My emotional affair started in July of 2006 when our family was evacuated to Larnaca, Cyprus during the Israeli Hezbollah conflict last summer. From mid July to the end of August I was dreaming and fantasizing about the object of my desire. My wife started to notice that I’d become distant … that I was daydreaming all the time. Thinking the matter would just die away, I put off talking with her about it. Now, almost a year later, my feelings are still as deep as ever. I’ve actually bought a ticket to Larnaca to satisfy my lust. My wife caught me and wants me to confess. I think she’ll be crushed.
I’m afraid and mortified because I’m not involved with an erotic dancer or beautiful Cypriote temptress. No, I’m fixated on New York style Pizza that I found in a downtown Larnaca pizzeria. I can’t think of anything else; and I’m sure my wife will find my obsession very unromantic and boring. I’m so un-sexy. How do I break this to my fantastically fascinating wife of 30 years???
2007-04-19 03:03:00 · 11 answers · asked by Sultan 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Racermom, this isn't a joke. I don't want to seem like such a dry, boring, middle-aged guy to my wife. Thanks for answering.
2007-04-19 04:09:24 · update #1
Hey, I can understand a fixation on pizza.....
Heck, I have one with cheesecake!!!
You get an A+ for your writing though! That's probably one of the best things I've read on here in ages!!! Bravo!!!
2007-04-19 03:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Both of you were wrong. I believe in treating someone the way you want to be treated, not in treating someone the way they have treated you. Both of you broke that rule. She sounds punitive and that doesn't have a place in any healthy relationship. You sound like you are hung up on getting an apology. Words don't mean anything. She could say she's sorry but that doesn't make what she did hurt any less. You've apologized to her but she's not accepting it. A true apology is a change in behavior and the desire to right the wrong. This may seem harsh, but all of your analyzing who was MORE wrong seems like you are not accepting the blame for your actions. (just my two cents) Stop trying to figure out who is more wrong and try to figure out together how to repair your marriage and move forward.
2016-05-18 22:40:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Book the trip for two and share the object of your desire with her.
When something, even an inanimate object, is unattainable it is far more desired than something you can easily lay hands on. Perhaps when you both go there she will figure out how to make it and you two can have a great time together working on recipes to make it just right.
If this was not a serious question then I feel extremely silly!
2007-04-19 03:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you are bored to write this. LOL... Hey take the wife to New York, satisfy your hunger for the pizza and rekindle your love with the wife of 30 years.
2007-04-19 03:10:04 · answer #4 · answered by Jodi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why tell her anything? I mean, what good will it do HER? She's not your mommy nor your teacher nor your priest ... you don't need to confess your sins to her. All it will do is raise questions in her mind and probably destroy her trust and love for you. Is that your goal? If you want to love her, then love her and forget about confessing to her. It won't help her at all and may bring her endless hurt and agony.
2007-04-19 03:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get her a slice of pizza with extra cheese
2007-04-19 03:44:49 · answer #6 · answered by Vegas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a romantic interlude involving both her and the pizza!
2007-04-19 03:14:31 · answer #7 · answered by LaMariposa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her a recipe book and let her know you want New York Stype Pizza.
2007-04-19 03:09:06 · answer #8 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Take her with you! Thats the least you can do.
2007-04-19 03:18:23 · answer #9 · answered by just me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take her with u, that's the best you can do.
2007-04-19 03:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋