species is to procreate. spread the joy so to speek. So in humans there is that natural urge and it may be only society that is screwing up the natural course of events for most males.

2007-05-09 08:37:24 · 28 answers · asked by Tha Fade 2

I'm only 24, married 2 years. My husband's perfect for me. He's calm, collected, hard working, good job etc. We moved 3,000 miles from home and I hardly have any friends, a few but not real friends.
I think my husband's happy enough with it just being us two though I know he misses friends and family. Can it ever be healthy to soley rely on him?
I don't work as I'm studying from home. He's a great help at that too, doesn't let me get lazy! I love to go home to my home time every few months and from time to time meet up with some girls here, but is it enough? We pretty much just have each other.

2007-05-09 08:26:25 · 23 answers · asked by cloclo 2

All I see when I come here are questions on divorce or cheating. Our marriage is not glitz and glamour, but it is strong, healthy and happy. We work really hard at this and the reward is going home to your best friend every night! Does anyone talk about the lighter moments of marriage? The good stuff?

2007-05-09 08:12:37 · 23 answers · asked by mommy of 2 2

Most of the women on Yahoo Q&A seem to think in exactly the same way when it comes to questions of what to do about real or imagined infidelity. "Divorce him" , "leave immediately", "Install spying poftware", "check his cellphone bill" etc. What planet are you people from?

2007-05-09 08:10:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-09 08:06:38 · 55 answers · asked by Kenny 2

Well????

2007-05-09 07:39:57 · 27 answers · asked by Coxy 3

eggs with a fork, instead of a wisk? Does it really make much of a diffference?

2007-05-09 07:30:27 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

I think my husband needs help. He is so insensitive. I say hunny please put the toilet seat down when you are done.....he says ok babe.....but he WON'T do it.....When I say hunny please rinse the sink out after you shave, he says ok babe......but again he NEVER does it......Hunny please don't feed the dog out of OUR dishes, rake it out in his bowl if you want to give him the scraps, I dont want to eat out of dishes the dog ate out of, he says ok baby, I understand.......but 1/2 my dishes are in the dog pen.....I am going to divorce him.....I don't think I can give him anymore chances.....Advice please????

2007-05-09 07:27:04 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

My man and I have been dating exclusively for a little over 2 years now. He wants me to move in with him, which is 90 miles away from where I live now.

I would have to quit my job, and lose my health insurance. I have asthma and my meds cost hundreds of dollars per month without insurance. Do you think it would be inappropriate to suggest that we get married so that it will be easier for me to leave behind the security of my job and benefits.

Also, I should add that I am without a driver's license or vehicle, so finding a job in this new town would be very, very difficult.

Should I bring it up?

2007-05-09 07:14:45 · 4 answers · asked by southerngirl84 3

I want to file for a divorce - we have two kids, what is the best way to handle the procedure without it turning too ugly. Also I live in the state of california are there any penelties if someone committed audultery? Also how long does a divorce take for it to be final? what steps can I take to prepare myself for this emotional ordeal?
Thanks so much for your answers

2007-05-09 07:10:09 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

After I married my husband I found a tax return of his that said he was claiming married filing jointly and there were kids listed on there. We were already not getting along and I was already ready to leave when I found this. When we got our marriage license he said he was never married before. I would love to get a divorce from him but I am also scared of him since when I left I was 3 months pregnant and he has not tried to see this child or anything. He knows were I am and know were I live so its not like he could say he couldnt find me. But to my question how do I find out if he was actually married before because wouldnt that make our marriage void if he didnt disclose he was married before and if he wasnt didnt that mean he lied to the IRS? We had gotten married in October and I left him the last day of Novemeber so wasnt sure if I would also qualify for an annulment either.

2007-05-09 07:09:31 · 10 answers · asked by chefaid90 3

As Dr. Laura would put it....My boyfriend and I are shacking up.
I hear so many people talk of studies done & how it decreases your chances for a successful marriage should you choose to marry.

I'm curious what other people think about this subject. I personally dont see the problem...I think it is a better way to get to know someone & wether or not you'd be compatible IF your considering getting married.

My mom & step dad have been together going on 19 years & the still have never legally married or done so within a church. My father & step mother were together around 15 years before they married about 4 years ago & even then only for tax purposes.

I've heard people tell me that it shows a lack of respect on both out parts, or I am just an unpaid whore "my personal favorite"
I'm going to do what I want with or without the approval of society & right wing morality police......I'm just curious what some people's opinions are for the sake of seeing different point of views

2007-05-09 07:03:26 · 45 answers · asked by cal_gal_81 3