2006-10-19 05:54:46 · 21 answers · asked by ble0804 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes it's possible
2006-10-19 05:57:09 · answer #1 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he can. Don't do the joint custody thing. I know ppl think it is best for the kids, but it's not. Would you be willing to pack up ur stuff and go back and forth from one house to the next every other week? If we wouldn't do it ourselves, why do we expect our kids to? I have a friend who has "Shared Parenting" with her ex-guess who has the kid now and won't let him see his mom? You got it. He is claiming she is unfit. Well, that is the arrangement by the courts, that they have 50/50 time with him, but they haven't laid it out, so her ex is pretty much at liberty to do what he wants.
I am divorced and have sole custody of my kids. Dad has standard visitation but he can really come see them whenever he wants as long as he calls 1st. That is the most stable divorced kids will ever feel. I live in a different state than he does. It does make for a little difficulty with child support and all but it works for me.
2006-10-19 13:11:22 · answer #2 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and he should.
The question i have here is why did you end the marriage. If joint custody is the issue (which is rarely granted), it's only because he's been the best straight-up guy ever AND you had an affair. Otherwise, ONLY YOU would have custody.
Talk to him face to face, convince him to move back for the kids' sake, buy houses close together, and apologize to each other.
Divorce is so common in typical soccer mom America, it makes me want to forget about marriage and move to San Francisco.
But seriously, you are going to need to talk to him, tell him how you feel about splitting up the children, and convince him to change his position.
Here's a hint, be willing to waive child support, and actually attempt to work for a living. No child support, no custody issues.
Wish you luck!
2006-10-19 13:00:29 · answer #3 · answered by diagofaldi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During the summer months yes, But they usually don't do it when the children are full time students. Now if their not in school then yes he still can if he can prove to the courts that he is a fit father. Will spend the time with then and not leave them to a babysitter all week long. Then it would be his responsibility to charter the children back and forth to have these visitation privileges which over time may get to be more of a hassle for him then anything.
2006-10-19 13:20:23 · answer #4 · answered by bingohun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly. The judge will probably require some form of cooperation on both of your parts, like you taking the children to him one week, and the next week he has to come and get them. He may also be required to furnish you with information such as where the children will be attending school or daycare, his employment and residence information, and things like that. The best possible scenario would be for both of you to sit down and work out some kind of agreement, then have your attorneys look it over and decide if it's going to fly with the judge. And above all, the judge will be concerned with ONLY what is in the children's best interests, so if your husband shows any actions or behaviors to the contrary, I wouldn't be so quick to let my children be that far away from me for even a week.
2006-10-19 13:00:39 · answer #5 · answered by uspslady39 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are in school, then no. If they are older and with maturity tell the judge who they want to live with and it's you, then again no. But joint custody doesn't mean 1/2 time spent with each parent. I'd talk to a lawyer for the TRUE meaning of joint custody and then go for soul custody anyway and for the ultimate protection of your kids.
2006-10-19 12:59:35 · answer #6 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that he can do this if it's during the school year, but I've heard about joint custody where the kids stay with one parent during the school year and the summer and perhaps holidays with the other.
2006-10-19 13:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by Elizabeth S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have the right attorney, he'll know this. If school age they are usually with one parent during the week for school. Don't envy your situation. Keep as stable and strong as possible without getting into it with your ex. Your integrety will shine. Not without gritting your teeth I'm sure. Be as civil as possible and don't use the kids against each other. Good Luck. Pray!!!
2006-10-19 13:03:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there should not be a problem as long as you both agree and if the kids get to stay in one school. I only wished it could have been that easy for my kids
2006-10-19 12:58:09 · answer #9 · answered by lpdecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the kids are still in school, probably not! Cause living that way is miserable! I did that when my parents went through a divorce and i HATED it...if the parents are going to fight over there kids and it ends in that arrangement, think about the kids and how its going to effct them!
2006-10-19 13:09:48 · answer #10 · answered by volleyball_chick12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on the judge. My husband and his ex have joint custody and its 2 different states. Pa & Del.
2006-10-19 12:58:53 · answer #11 · answered by majesticwife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋