~*For men*~ Why do men never compliment their women for?

Question

I have been married to my husband for 4 years, I love him very much and it doesn't really bother me I was just curious.

I have lost 10 pounds and he never says anything, yes I know 10 pounds isn't a lot but it's still something.
I clean the house, he never says nothing.
I change my hair color sometimes he never says nothing unless I ask him about it.
The only time he notices anything is if I have a new shirt (well new to him, I just haven't wore it in a long time), then he doesn't even compliment me he just asks me when I bought it.

Answer 1

Some guys just lack the ability to express gratitude and to be proud of the women they are with. I think maybe let the house go to crap and then give it good clean if he doesn't notice it tell him he can start cleaning the house. It comes down to respect in the marriage the least he could do is to express how appreciative he is for all the hard work you do.

One other thing if you weigh a considerable amount of weight he ain't gonna notice ten pounds, now if it was say 30-40 pounds and he doesn't notice I would be wondering what the heck is going on?.

It sounds to me like he just worries more about his money and where it goes then you being happy and buying something nice once in awhile. I would just tell him that it is old and you haven't wore it a long time but if you are slaving away taking care of the home then you deserve to spoil yourself now and then.

Answer 2

Welcome to the men's world. My wife doesn't ask me how was my day, doesn't say I do a great job mowing the lawn or taking the garbage out, doesn't say I clean the dishes perfect, or I was a master with the vacuum. I feel so hurt!!

I once asked if she lost some weight because I was concerned about her health. She thought I had been sarcastic about her weight -- all 100 pounds of them. I once bought her a nice jacket for her birthday, she took it back because it was the wrong color. I stopped buying clothing or diamond rings because not even she knows her taste until she is staring at the item.

CONFUCIOUS SAYS: A FAMILY MAN SHOULD NOT SPEAK FLOWERY WORDS BECAUSE HE COULD BE MISINTERPRETED AS A WOMANIZER. DOING AND SAYING NOTHING IS THE BEST COURSE OF ACTION FOR A PEACEFUL LIFE. AND A WISE MAN AND TRUE SCHOLAR SHOULD NOT ATTEMPT THE IMPOSSIBLE TASK OF STUDYING A WOMAN'S MIND BECAUSE THERE IS NO REWARD IN SUCH EFFORT SO HE SHOULD MIND HIS OWN WELLNESS INSTEAD.

Answer 3

Low and behold, the number one common problem in current marriages. Could mean a couple of things, the bad being he is generally not interested in your appearance at all, which could lead to many arguements and suspicions. On the lighter side, maybe he's just not as sharp as some people. He probably doesn't mean to come off as non-responsive or cold to your charms, maybe he's just thick headed and honestly doesn't notice such things. On a side note 10lbs is a big deal! Keep up the good work!

Answer 4

Not all men ignore their wife as I constantly give
my wife complimentary remarks , when she wears
something new, when she looks more appealing
when she looses a few pounds, and I even help
her out when I think something might not look too
appealing on her so that at the end she even looks
better. That is what husbands should do and the
wife also, and when that takes place the marriage
is in place.

Answer 5

This answer is from a man, I hope you don't mind. Some men especially husbands take their wives for granted, looks, clean home, outfits. The supper is on the table, that's all they care about. My wife, who is now deceased, was beautiful, neat, an excellent cook, and a great house keeper. I tried to let her know that every chance I could.

Answer 6

Your husband is comfortable around you and doesn't pay attention to you until things go completely wrong that how men are in relationships. You need to start doing things out of the ordinary to really see if your husband is paying attention to you. because it sounds like your husband doesn't give a sh*t about you. If my women lost 10 lbs. I would take her out and celebrate ( losing 10 lbs. is hard) with her on her accomplishment, but hey! that just me some men take their women for granted.

Answer 7

This situation is common, and is the root of why men lie. If a locomotive was to go through your living room, and missed him, and you asked him what happened, he'd be hard pressed to tell you, cause he didn't notice. Rather than be exposed as a numbskull, he'll tell you a garbage truck hit the house, although blatantly incorrect, at least it means his brain is in gear. Most men lie out of desperation because they have no idea what happened. Same for your 10 lbs, what??, new dress Really?? He might respond if your mother moved in.

Answer 8

I always tell my wife how hot she does look. She might not be a "10" in every mans eye but she is to me, so I always tell her. I don't think most men do that for their wife's but I like to my wife know that I appreciate her!!!!!!!

Talk to your husband I think at times us men are a little dense and he might not realize you woulld like a few nice words.

Thanks----Good Luck

Answer 9

This sounds like your mans problem not a problem with men in general. I notice all the wonderful things my wife does as well as the things she tries to do. Please don't throw a blanket statement like that out and try to get it to apply to every guy.

Answer 10

a smart man KNOWS to stay away from the weight issue...if they compliment u that u lost weight and look great that means they THOUGHT you were fat -- starts an arguement....so they just keep quiet...it sounds like your man is SMART...never ever make any comment to a woman regarding her weight and he will keep that woman happy.