Marriage & Divorce - 19 October 2006

I married my husband a year ago. Until recently everything was going well until he had a meeting with his ex-wife about their two kids. Now I am finding out that she is calling everyday if not more than once a day, she is stopping by our house, sometimes when I am not home, and now he has invited her to take the kids' out on holloween and the fourth of July. There are other things that I have noticed. He has changed a lot since that meeting and become very defensive when I ask him questions or get mad at him when he does these things. Should I be suspious or am I just fretting over nothing?

2006-10-19 14:08:53 · 12 answers · asked by sue_treece 1

I've been married for 2 years and my husband looks at porn (online porn) 4 to 6 times per week, sometimes for hours at a time--and always late at night when I'm sleeping. I'm an attractive woman in my late 20's who takes good care of myself--body and appearance. My husband says I am one of the most attractive women he's ever seen and we have a decent sex life (2 to 3 x's per week on average), but he STILL looks at porn--sometimes even after we have had sex. Why do men do this? Is it wrong of me to be unhappy about him looking at porn so much?

2006-10-19 14:06:41 · 24 answers · asked by missapparition 4

My wife had an affair 1 year ago while I was out of town for 4 months. We reconciled, and moved out of state. She had a family emergency, and went to help her family. Since she has been there she has talked on the phone with him numerous times, and admited to seeing him. She did not tell me any of this, until I confronted her about the phone bill. She swears nothing is going on, but why would she even need to talk to him. She says she didn't want to hurt me...then why talk to him at all? thought things were good with us, and we have even been trying to have our first child. Should I trust her? Should I leave her?

2006-10-19 14:05:57 · 26 answers · asked by eyetie 1

Whats the best?

2006-10-19 14:03:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex husband took my kids (8 and 5) every weekend after our divorce now he has a new girlfriend with a kid and he hasn't talked to my kids or myself in 3 months. Should I bug him to be a part of their lives or just leave it alone? He also owes a lot of money for child support and now has a warrant out for his arrest. I don't know what is the best thing for me to do for my kids. I know he loves them believe it or not he has been a good father in the past. My kids really miss him.

2006-10-19 13:58:22 · 16 answers · asked by jaimek1127 1

She also wrote a couple of "poems" that was very suggestive of that relationship...He is very wealthy, and I wonder if I should let her go. He is married also. We have a child. She says he is just "a friend". Emails I saw by accident, YES by ACCIDENT were very disconcerting, as in I would like to see you longer...etc...what should I do?

2006-10-19 13:53:48 · 24 answers · asked by iamdwill 1

Im thinking bout writing a book bout child support an informative book with phone numbers , case workers names etc. for each state.

2006-10-19 13:53:44 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

i'm so scared of losing him, what should i do? plus he never returns my calls

2006-10-19 13:51:12 · 12 answers · asked by Ann 1

2006-10-19 13:51:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love my husband but I been burnt to many times by men im 27 years old I have four kids two by my husband we have been married four years, he is not a citizen we were boyfriend and girlfriend for a short time before I asked him to marry me because I felt he was a good person, ansd we had a lot in common so we married with two months. We get alone well but as friends I dont feel to much romance coming from his way not 95 percent of the time. His sister just moved into our house and my gut feeling is telling me that they are talking about me behind my back. I just have this uneasy feeling inside because we have time invested we laught together, we have good times together my entire family adores him, he loves my previous two children and they love him too but something inside tells me he is two faced. Something inside is telling me to pick up and leave but I havent worked four four years,and when we meet I was in college and living in a sheltor with my two children. what should I do?

2006-10-19 13:48:19 · 6 answers · asked by TOKISA NEED HELP PLEASE, THANKS 1

mutual masturbation, doggie style, missionary, cowgirl (her on top). Most votes by 9p is the winner! Thanks for the input

2006-10-19 13:45:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

He is now living with his mistress. He play mind games with me which I allow. He say he loves me but doesn't do anything to end his affair. His mistress Fran has even told him to baby me on our anniversary. Its our wedding anniversary coming up. After 26 years, I feel like something is wrong with me, I never cheated on him. He said he isn't feeling our anniversary and I shouldn't either. Crazy, I thought we could had celebrated our daughter's birthday. Our daughter was born on that day. She is grown and have 2 children of her own. I keep holding on to the past. I need help. I got the paperwork for the divorce, but didn't turn them in. Can't get pass that I don't believe in divorce. I thought we could live apart, but our anniversay got me bitter all over again. I think I can't be his friend when he treats me so badly. One writer told me to be his friend and wait. I don't think I can anymore. He is so mean with his words. I feel bad everytime I hear his voice. There is life after him.

2006-10-19 13:42:11 · 13 answers · asked by Chyna R 1

Did you read tht Paul objected to Heather breast feeding their baby, saying her breasts were all his?

2006-10-19 13:39:22 · 34 answers · asked by poppy vox 4

I am a single guy and would like to pose following Qs for married couples. Suppose both husband and wife work, how do you guys reconcile cooking, and other household chore issues? How do you decide who to cook, who to clean the house, who to grocery-shop, who to mow lawn, etc.? Is it 50-50, equal share of work between husband and wife?

2006-10-19 13:36:05 · 10 answers · asked by nicesinging1 1

but this morning i found condoms in her purse. what should i do?

2006-10-19 13:27:34 · 9 answers · asked by dan 1

little hair on the chest . lots of hair . or waxed or shaved chest?

2006-10-19 13:26:28 · 20 answers · asked by pickledaddy 3

2006-10-19 13:20:08 · 10 answers · asked by mommy_2_little_man 2

We have been fussing about lots right now and I can not get him to listen to me. He speaks his mind and expects me to listen without interrupting. When I start he interrupts me and starts up all over again. He expects me to listen to him but I can not seem to get the same respect in return. Help me!!!!!

2006-10-19 13:19:10 · 9 answers · asked by Sweet Momma 2

2006-10-19 13:14:56 · 10 answers · asked by linds 1

Ladies are the most loving at the onset. When they are madly in love with you, they do anything for you. They will walk away from their families, friends, jobs, education for their man. Men at times take that for granted! The shocking reality for a man occurs when the ladies 'shut down'. After long periods of trying to make the marriage work, its as if you suddenly 'shut down'. Nothing matters, you could go without sex for months, not engage in discussions other than answer questions & talk about bills, avoid any confrontations and just slip away into this 'mysterious world'.
QN: Whats happening inside there? what doesn't ur man imagine u are comtemplating? are u cheating or planning to leave? Does your hubby stand a chance?

2006-10-19 13:12:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

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2006-10-19 13:08:51 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

are you still cheating? why?

2006-10-19 13:05:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok my husband we are seperated cheated with some girl he works with........has sinced moved out (i threw him out because he wouldnt quit when affair was discovered)..............anyway i just found out he quit that job is still living with the gf......in fact moved to a nicer area then the one we did a nicer place etc etc....how can he do all this without remorse or guilt im serious.....he knew i loved him and still he did this........does anyone havea logical answer

2006-10-19 12:54:34 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my husband have been married for 3 years.. I’ve always tried to be a great wife to him, no matter what happened he was always first. In the past 3 years I have always had dinner waiting for him when he got home NO MATTER WHAT. (All he does is work). I work, go to school,study, take care of the house etc. When I ask him to help me do something I get the 3rd degree and usually ends up in a argument leading to us not talking for about a week. I don’t know what to do anymore I love him but I’m just tired of him not appreciating what I do and I just wished for once he would put me first for a change. Sometimes I feel like he doesn’t even care how I feel, which hurts me and causes me to get really stressed out.. ---

Anybody have any advice…

2006-10-19 12:49:35 · 7 answers · asked by dolphin_heart19 4

2006-10-19 12:44:27 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

I Just hear all the time if he cheat leave. What if he told you himself? What if he's a great husband?That was your thought before he told you. What if he was the best lover/friend you ever had? What if you can see in his eye that he really is sorry, and hurting for hurting you. Husband are human! What if he swear to god that he will never hurt you again? Would you be able to forgive him? Remember you too vow for better or worse, until death do you part. Peace

2006-10-19 12:33:23 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

that you stick around because you feel sorry for him.but that the love its been gone for years.and its time for me to try and be happy.how to,hes in prison.i know 1/2 the people are gonna say just write a letter.but thats a rude way to end a relationship.i want to do it face to face but dont have the words.

2006-10-19 12:29:13 · 10 answers · asked by super girl 3

Hey every one , My dad stopped paying for child support when i was 4 or 5 and now i'm 26. In the divorce he was told to pay a certain amount and one day hejust stopped paying. I heard there was no time limit on child support cases is this true. How do i get all the money he never gave> Is he going to be able to just not pay us kids with theses payments aswell. let me know and most of all do i need a lawer?

2006-10-19 12:23:21 · 9 answers · asked by bcrawford1980 2

Have anybody been in a committment with a male or female. And after awhile you begin to not like them all the time.?

2006-10-19 12:21:01 · 15 answers · asked by candlemia 3

My boyfriend got married in Kentucky right out of High School. I'm not sure how old his wife was at the time of marriage but we just found out his name is spelled differently on his birth certificate than it was on the marriage certificate or any other document. Does this still make the marriage legal and binding? He would have signed all the documents with a name that didn't match. Does anyone have any good ideas about this?

2006-10-19 12:16:44 · 10 answers · asked by lparker_2005 2