Marriage & Divorce - 19 October 2006

I am tired of picking up after my husband he is a messy cook and leaves a mess in my kitchen I confronted him and he said it was clean it which it wasn't I am a total clean freak and I like my home spotless what can I do?

2006-10-19 06:47:10 · 12 answers · asked by Melody-Lynn 3

My new beau is married and i just found out. I know the reason why he and she split, I was told all of the details, but not the most important one "He's Married"... I love him and I know he loves me, we are very happy, but now, I feel decieved and don't know if I trust him like i did before finding out. He says he is in the process of getting a divorce, but who doesn't say that... I wish I wasn't in love with him nor in a relationship, because, I have a strict rule "No married men"... What do I do...I love him???

2006-10-19 06:34:04 · 37 answers · asked by Dani_n_keem 2

We have had one before and I think she was more into my hubby than into both of us. So now we are talking about doing it again and the thought of last time is in the back of my mind. My husband and I have been together for 14 years and still very much in love and are very happy. But is it normal to worry about her trying to "steal" him. And yes I do want to do this Its just that he is MY HUSBAND. Is it wrong to be that way. I am sorry if this makes no sense I just am trying to get my thoughts out and I really dont have anyone I can talk to about any of this.

2006-10-19 06:22:01 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

Although I never thought it would ever happen to me, I have fallen in love with a married man, who is also in love with me. His wife is 17 years older than him; they have been married for 12 years, and don't have children together. There are kids involved, but they are older now, and were from his previous marriage. It all started, between him and I, as a really good friendship, but now we can't stop thinking about one another. We've now been "seeing" eachother for about 5 months. I know it's wrong, but everytime either one of us has tried to call it quits because "it's the right thing to do"...it just brings us closer. I guess my question is...is it TRUELY wrong to persue a married man if he has fallen out of love with his wife, is only with her because of the amount of time invested, and has fallen madly in love with you?

2006-10-19 06:21:57 · 35 answers · asked by Eliz 2

Married almost 5 years.
He gets sick less.
I am upset that he does not recognize when I do take care of him. It seems like he is seeing the negative. HELP

2006-10-19 06:11:16 · 16 answers · asked by silly 1

We have been divorced for 4 years. We have a 7 year old son. Our marriage was really rocky when we were together. I think we were both very immature. But I'm still scared to take that chance again. This is really tearring me up trying to make the right decision.

2006-10-19 06:10:42 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it common during layovers, for crewmembers to hang out in each other’s hotel rooms? My fiancé, an FO, is telling me that it is standard in the aviation industry. My experience in the business world is that it's inappropriate to enter a colleague's hotel room.

Of course you can guess why I am asking. He hung out in a female flight attendant's room one evening. They watched TV, ate pizza and played cards. I believe that it was totally innocent, but it still makes me uneasy. It gives a bad impression and I don’t understand why neither of them thought to of going to the hotel’s common area to hang out.

Is this the kind of worry and uneasiness I can look forward to as a pilot’s wife?

2006-10-19 06:05:55 · 11 answers · asked by A M 1

As marriages are regarded as eye opener, in which type of marriage, the bitterness comes late while which type decays fast ?

2006-10-19 05:59:09 · 15 answers · asked by Leena 1

2006-10-19 05:54:46 · 21 answers · asked by ble0804 2

I've gotten a lot of good feedback on different ways to do joint finances in a second marriage, which for those of you who are in one, it is different. So, my husband and I decided to keep our own accounts, and open a joint account for expenses. The thing is, though, that I don't know what to count as his/mine & ours. We include the $1,600 per month that I receive in child support as income, and the $725 that he pays out as a "bill". His 3 boys live with us 50% of the time, and my 2 girls live with us full-time. I think pretty much everything should operate out of the joint account, since we are both contributing about 75% of our income (including my child support...which makes my contribution $624 more per month than his) to the joint account, so shouldn't everyone's clothes, doctor visits, toiletries, medicine, etc. come out of this account, too? Is there anything that shouldn't come out of this account (other than gifts for one another)? Thanks for any insight on this.

2006-10-19 05:51:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

This guy I know and who is friends with friends....not on here, he's actually someone I know in person, asked me out. He planned this great night in the City...dinner, comedy club, sounds like a lot of fun. I'm not interested in him in any way other than friends and won't go any further. Should I go? Do you think he'll stop being my friend after that, once he gets it? Would you be mad if you took someone out and she only wanted a friend? He's a really nice guy, and he's a ton of fun, just not my kinda boyfriend...what would you do?

And for the record I already told him that I have three kids and can't really have a relationship now because I can't see making someone take a back seat to my kids. That wouldn't be fair, so he already kinda knows that I'm not looking.

2006-10-19 05:40:56 · 25 answers · asked by sasha 4

Well, that's not true. I like that he's not an alcoholic or a crackhead. But when that becomes your standard, it's pretty bad, right? My husband loves his job and works 60 hours a week but does not make enough money for us to be comfortable. By comfortable, I mean decent clothes, food, shoes, cars, housing, cable tv. Not super-nice, but decent. Also enough to be able to hang out with his family since he has a very close family that lives about 20 miles from us. They are always doing things and the gas to just get to their homes is killing us. I work, too, only 30 hours a week but I bring home almost as much as he does. We also have a one year old, a cat, and a dog. Since he works so much, I do 99% of the caretaking. I would rather this be down to at least 85%. Same with housework. 99% should be 85%. Why do I have to pay the price for him to work a job that he likes, but pays little? I'm so unhappy, I'm not attracted to him at all. I haven't been able to have sex in a month. Help!

2006-10-19 05:40:18 · 18 answers · asked by saveit 4

My husband and i got married on June 2 of this year. I am trying to figure out the perfect gift to give him for our first christmas as husband and wife. He likes football (Fav team is the Bengals) he loves to play poker, he likes to rap and listen to music. Any suggestions?

2006-10-19 05:36:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

what should i do... i did not know how to react

2006-10-19 05:28:33 · 28 answers · asked by tprm79 1

if found suitable may be i can marry him.

2006-10-19 05:25:45 · 20 answers · asked by bochas 1

It always is shocking to me when someone posts a question about thier marriage and several people answer with get a divorce, but they dont advise the person try counseling or some other form or working the problem out. Does this bug anyone else?

2006-10-19 05:22:56 · 17 answers · asked by Got2seeit 2

I'm just curious how many people have married young and are still together?

2006-10-19 05:21:11 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-19 05:14:27 · 29 answers · asked by Calli G 2

My husband works during the day.I am an at home mom only because I can't drive my car it does'nt have insurance and is not legal.He comes home drinking and tries to control me .I am very involved in my kids school and sports,I only do one thing for myself and that is bowling on an all womens team one night a week.He comes home the house is clean,dinner is done,the kids are taking care of .He only wants to love on me when he is drinking,and I dont like it at all...Our 19 year old son still living at home works with his dad but refuses to help in any way shape or form.His dad treats him better then anyone in this house .Our oldest daughter moved out he gets mad when I visit her .I cant understand him at all.Sometimes I cry because I really miss her,i feel like I am trapped and I don't want to be here anymore.Our two youngest are 16 and 11 they make comments to me like why are we even here. I just dont know what to do!Im feeling down and I just dont know what to do.I just a little scared

2006-10-19 05:09:01 · 26 answers · asked by a little worried 1

Does this mean smoking is allowed when children are not in the 'environment' ?

2006-10-19 05:07:08 · 10 answers · asked by JRS 1

Who here has cheated and decided to stay with thier husband and fix the relationship. Also who has only cheated once and then decided your husband was the right person for you and that you never wanted another man again. What caused you to cheat and how did you feel afterwords. Did you ever tell your husband?

2006-10-19 05:05:31 · 9 answers · asked by cheeks230 3

I have been married for almost 4 years. I have been best friends with a male for 8 years. I love my husband, but I love my male b/f as well. My husband recognizes that my b/f and I have this bond/deep connection that no one understands because we have been through so much together. My male b/f is kinda of sleeps around meaning he has been with over 20 women. He hasn't been with one female over the 8 month mark. He just sleeps with them and then leave them. But he treats me differently then the other women. He told me that if he had the perfect girl and she didn't accept our friendship, he would kick her to the curb. I don't want to lose my husband because he is the best thing that has ever happen to me, but I want my male b/f in my life because I couldn't see it without him. Everyone is telling me to let him go because he is doing nothing with his life, but I'm the only one that understands him. I love him and he loves me, I don't know what to do, can anyone give me some advice please

2006-10-19 05:00:10 · 27 answers · asked by MovingOnWithMyLife..Your Loss! 1

Aren't you afraid of waisting your life for someone who doesn't make you happy?
What makes you think you still can't be there for your children if you divorce your wife?
Have you ever had feelings for another woman but didn't do anything about it because of the kids. If so, did you regret it?

2006-10-19 04:49:29 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I will not stand back and let him live the good life wile my daught and my hole family for that matter suffer. I want him back i want him to pay and most importatly i never want this to happen to a nother child please help

2006-10-19 04:46:11 · 16 answers · asked by corriem 1

I have known my husband for 20 years. We have been together for 18 years and we have been married for 15 years. We have 2 boys. (13 & 8) I love him very much but I don't think he loves me as much as I love him. I know he loves me and he is a good man but I don't know if that is enough for me. Am I just being childish and selfish? I would do anything for him but I know for a fact that he would not do the same for me. Any good advice out there?

2006-10-19 04:46:11 · 23 answers · asked by missmyluke 1

i told him that if he moves we should seperate, because we would moving backwards in life. Also things havent been great with us. Do we stay together, how do i make him change his mind? He says that its his decision to move, and if i want to break up thats my decision not his, but i feel its a way to blame it on me somehow help

2006-10-19 04:45:34 · 16 answers · asked by lablanca15 2

I have known this man about 2 years, and he has been coming over my husband and my house for about a year now. He has never shown us any pictures of his family. He has been living with this woman for about 12 years. She cheated on him about 2 years ago. He went back because they have a 12 year old child together. He told me that he didn't trust her, he wasn't in love with her, and that they have nothing in common. He then married her about 2 months ago. He didn't tell me, another friend told me. When I asked him, he said that he forgot to tell me, yet we had seen each other the day before the other friend told me. He said that he got married for the children. What is your opinion on this? What advice do you have for me? I have feelings for him, but I'm married. What do you think?

2006-10-19 04:40:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for five months today. I think it was a big mistake. He lies a lot about everything. I have three kids from a previous marriage, he acts inappropriately around them (swearing, fighting with them). I've started to have feelings for someone who has been interested in me for a long time. This guy is amazing, he is everything that you could ask for in a man. I feel confused and don't know what to do. If I leave my marriage I want to know for sure that it's not because of this other guy. We've been getting lots of counselling, sometimes things seem better, other times they are back to the same old. What do I do????

2006-10-19 04:38:46 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have been married for almost 5 years. Im very unhappy with him. We have 2 children. I want to be happy so I can be a better mom.

2006-10-19 04:34:15 · 20 answers · asked by lady bug 2

hi again just thought id ask as i asked an hour ago about having another child my hub works 14 hour days 6 days a week and im a sahm and i gets v trying as sunday his day off he is always on the phone to work or something as happened at work when its suppose to be our family day we have a 2 1/2 old and there seems no us time and i have tried talking to him but as he owns the business with a friend he says he is doing this now and it will be like this for a few years and then he will only have to work 4 days a week but im worried that if that happens there may be no US for him to spend time with in a few years time please give me your advice others have told him to spend more time with us eg mom dad brother but hes a workaholic and we me and our daughter miss him like mad hes out before she gets up and back about 1/2 hour before she goes to bed she now thinks daddy lives at work and comes to visit us on the evenings which i have told her is wrong but shes 2 1/2 she doesnt understand!!!!

2006-10-19 04:33:38 · 14 answers · asked by olivia g 2