Why do men think sex is the most important thing in life.?

Question

Its not. What do you think?

P.S. Yes, I have been married for 10 years.

Answer 1

This answer goes out to all the women who complain that all men think about is sex.
Appreciate it! If your husband still thinks you're sexy and attractive and wants you all the time...be flattered!
Believe me, having a husband who doesn't like or desire sex is the most painful thing.
My husband has low testosterone levels and because of a previous cancer, can't take testosterone.
He has practically no desire for sex and we are intimate about 3-4 times a year.
Even though I know it's not about me, I am left feeling unattractive and insecure. It has led to more fights, hurt feelings and tears than anything else in our marriage.
So women, please cherish your mans insatiable desire for you! You have no idea how much you'd miss it if it were gone!

Answer 2

I don't think that men think sex is the most important thing. I think it is just the thing that they understand the most clearly. They see it as a physical gesture of an emotional feeling.

Men, in general not all, find physical affection easier to do and understand than expressing love for their spouse/partner/mate in a verbal form.

Just as I believe that many men feel they are showing their spouse how much they love them and their family by working 50 to 60 hours a week and providing the most they possibly can for them.

Little do they know that most women would rather do without some extras and have him home and snuggle on the couch. A touch for no reason that is not leading to anything else is always great.

Some women are materialistic and would rather not see their spouse all day and be able to shop and buy at will. Most of us would rather have those few extra touches, hand holding and just hugs than money.

Some men have learned to communicate well and I have found that those are the ones that realize the value in time invested in a relationship instead of time invested at work away from the relationship.

Just my opinion.

Answer 3

Cassandra G and racermom are onto it, in my opinion. Guys generally have a hard time being/staying emotionally connected with their wives, or at least adequately expressing what they're feeling. I doubt it's genetic -- more likely how we're raised. For many of us, making love to our wife (besides feeling great) represents a sign that the relationship is still good, still secure (which isn't always objectively true, but we hope so.) The first sign a husband has that there's something not right in the marriage is when the wife witholds sex. She may have been trying to tell him there's trouble for a long time before this, but we do tend to be a little dense, especially if we're caught up working those 60-hour weeks. When my wife and I finally opened up to each other, and I took stock of what was really important to me, sex actually moved down to about #3. Affection was higher. What I really wanted (still do) is to be appreciated. And what she really wanted was more quality time, more help with the kids and the house and for me to pay more attention to my physical appearance (work less, work out more). So, yes, men really like sex, and sadly, even when there's no emotional attachment. But the "evolved" ones realize that there's a lot more important stuff in marriage, and the best sex is with a happy wife.

Answer 4

Men like to show their love and emotion through physical contact. I read a list of the top 10 things men want and women want in a relationship. For most men, sex is right up there, and for most women, it's affection. However, men think of affection as sex, and women think of affection as closeness, being together, etc., without it leading to sex.

It's a catch-22, but I'm sure it will always be that way! Cruel, huh?

Answer 5

I dont think its the most important thing in life, I do think its the thing in a relationship that makes men feel the most intimate with their wife. For guys its the thing that shows us more than anthing that that our wives love us, Are into us, want to be with us. Why is it that people complain that too many seperate love from sex, but when their husband wants to have sex because of love, its a bad thing?

Answer 6

Because sex to a man is like a form of communication. It isn't just about the feeling of sex it is the feeling of closeness and to him he may not have the words to say I want to be close to you love you protect you and feel connected to you but through sex he can say all these things with his actions. Of course he can also be saying you are hot and I am horny and right now I just want to be with you but in either case he doesn't have to actually use his words to express his feelings. Most women want to talk about their feelings and men just don't like to do that as often.
Besides it doesn't matter why they think it is the most important thing in life all that matters is that they do and when you get that part of it you will both be alot happier.

Answer 7

I don't think that they think it is the "most important" thing in life. They probaly feel it is way up on the list, but not the most important. Most women don't make sex a priority in their lives. If women would put forth more of an effort I think couples would get a long better. You don't have to feel horny to become horny.

Answer 8

We live in a heathen world. Sex, drugs, and alchohol are endorsed in so called singing. The dads aren't in the picture, and when they are, the kids aren't sure who their mom is. The moms didn't beat the boy enough as a child, he has no manners, and he thinks it is something to brag about to his friends. Personally, I think sex is something that should only happen when you are married. And for the record, not all men think that sex is the most important thing. I don't. Like I said, I will only have sex with my wife. Not even my wife to be.

Answer 9

It's one of the more exciting things for a guy. There just isn't even a close second place for it. So why wouldn't they value it above everything else?

Having said that, I think you'll find that people that have religion and higher priorities in life than just what's exciting, don't think it's the most important thing, and yet it's probably a lot better for them and they probably get it a lot more.

Answer 10

For a lot of men that's the way they say I love you. Because if it were only the mechanics of it, we could handle that our selves. Were more physical that women. period

For you him telling you your pretty may make you all warm and fuzzy. For a guy he needs physical contact to make him warm and fuzzy.

Were animals are now and always have been. Plus as we get older our sex drive changes, so that may be part of the problem

Hope this helps