I'm going through a divorce and I'm sick of people asking me if I am sure....do I still love him, etc, etc. They don't know me or the circumstances of my situation. What is a polite but firm way to end their questioning? These aren't people close to me....
2007-04-19 02:31:21 · 18 answers · asked by caramelqueen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"Thank you so much for asking, but I really don't want to talk about it right now."
(That works great, because it's very polite. Plus the ruder, more probing, and innappropriate the question they ask...the more embarrassed they feel when you answer them like that. Stops them in their tracks.)
2007-04-19 02:35:11 · answer #1 · answered by biiiiaaach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them I don't mean to sound rude but I prefer not to dicuss this right now and change the subject. They just want to help and somebody just don't when to stop asking too many question. I went through the same thing when I was getting a divorce and once I said that they left it alone. But you can't talk about it and expect people not to ask questions so just don't bring it up in front of people unless you want to discuss it with them..
2007-04-19 09:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't discuss your personal life with people that are not close to you. If these are co workers just smile and walk away. I got a divorce after 18 years and a co worker asked me when I would invite him over for dinner--I told him as soon as I could buy a pot big enough to put him in.
2007-04-19 10:00:11 · answer #3 · answered by lilabner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if there's a particularly polite way of doing it, but if they are commenting, doesn't that mean it's getting brought up to begin with?
1. Stop bringing it up if you don't need to.
2. If they bring it up, just tell them firmly that "I don't really want to talk about that part of my life right now".
It sounds to me from limited information that maybe they know too much about your private life already. So my guess is that if you stop talking about it, some of this will go away.
2007-04-19 09:37:05 · answer #4 · answered by btpage0630 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just don't bring up the subject in the first place. If it comes up and the questions start, just say "My lawyer has advised me not to discuss my case with anyone.". Don't give any more explanation and they will really wonder what is going on.
2007-04-19 09:39:59 · answer #5 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, "I am absolutely sure, as a matter of fact. Whether or not I still love him is both irrelevant and none of your business." Then give a little smile and hold eye contact with the person.
2007-04-19 09:37:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just say, thank you for your concern but, I prefer not to
discuss my divorce at this time. Stop answering the questions and defending yourself.
2007-04-19 10:05:47 · answer #7 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about, "I don't want to discuss my divorce anymore. It's between my husband and I, can we talk about something else?" That's a nice response. If they persist you can say, "My God I'm tired of people asking me that! Can you just leave it alone???"
Either one should work fine!
2007-04-19 09:35:22 · answer #8 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just say "I'm sorry, I don't want to talk about this with you" and change the subject. They are being a bit rude to intrude with those kind of personal questions.
2007-04-19 09:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by ╚╔╩╦ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After careful consideration, I've made my decisition. Thank you for your concern.
I would like not to speak about this at the moment. Thank you.
I appretiate your concern, but I rather deal with my problems privatly. Thank you.
Please understand that this is a very difficult time for me and I would like to deal with this privately. I appretaite your concern, but I rather not talk about this. Thank you anyway.
This is a difficult time for me and I would like to keep it as quiet and private as possible. Thank you.
2007-04-19 09:51:25 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋