How do married couples reconcile cooking and other household chores?

Question

I am a single guy and would like to pose following Qs for married couples. Suppose both husband and wife work, how do you guys reconcile cooking, and other household chore issues? How do you decide who to cook, who to clean the house, who to grocery-shop, who to mow lawn, etc.? Is it 50-50, equal share of work between husband and wife?

Answer 1

it should be 50/50 but one side usually takes the lead.....I like to have a trade off when its possable.......if i cook my hubby does dishes. As far as shopping...I peferr to go together so if there is something the other wants they can get it, it also helps in planing out meals for the week. Weekends or days off should be "cleaning days " make it fun and do it together, no only will it get done faster but your doing something together and will have more time for each other on the free days. hope his helped.....good luck

Answer 2

My husband and I both work so the things that I do:
1. Cook...or we both meet each other after work for dinner.
2. Clean the house
3. Do the laundry
4.Take out the trash
5. Dishes

Husband does:
1. Takes out the trash (most of the time)
2 Mows the lawn and trims the bushes
3. Does the laundry once in a while
4. Helps me clean the house
5. Dishes

Things we both do together:
1. Split the bills on who gets to pay what
2.Groceries and household items
3. Clean the house on our days off
4. Take care of the yard work
5. Dishes
In our marriage it's more like 100% for me and 100% for him rather than 50-50.

Answer 3

All of this is decisions to be made by the couple, taking into consideration hours on the job, stress level, likes & dislikes of certain chores, aptitude for certain chores, etc.

There is no formula for who does what.

Feelings, needs, desires, as well as the above points are to be considered.

Also, these arrangements will vary from time to time, because of the "extra things" that are always coming up.

But the key is consideration for the spouse's feelings, needs, and desires.

Forget the 50-50 thing. It never works. One or the other will always do more than 50.

Answer 4

It should always be an equal share of work. Honestly, a marriage is a unit and therefore two people together should work together to get things done. They need to share their home chores 50/50 so that it is fair and to keep their marriage healthy.
I know some woman who are just so overworked because their husbands expect them to go to work then come home and do everything. It's not fair that way, so everything should be split.

Answer 5

I have been married for 16 yrs to a wonderful lady. We both work, but I put in over 50 hrs per week and she works about 35.
We both cook...I am better with breakfast and she makes the best dinners, but we have been known to switch.She does the dishes most often, I do them about 20% of the time...And now our daughter is starting to do them when homework allows.
We both vacuum. I am the only one who shampoos the rug and she does all the laundry.
Bottom line...there are no hard and fast rules... Work gets done...somehow.

Answer 6

In our household, it averages out. I do most of the cooking and we share the cleaning. He does the lawn and I help out (very little) We don't have a schedule or anything, but when something needs to get done one of us does it. If it's too much the other pitches in.

Answer 7

Workout a plan. If one cooks the other cleans. Go grocery shopping together. Cook together from time to time. Clean together. It really does work. Have fun while doing those things together. Talk, listen to music.

Answer 8

In my house we share the chores.

When one isn't feeling up to it, the other usually picks up the slack.

My husband is great because he really helps out a lot. He tries. There are some things he's good at and some things he's not.
We try to have a happy medium.

Answer 9

depends on who gets home first to cook dinner and all that stuff i currently dont work and my hubby does so i do everything but no probs cuz he works so hard to make us the money and doesnt force me to go back to work but when we both worked it was whoeever had time wud cook, clean etc :) it shud be that way

Answer 10

I stay at home and hubby works I do everything around here but he helps alot without me having to ask.But i dont expect him to do anything other than take out trash and take scrap food out.Thats really all i ask of him.