I'm only 24, married 2 years. My husband's perfect for me. He's calm, collected, hard working, good job etc. We moved 3,000 miles from home and I hardly have any friends, a few but not real friends.
I think my husband's happy enough with it just being us two though I know he misses friends and family. Can it ever be healthy to soley rely on him?
I don't work as I'm studying from home. He's a great help at that too, doesn't let me get lazy! I love to go home to my home time every few months and from time to time meet up with some girls here, but is it enough? We pretty much just have each other.
2007-05-09 08:26:25 · 23 answers · asked by cloclo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends on you, I have a few girl friends but my husband is my best friend. You should try to make a few friends so you have someone to just get out to dinner with every once in a while. Yeah it is possible though, if you are not a really big social person and do not need a lot of people around you then yes.
2007-05-09 08:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by xyz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been married 20+ years and although my husband is my best friend, I still have my gf to talk girly stuff with and to give him a break as well as myself.
In marriages or relationships for that matter, it isn't good to be around the same person 24/7. You get tired of each other. You must have a life outside of your husband. Not to cheat or do anything wrong but to socialize with other females and he with other males. Then when the two of you see each other, you'll have more to talk about other than the usual stuff.
I know for myself because my husband and I work together and you would think we would get tired of seeing each other 24/7. But we made a decision that he would only come to my desk if he really needed me (but we talk on the phone all the time) and that's practically once a day but we don't tire from one another. Then when we are home, I'm busy with the kids and he's busy doing the yard or watching sports so when it's night time (our time) I have so much to tell him and he has alot to tell me as well.
Hope this helps.
2007-05-09 08:40:57 · answer #2 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes my wife and me are best friends. I wouldn't want a different best friend. But just remember that you both need friends of the same sex. There will be thing you both can't or don't want to talk about since it might be about the other person, a friend to vent too.
Very nice question...good luck it's nice to hear that someone else has a best friend that they are married to.
Wish more married couples thought like this, if so their might not be so much divorce in this world!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh by the way I have been married for 15 great years so I do know what I am talking about!!!
2007-05-09 09:43:24 · answer #3 · answered by jackson0202 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband IS my best friend, and has been since a year of our dating. I've been in the same spot you are, away from family and so was he. It was hardest when I had a baby, with family just coming for one visit each, kinda thing, but the two of us were strong and we made it work. After 17 years, the love and friendship grow stronger and more wonderful! Keep in touch with friends and family, but they may not just be in your immediate area. Make new friends, too.
2007-05-09 08:54:02 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and no! When I get married I want my husband to be my best friend, but make sure he's not your only friend. Ladies we need other women to talk to about stuff that men do not understand and probably will never understand. And men need guys to go out and do guy things. Even best friends don't spend 24/7 together. sometimes we need to consult our other friends about our best friends, cause there are gonna be times where you have a fight. Best friends fight, but best friends also understand and forgive. My mom is my best friend so you can imagine the guy I marry is gonna have a lot to live up to. :)
I hope this helps you
2007-05-09 08:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by meg 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure thing. your hubby can also be your best bud. it's actually a good thing. because love is complicated, friendship simplifies everything in a relationship/ marriage.
as for having only each other, it's fine. but not all the time. because there will come a time when you will need girlfriends, even those new ones. so, don't be afraid to meet up new people and keep the friendship with your husband...
2007-05-09 08:39:43 · answer #6 · answered by killerweed_13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to make healthy and new relationships with the people in your area, do it as a couple. YES! Your husband should be your best friend, BUT, as a female, we will always have that female that is a best friend too. There is nothing wrong with that. There will ALWAYS be something we do not tell our husbands (ooooooooo! I broke your favorite pen!) that we do tell out best friends (girl, I broke his favorite pen when my big a** sat on it LOL). It is healthy for your relationship to have outside friendships. Just be honest with yourselves and each other and all should be well.
2007-05-09 08:35:51 · answer #7 · answered by swilson_lewis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were also best friends in our marriage and it worked for us. Unfortunately we ended up getting divorced after 17 years, but to this day he is my best friend and lives only a few mins. away. We talk all the time and he still comes to family celebrations. Because we were such good friends our divorce was amicable and definitely made it better for our son who was only 11 at the time.
2007-05-09 08:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband is my best friend too. We pretty much rely on each other too, and I go home like once a month to meet such friends and have a good time with my family, and it's enough. I'm pretty much in your situation, and it's perfect for me now. I would suggest you not to think too much, if you like it this way, let it go smoothly, If you start missing your friends and family, just visit them.
2007-05-09 08:33:56 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet 1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have a happy marriage, but still miss HOME. Very understandable. That feeling will never change, but the love you get from your husband will make it easier. I don't believe in depending on a man "totally". Keep up on your home studies. This world is unpredictable and you must always be able to take care of yourself.
2007-05-09 08:36:23 · answer #10 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I are best friends. It is not only possible, but probably the best relation you can have. Being best friends and also married allows you not only to have fun together, but to tell each other every secret, ask for advice and trust it! Help each other, count with each other, have a shoulder to cry on, and best of all, have great sex!
2007-05-09 08:50:36 · answer #11 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋