2007-04-19 03:18:41 · 19 answers · asked by for lyf 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why would you not want to talk things out with your husband? I mean isn't that why you married him in the first place? You should be able to talk your problems out and ease your mind.
Holding things in only breeds negative thought later on, and hurts you in the end. If you have something to say, say it.
2007-04-19 03:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by bux_martinfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you would know what is right for your situation.
Personally, I believe that communication is a cornerstone of marriage. If and when no more communication occurs, negative feelings may accumulate without resolution or escalate without improvement. Even positive feelings cannot be communication if the exchange between you two has been stunted...
thus, if you decide to keep things to yourself, I assume you would have thought about what consequences that might lead to...Such as the possible gradual disintegration of your marriage, and the fact that the problem will not change and your husband will continue to either not understand or misunderstand what problem you have with him.
However, you may have your reasons for not wanting to talk to him. Since I do not know your reasons...@_@ I am unable to comment on it...
2007-04-19 03:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by tara_rong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking is an important part of a relationship. However, it should not be done when you or your partner are angry. Wait until you have both cooled off if there was an argument. Wait until there aren't a zillion over things going on. But definately talk . Don't accuse. Just say 'I feel this way" or When you do this, it makes me feel...... Don't attack. Just state your case. I when he/she answers, repeat back to them what you have heard so there is no misunderstanding about what they are trying to say. Silence just prolongs the hurt. Not talking solves nothing. Talk! Talk! Never stop talking to one another or your end up talking to or leaning on someone else, or keeping everything inside and being miserable and/or depressed.
2007-04-19 03:25:13 · answer #3 · answered by dana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not right, if you can't communicate it will only lead to more problmes! Maybe he/she has said I don't want to talk about it anymore well then where will you be talking about it with yourself? It takes two but right now it may be too painful to talk about, so give it a rest and try in a wekk or two. If you keep things in it will eventually blow and probably in a bad way.
2007-04-19 03:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand the question because is a run on sentence. I will try dissect this question for you. If you want your marriage to be over then by all means keep everything bottled up inside. If you are tired of how you are feeling then you need to sit down and talk to him and tell him the truth about how you feel.
2007-04-19 03:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by Gail S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not right. Besides being your husband and your lover...he should be your best friend.
You should be able to talk anything and everything out always.
That is what marriage is all about...two people loving and talking things out...making it work through the good times and bad.
Not playing kid games such as not speaking to one another.
If you don't have this type of relationship where you can communicate...you need to work on it before your marriage is gone.
be cool...
2007-04-19 03:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say, if you have something to say, just say it. Don't play games (I hate that) or resort to passive-aggressive behavior to try to get the response you are hoping for (I hate that more, and it almost never works). Be calm, straight, and honest. If you can make each other feel safe to share these kind of things, then you are back on solid ground. Talk to your husband.
2007-04-19 03:24:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes its right not do talk anymore if you have problem with your husband just kept it in yourself... relax
2007-04-19 03:27:44 · answer #8 · answered by amirat7oby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you asking should not talk to him or just not talk period. Please explain and a little bit about the problem no one here knows you so let it out if you need help. We,ll help we just need a little more to work with.
2007-04-19 03:25:55 · answer #9 · answered by msann601 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it,s wrong. It builds up stressin the relationship when you have grudges and not communicating.
Lack of communication is the #1 cause of divorce.
Good luck
2007-04-19 03:28:06 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋