Is Cheating really unforgivable?

Question

I Just hear all the time if he cheat leave. What if he told you himself? What if he's a great husband?That was your thought before he told you. What if he was the best lover/friend you ever had? What if you can see in his eye that he really is sorry, and hurting for hurting you. Husband are human! What if he swear to god that he will never hurt you again? Would you be able to forgive him? Remember you too vow for better or worse, until death do you part. Peace

Answer 1

For me, I don't think this is one of those issues that is black or white. I have never been through an affair, so I don't really know how I would react, but I don't think my first thought would be to leave. I would want to seek counselling with my spouse to see what went wrong and to see if we can commit to work on it. Usually affairs are about so much more than sex, its a symptom of bigger issues within the relationship.

Answer 2

Only God has the power to forgive. The only thing humans can do is try to forget. He made a sin against God and his marriage vows. He has broken a commandment and can ask God for forgiveness. He has broken your trust in him which is not included under for better or worse. If he did it once then hes capable of doing it again and remember men lie, sometimes more than one way, but they do lie to achieve or avoid altercations. But you married him so you must decide by yourself if hes worth keeping and whether you can forget what happened, especially in future fights. It takes a really strong person to do so

Answer 3

Attrition isn't sorrow.

Sorrow isn't salvation.

Swearing to an uncapitolized God means nothing, especially since you proved you have no respect for God's laws by breaking them in the first place, and begging forgiveness of the girl before begging the forgiveness of God... breaks yet another commandment.

Using "For better or worse" as blackmail is discusting.

She'll never forgive you, she'll try to forget about it. You'll screw up again because you're a jerk, and she'll wise up.

Oh, and if she does take you back and you don't use condoms and get STD tested monthly for the next 2 years, you deserve cyanide cereal. You give her something nasty, you deserve to have your no-no parts smashed with the claw end of a hammer.

Answer 4

right now, I'm sorta going through a similar situation, but he won't tell me anything. he has cheated once before and I did forgive him, but they always say if they cheat once they will cheat again. And i honestly believe that everyone deserves a second chance, but after that i think I would call it quits. I would love for my husband to stand up and be a man and tell me, I would have more respect for him as strange as that sounds!! But yeah i say if he cheats once forgive him, twice I don't believe theres forgiveness. Let me know how things go.

Answer 5

If you want to have a relationship with polygamy you can have one. I would suggest that since he's having a fling you have one to. Tell him about it be honest and no behind the back stuff.

You can still go on if you prefer to have a swinger type of relationship. It is up to your preferences. How does it make you feel when he cheats? If it hurts you my idea is this wont work. He and you need to talk about feelings regarding this issue. Perhaps, adding other perspectives could improve the sex life for you both.

If your relationship is lacking in sex apeal, which is common when cheating is occuring you need to communicate how to improve your sex life toegether to get through this.

Answer 6

i love my husband dearly,hes a great dad,a great husband.he cheated on me already,but never told me from his own mouth.but in my heart i know.i never left him,i tuff it out and i'm still here.that happened five years ago,and sometimes it bothers me alot,i will be fine for a while then i'll remeber how he hurted me.sometimes when we're making love i'll get turned off just thinking about the fact that he did this with another woman.Yes u can forgive him,but to trust him will take u a while,i still don't trust mines,regardless of how much he tries.but u will never forget.

Answer 7

Cheating is forgivable, but will you be able to trust him when he tells you he's working late or hanging out with the boys. For him to promise he'll never hurt you again is unrealistic, I'm sure he didn't plan to do it this time.

Answer 8

Well of course there is different opinions on this subject. Mine, and many others are, if someone cheats on you, how do you know he wont do it again? Even if you once trusted this person, and still do, how could you after he had done something like this to you? If he had the nerve to sleep with another woman, does he really care about you? Think about these questions.Even if he says he's sorry, or says he wont do it again, that does not change the fact! The fact is, instead of thinking about you, or the woman he's married to, he was thinking about have s_x with another woman, who ISNT you. Do you really want that kind of person in your life? I hope you understand that cheating, is unexplanibly, unforgettable. That is my opinion.

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Answer 9

cheating is always forgivable but never forgettable... does that make sense.. To me, first time shame on him, second time shame on you!! If he is truly sorry and you truly love him you have to give him the opportunity to make things work.. but if he ever does it again and you forgive him the second time then like the saying goes.. first time shame on him, second time shame on you!! Good luck and your right vowed for better or worse ... so you have to give it a shot, but second time is definite grounds for divorce.. they grants divorces for being unfaithful cuz in the marriage vows he promised to be faithful....

Answer 10

Men do forgive women for cheating. But men don't put up with so much crap than women do.