My man and I have been dating exclusively for a little over 2 years now. He wants me to move in with him, which is 90 miles away from where I live now.
I would have to quit my job, and lose my health insurance. I have asthma and my meds cost hundreds of dollars per month without insurance. Do you think it would be inappropriate to suggest that we get married so that it will be easier for me to leave behind the security of my job and benefits.
Also, I should add that I am without a driver's license or vehicle, so finding a job in this new town would be very, very difficult.
Should I bring it up?
2007-05-09 07:14:45 · 4 answers · asked by southerngirl84 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, of course you should bring it up. I'd say, two years is TOO long to wait, if marriage is your goal. It goes without saying that you shouldn't be getting married "just" for the health insurance - but if I understood you right, you WANT to be with this man, you're just unsure of giving up what you currently have without a more solid committment. If this is the case - by all means, bring it up with him. This is a very good time for both of you to figure out where this relationship is ultimately heading.
2007-05-09 07:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it, can he move to you?
There's no reason to get married to someone you have never lived with, it doesn't make it "worth it".
Things will either work out or not, regardless if you try to force him to get married.
It sounds like you'd be throwing away a lot, and you may be resentful and it could ruin the relationship.
Talk to your man about your concerns, and see if the two of you can some up with a solution.
Good luck!
2007-05-09 14:21:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You first need to figure out if you love him enough to be with him the rest of your life. If not then you just need to move on. If you think you do then you must insist on being married first. Why does he want you to move in with him? Does he love you? Explain you are going to have problems finding a job and you will have medicine expenses. See if he thinks he can handle it.
2007-05-09 14:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by SpecialK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, Hon are you sure this dude is worth loving ! If he is old enough to live with you then he should be man enough to marry you ! Take care of your self first. It sounds like you deserve better.
2007-05-09 14:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋