Marriage & Divorce - 19 April 2007

About 2 years ago I committed an awful betrayal of my husband of then 5 years by walking out on him when he was diagnosed with cancer. For more info read previous questions. I was desperate for a second chance and when I was served with divorce papers a few weeks ago I was devastated. Thankfully my one last attempt to get him to give me another chance was successful and after a very long talk we're back together, in marital therapy and I moved back in even though I sleep in the guest room for now. I’m incredibly grateful for the second chance but now that I'm back I'm realizing just how much damage I have done. The abandonment issues I caused in him seem to surface every day and it's just heartbreaking to see. Spending all this time with him is actually reminding what made me fall for him in the first place. He just doesn't seem to believe I won't leave again. How do you prove to someone you're here to stay?

2007-04-19 03:47:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ive been married 4 years and feel like I'm living in a bubble. I see people at work and at church and wife at home and that's it. I have no other interactions with anyone. This life style is beginning to feel a bit confining. That being said is it appropriate and healthy for a married man to go out to the club on a occasion. Once per quarter for example.

2007-04-19 03:44:23 · 17 answers · asked by the man 1

Should your significant other be afraid of losing you? My bf does not seem to have this fear. If he thinks I'm being unreasonable he does not agree with me even though it could lead to us being angry with each other to the point that I may break yo with him. I believes he loves me but shouldn't he try to see things my way.

2007-04-19 03:43:32 · 5 answers · asked by honeyluv_2010 4

2007-04-19 03:35:42 · 15 answers · asked by nicolee 1

I love my exbf, we ended it up bcos we have a big age difference, about 25 years, I chose my husband, bcos he is a very nice guy and has a lot of good qualities, he is loyal, intelligent, very thoughtful and he loves me a lot...but I dont love him, I dont know if its bcos my exbf still has my attention or is bcos I dont love him in the first place, I just couldnt feel the chemistry...I feel him more like a friend to me not a lover... I miss the feeling when I was with my exbf, there is nothing can compare to our passion, he always made me happy bcos he is very skillful and mature, and I was so satisfied just sitting beside him... I dont have that feeling for my husband... now one of them is in Australia, the other is in USA, and Im in another country... I dont know which country to go... I begin to wonder if I made a wrong decision to marry to my husband...

2007-04-19 03:27:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Last weekend, my husband told me he wants a divorce. He had been drinking. We are in the middle of buying a new house. He is the sole income earner, as I am home with our 4 and 1 year old. He told me that he will be picking all the colors for the house cabinets, carpeting, paint, since sooner or later he's going to divorce me and I'll be leaving anyway. He told me he deserves a thin wife. It came as a shock to me. We aren't perfect, but I didn't think we had come to divorce.
The next day, he told me he was just angry and he didn't mean it. I am not one to lose control of my mouth like that and I can't let go of the things he said. I have said things when I'm angry that I regret or feel embarrassed for saying, but I never outright lie out of anger.

Do you? I think he really does want a divorce. He's now upset with me because I can't drop it. Do people really say things they don't mean or is it a cop out to admitting you spoke the truth in the heat of the moment?

2007-04-19 03:23:14 · 12 answers · asked by Wendy B 5

2007-04-19 03:18:41 · 19 answers · asked by for lyf 1

Okay, to begin with, I am a loyal person. I have a really great life and don't plan on trading it off for anything less. My husband and I get along well, but there are some areas that he doesn't meet my needs. I think he knows this because he sometimes makes statements such as "when you divorce me...." which of course is ridiculous because I'm not going to tear up my family. There is a man on the side and this man is truly my soul mate. Nothing has happened that would be considered cheating. My husband knows I have a relationship with this (single/older) man and have for over 2 years. As my husband is a very intellegent(and very jealous) person, he realizes this and doesn't seem to mind...I think that his rationale is that this man is very kind to me and he believes this man really cares for me. Do you think my husband just thinks the guy is gay? LOL Or is it that he doesn't mind sharing me with this person?

2007-04-19 03:18:35 · 14 answers · asked by mzadamz 3

2007-04-19 03:16:33 · 14 answers · asked by mammabear_327 3

2007-04-19 03:09:01 · 5 answers · asked by drunk? 2

ok so my mom and he husband have been on and off for the past 3 years now the last time they broke up me and my mom had to move and now we barely have any money. and now they are back together. she has lost almost all her friends because of it. i hate seeign my mom hurt. this will be the 7th time they got back together and i hate him with a passion. ive tried to tell my mom but she doesnt get it. should i just leave it alone or say something?

2007-04-19 03:03:22 · 10 answers · asked by ~kAyLa-BaBy~ 1

My emotional affair started in July of 2006 when our family was evacuated to Larnaca, Cyprus during the Israeli Hezbollah conflict last summer. From mid July to the end of August I was dreaming and fantasizing about the object of my desire. My wife started to notice that I’d become distant … that I was daydreaming all the time. Thinking the matter would just die away, I put off talking with her about it. Now, almost a year later, my feelings are still as deep as ever. I’ve actually bought a ticket to Larnaca to satisfy my lust. My wife caught me and wants me to confess. I think she’ll be crushed.

I’m afraid and mortified because I’m not involved with an erotic dancer or beautiful Cypriote temptress. No, I’m fixated on New York style Pizza that I found in a downtown Larnaca pizzeria. I can’t think of anything else; and I’m sure my wife will find my obsession very unromantic and boring. I’m so un-sexy. How do I break this to my fantastically fascinating wife of 30 years???

2007-04-19 03:03:00 · 11 answers · asked by Sultan 4

Im 26 years old Female and every since I was a teen I was so attracted to polile officers. All I do is fantasy about them, I aways try to get fixed up with them. I dont know why because I have never been with one. Why do I feel that way.

2007-04-19 02:59:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok in nutshell>>>(joint family) i had this great chemistry mutual emotinal affair with my husbands younger bro(im not proud of it .. but it happened .) the bro in law did convey huge emotins to me indirectly! he is married ..soon to be a dad.
i have moved off from his life .. im absolutely neutral with him. i dunno but his presence always annoys me and we barely talk.. but if we speak we end up fighting . cold vibes are one of our best traits!
now..my husband is away .& bil is trying to be extra nice.. hubbys been away before too but this time bil is trying to much ...infact in front of his wife and mil he said lets be friends ... let it be more than hi and hellos.

i have a v neutral approach towards him & i dont want to be any closer ...What should i do ?
if some one can chat..im willing to .. but please do not judge me!!!

2007-04-19 02:56:30 · 7 answers · asked by barley 2

I'm 22, she's 26, NYC, been married for 3 years, but unofficially separated for a year. I finally decided we should get a divorce a couple weeks ago. We have no kids and we don't own anything, nothing like that, no alimonies. She wasn't a citizen until I married her, however, she has made it quite clear to me that becoming a citizen wasn't her agenda and that she was in fact in love with me at the time. I trust her on this. However, my father and his friend don't and think otherwise, they even have the idea in their head that it was her idea to get married so she can be a citizen when it was really MY idea, they don't believe me to this day.

So, there's a debit card and a couple credit cards, under my name, which she still has in her possession, she's not using them and says she's going to get everything together and give it back to me all at once she just needs some time 'cuz shes going through a rough period with the death of her grandmother, work, and other issues. (MORE BELOW)

2007-04-19 02:48:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm going through a divorce and I'm sick of people asking me if I am sure....do I still love him, etc, etc. They don't know me or the circumstances of my situation. What is a polite but firm way to end their questioning? These aren't people close to me....

2007-04-19 02:31:21 · 18 answers · asked by caramelqueen 3

Its not. What do you think?

2007-04-19 02:22:56 · 25 answers · asked by Kimmy 4

my wife was going on a field trip with my daughter today and last night she asked if she could use the digital camera that belongs to my work (which i do not own). i had some picture on the camera i would be downloading for a report and said i really couldn't allow her to borrow it. I am allowed to bring the camera home and it has kept us from buying one on our own. i bring it home on weekends and often during the week. She also has taken to using my cell phone (again we personally don't own one) when she goes shopping or on small day trips. The phone is on the blink and i didn't offer for her to use it because i was going to take it back to our IT guy today and ask him to have it fixed. She was upset i didn't offer the phone and also upset i didn't offer the camera. i will be needing the camera and so said i was selfish and couldn't believe i refused her. what if my boss said, go take a picture, today and i didn't have the camera. What am i going to say...my wife has it?

2007-04-19 02:13:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im 25, he's 35.
I know this is stupid - i fell in love- but, it has been a year since i moved with my boyfriend, who is now 5yrs married to his wife and has a 3 yr-old son.
Its so obvious that he doesnt love his wife (its shows and he said so).
He's with me on working days, stays with his family on non-working days.
The first and last time we talked about it, all he said was he doesnt want to be the faulty and bad one.
And any annulment case would only lead him to not marrying again.

Any advice? explanation?
I cannot find help from any of my friends coz they all despise him and all they want to for me to move out of the apartment and find a new beginning.

2007-04-19 01:58:33 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know people will probably judge me on here if they read my other questions. But why is it some people, like myself seem to go through life destorying everything in its path? I have a marriage falling apart, I had a relationship that fell apart, I have terrible depression, now I feel I'm falling apart! It's as if i'm not happy with anything, that I can't find happiness or that i'm looking for something that can't be found! Does anyone else feel like this, or is it just me?

2007-04-19 01:54:47 · 21 answers · asked by Vixx 2

2007-04-19 01:49:52 · 12 answers · asked by sachin 1

and relax to maintain mental and sexual balance. adults only any age pl real answers no jokes

2007-04-19 01:08:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Was it as easy for all of you as it was for me?. Husband has puposely tried to make my life hell .. Do you believe in KARMA?

2007-04-19 01:08:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband wants me to put his kids on my insurance, I don't want to do that. I feel it's his and his X wifes responsibility to care for the kids. It's going to cost me 190.00 a month to cover his 3 kids. He is going to get a court order for that because we can't add them unless he has that. That will mean he will be paying 500.00 a month for child support and then I will be paying for the health care!!! Do you think I am wrong to feel this way? Those kids are not my responsibility! The only reason he wants this to happen is because his kids need braces and doesn't want to pay the 5000.00 per kid. I can understand not wanting to pay that amount, but it's still not my problem! Their mom has them on the Oregon health plan, so it's not like they don't have some kind of coverage.

2007-04-19 00:47:40 · 26 answers · asked by Tami H 2

I was in a relationship for 3 yrs, and we were engaged, and had a son that was 6 months old. My fiancee left me saying he needed time, so I gave that to him.Now before this happened it was all about me and he would never have did anything to hurt me. Yea I wanted him back and i cried all the time because of it. Well the whole time I figured it was because a girl at work, and he denied it. When he was ready to take me back, I had found someone that made me so happy, and that would do everything for me, and I also found out my ex had been with another girl, and had slept with my best friend of 4 yrs. Till this day he is wanting me to get back with him, and Just the other day i found a letter in his truck from a girl saying they were in love with him, etc.... and he is denying everything saying the girl is crazy and saying the only one i want is you, etc. yea I wanna trust him but how can i, and how can i give up someone that makes me happy to be with him, and he could do everything again

2007-04-19 00:21:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous