As marriages are regarded as eye opener, in which type of marriage, the bitterness comes late while which type decays fast ?
2006-10-19 05:59:09 · 15 answers · asked by Leena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
IN THE BOTH CASES THE THINGS CAN GO WORSE. BUT IF ONE OF THEM BEHAVE AS GENTLEMAN IT CAN BE CONTROLLED AND LIFE GOES SMOOTHLY.
2006-10-23 00:16:31 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Either can work if both parties want it to. You can put everything into your marriage, but if your spouse is not also wholly committed, then the marriage is in trouble.
We all know stories of both types of marriage which have gone horribly wrong, and which have ended in happily ever after. The truth is you really don't know, when you embark on the conjugal life, what type of person you have married. You find out when you live with them.
The really important thing is that the young people involved should be allowed to make the decision. That way, if they are unlucky enough to have made a bad marriage, they have no one to blame but themselves. A failed marriage is bad enough, but it is even more miserable if you are also blaming and hating your parents for forcing you into it.
I come from the North Western European tradition, where arranged marriages died out centuries ago. While I can see some advantage to arranged marriage, the big drawback must be the potential for bad feeling between the generations. I wouldn't let my mother choose a pair of knickers for me, let alone a husband. She always falls for the good looking wasters. She thought my first husband was wonderful - big mistake ! But the mistake was mine, not hers, so we didn't fall out over it, and she's devoted to my wonderful second husband.
So, on balance, for the sake of family unity - we should all chose our own marriage partners, and make our own mistakes
2006-10-19 13:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Arranged marriage are more successful than love marriage.
Because in an arranged marriage the parents choose and they have more experience. They choose a girl for beauty, family background, social status and wealth. So more of the problems are looked into before marriage.
But in a love marriage the couple only look at each others looks and personality and they do not look at family background or social status or wealth and they marry. But after marriage they realize the other factors are important. Then they break up.
I live in America and was born in UK so I had a love marriage but I don't think arranged is bad and after doing research on it I think they are more successful.
But still I would go for a love marriage.
For you I would say if you have found a girl/boy you love, then marry him/her but if not let your parents decide. Parents love their children.
Good luck
2006-10-19 13:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love means giving without expecting any return.
Marriage is a social arrangement opposite-sex friends.
So arranged marriage is convenient.
As per terminology the % of success should be more in Love marriages.
As the couples ignore the meaning of Love % goes down.
In the absence of Love arranged married couples forced to live together by society and that is added to success%.
Thus all marriage needs Love after or before!!
2006-10-19 13:55:01 · answer #4 · answered by Kuppu S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In love marriage, the couples get together with smoke in their eyes that they expect perfection from the relationship. Each of the couple believes at first that his partner is the BEST in the world. This is because they are so in love that they are not capable of seeing anything wrong in the other partner. When the problems and reality of daily life comes; however, after the honeymoon, little by little the smoke gets cleared, they begin to "see" the defects of each other... this goes on until finally, all of the negative traits come to the surface..and they fight and concentrate on these negative things. If the love was genuine, then they will change for the better or accept each other as they are. Many couples separate when this stage comes. They entered their marriage vows with so much "love" in their hearts and leave it with so much heartache and disillusionment because of their preconceived idealistic notions . They should realize nobody is perfect.
On the other hand, arranged marriages are very simple, The couple agrees to be partners in life. They come into the marriage with very few expectations. The man provides while the wife manages the home. After honeymoon, in everyday life, they began to discover the positive aspects of their partners and they start now admiring or cherishing them. Because they expected less, they now discover more quickly the positive traits of each other. So they come to learn now how to love the partner...It is a fact that arranged marriages (just like in India,)have fewer separation cases.
But personally, i will go for love marriages. It is still a different feeling altogether to make love to the person you treasure. Nothing compares to the ecstacy of languorously making love in the night with your loved one and waking up in morning to the warmth of his embrace. It could not be explained in words .
Of course, a person in love must be realistic. He should be ready to accept all the "defects" of his partner. Then and only then, will their love marriage last ...forever... ( a very rare word nowadays. ) but love marriages are meant to last forever..if you know how to play your cards right.....
2006-10-19 13:34:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both depend on how much you are both willing to work on the relationship, to compromise for each other and to dedicate yourselves to each other and be faithful throughout your lives. Surely no marriage should unavoidable end in bitterness and decay however it started, not when its aim is the joining of two people in love and the creation of a loving stable environment in which to bring children into the world? If you are willing to love and be loved and shape yourself unconditionally to fit with someone any relationship has the best chance of success you can give it.
2006-10-19 15:23:01 · answer #6 · answered by kali.mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think any marriage may give problems/ disputes.
But in case of arranged marriage, the family & relatives can interfere and pressurised the other part to solve the disputes.
2006-10-20 03:22:24 · answer #7 · answered by kingofuniverse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marrying for love isn't all it's cracked up to be.... arranged is easier in the sense that you aren't trying to keep your marriage the same as it was when you were young and happy in love, it's very difficult
2006-10-19 13:02:16 · answer #8 · answered by ooh baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
arranged marriage with love for each other
2006-10-19 13:01:53 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
arranged marriages the love and passion comes later on. statistically speaking they are much more successful.
2006-10-19 13:00:55 · answer #10 · answered by yoskraz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say which decays faster..
But I would say that a Love marriage is the very bast there is.
2006-10-19 13:01:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋