Marriage & Divorce - 19 October 2006

When my ex-husband and I divorced, I received custody of our son. He has visitation rights for every weekend.......but each weekend, my son stays at his mom's house instead of with him. We have been apart for 5 years now, and our son has only stayed all night with him about 10 times. I was recentely hospitalized for a infection around my heart, and I spent alot of time worrying what would happen to my son if something was to happen to me. I'm sure my son's grandmother would end up with custody of him, since his father doesn't have much to do with him as it is. (he is re-married and his new wife doesn't want children....go figure) I'm worried that my parents and my fiance' wouldn't get to be a part of my son's life. My fiance' has been like a father to him, and my parents are a huge part of his life. Would they have any legal rights to visitation?

2006-10-19 16:44:15 · 12 answers · asked by kentuckygirl630 1

im not married,i live with my bf.we have three children.its been 5 years that weve been together.and i love him.we are making plans for our wedding.but i feel that i need someone to love me.i feel my bf dont apreciate me,or anything i do.im not a stay at home mom,i work full time.i dont ask him for anything i take care of my needs.i help with all the bill and the children expenses.i just feel unapreciated.is it my imagination?or im just too needy of his atention as he calls it?on my days off i want to be with my family but he rather be writing music and recording.i dont know,what do you think?when he says tomorrow,but his friends come over and our plans get kicked to the curve.

2006-10-19 16:39:18 · 12 answers · asked by super girl 3

ok my wife left me for a girl now she wants a dovres anshe has a job but she gets a free lawyer from legal aid an i have to pay for one i dont have a job right now to pay for one she is getting every thing i aint geting anything alls i want is joint custdy of the kids an she wants full an i dont no what to do

2006-10-19 16:38:02 · 3 answers · asked by tavance1967 1

I am seriously considering leaving my husband, but I know he will not leave our home, so I would have to leave until the we can legally split up 27 years worth of household and personal belongings. I have many items that mean a great deal to me that were handed down from my side of the family. If I leave, it would have to be with only my clothes initially. I am very concerned that my things will be destroyed as he has a very violent temper. He has never beat me, but I have witnessed him demolishing many things during fits of anger. So what can I do to protect my belongings until they are legally split up, and what recourse do I have for things he does decide to destroy? I am sure that he will have the attitude that if I leave, it is all his.

2006-10-19 16:36:01 · 17 answers · asked by catywhumpass 5

He like to give me money or buy gifts for me. He know Im married he's engaged right now. Does he like me? He hasnt came on to me so Im confused

2006-10-19 16:11:21 · 16 answers · asked by bre 1

2006-10-19 16:09:45 · 46 answers · asked by always helpful 1

My husband KNOWS I am against smoking. I've lost 13 family members to lung cancer and/or emphysema. My parents are heavy smokers and it scares me. The problem is, I think my husband is smoking at work and lying to me about it. Just today, he gave me a kiss, and his lips and beard smelled strongly of smoke. He said it was because everyone else at work was stressed and smoking a lot. I'm not an idiot, I know the smell of smoke would not just be attracted mostly to his lips. I've also smelled it on his hand or sleeve cuff. If I bring it up, he makes excuses, like he was just holding a cigarette for a friend. Hes normally very upfront with me, but I fear that hes afraid to be honest with me on this subject. It makes me feel like hes taking me for a fool, thinking he can hide it from me. He works in adult foster care home, and all the other staff smoke in the garage. It wouldnt surprise me if the temptation is too much. I'm already worried enough about his weight, I dont need

2006-10-19 16:07:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-19 16:06:22 · 9 answers · asked by lt5890 1

My ex-wife has been either calling me or emailing every single day for the last 2-weeks (we were divorced in January 2006). She told me that her boyfriend had lied to her about his marital status: he was still with his wife. She was very upset when she called to tell me this and she stated that she is no longer seeing him although they talk on the phone periodically. She left me for him and she was seeing him while I was still living with her in our house (now her house).

She lacks all the qualities that a man should want in a woman: she is dishonest, disloyal, untrustworthy, a taker and not flexible. In addition to admits to having low self esteem and she exercises poor judgement! We were together for 14 years. Despite all the objective information that tells me that she is not worth having a relationship with, in the back of my mind I am entertaining giving her another chance because it is clear that is what she wants. Am I crazy? Should I give her a chance?

2006-10-19 16:04:51 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

is it real love or is it a crush?i dont know,what do you call it?

2006-10-19 16:03:20 · 14 answers · asked by super girl 3

you don't want to be the kind of wife who is always telling her husband what to do? when it comes to our kids and he know's that it shouldn't be the way it is? or whenever you try to have a conversation with him and all he can say is "i don't know"? To all you men that want to get on my ****, shut the f*** up, because i don't want to hear, you guys act like you don't want any woman to tell you what to do or how to do it, well then start acting like it! I am so sick of naive people who aren't married, or are married and there husbands get away with acting like a complete moron, because a woman should "set a good example", what the F ever, because you where a man before you hooked up with that woman, so stop acting like you need a friggin mom. I'm not falling for that anymore.

2006-10-19 15:48:39 · 15 answers · asked by MiZmeL 4

I have never ever gotten along with my father. He drinks at night and gets very aggresive and my parents just got separated. I have to stay with him with my other three siblings every other weekend but i cant take it anymore! He's genuinly cruel to me, but a court order forces me to go see him. He basically insults whatever I like, and he's really racist and prejudiced which is the total opposite of me. When we fight, he gets really mad and then the day after he acts like nothing happened and makes little comments like "Someone's in a bad moddo today!" and stuff like that. What can I do to get out of the visits?

2006-10-19 15:34:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

my dad hurt my mom ,emotionally and his spirit needs to be lifted

2006-10-19 15:33:40 · 16 answers · asked by musthvebeenmyeviltwin 2

When he said happy anniversary today, I bursted into tears.......and not happy ones.........it was like a sadness...........I HAVE NO IDEA WHY? Can anyone shed some light on this? I am happpy to be married to my husband and have my beautiful family and four children, why the sad tears?

2006-10-19 15:28:53 · 9 answers · asked by KITKAT 3

My husband and I separated last month. Now he said he wants custody of our 4 yr old son but not our 1 yr old daughter. He has been a horrible parent since they were born. I have to get a lawyer tomorrow but does anyone have any advice on what I should do to make sure I retain custody of both kids? I have been protecting my son from him since he was born and now he wants to take him from me.

2006-10-19 15:18:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Working on the self esteem thing? Seek professional help, but I still love the man. I should say the man I fell in love with & not this jerk he has become. Divorce him is easy to say. How can you be married 26 years and then have a court give you a piece of paper and say you are no longer married. I have to break a old habit and I am asking how. Come better than you need a shrink. I want retribution. Best be told, needed my head checked 26 year old. I nursed a young tree to health and now the tree wants to take over and run wild. I want to prune it or chop it down, but my heart say you watched it grow and it grew with you. I am not crazy just heart broken. I don't need him, just wanted him. Do I love him or just hate the fact he is with another woman. I have a good job and a nice place to live. I am blessed with two grown children and two grandchildren. Anniversaries are hard to deal with. Just don't want to be the other woman. He treats me as if I am the other woman and she the wife.

2006-10-19 15:17:34 · 14 answers · asked by Chyna R 1

I want everybody to know who she is , hopefully her boyfriend will read it

2006-10-19 15:14:05 · 40 answers · asked by val l 2

I am married to someone that I am not in love with anymore and that I absolutely hate, I am only with him for financial security, I was in the process of leaving him but found out I was pregnant and stayed. Well now my baby is 2 months old and I dont want her to grow up around us fighting all the time. Whats the best way to become independent and leave his @$$? (Oh, and I always quit my job and quit college to stay at home with my baby, so I have nothing at all)

2006-10-19 14:56:23 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, these are the facts
we've been together for three years now
he has two children by different women none of which are mine. (although I'm possibly pregnant)
We've recently moved to another state away from both children and mothers.
He claims to want to spend the rest of his life with me but doesn't want marriage and has no feelings towards either of his children's mom whatsoever .
HOWEVER the letter describes him as having no one in his life and doesnt and expresses love for her but states that he doesn't want anyone in his life right now so they will not be together. Also states that he cant "commit to anyone" because of her.
He is currently on child support for only one of his children and the child who is not on any support is the mother he wrote the letter to.

I would appreciate womens opinions should I confront him beings though he purposely hid the letter.
I would appreciate mens comments on maybe an interpretation of what exactly is going through his mind.

2006-10-19 14:54:20 · 12 answers · asked by guestuser 1

I have been dating my boyfriend for some months now and he knows i am going through a divorce. But now my husband doesnt want to get the divorce. My husband is pushing off turning in the papers. I dont want to be with my husband anymore, I want to be with my boyfriend i know he is the right one.

2006-10-19 14:51:42 · 12 answers · asked by babydevil200669 1

Please explain your answer.

2006-10-19 14:43:28 · 7 answers · asked by wondering 4

Is it possible to just do it one time without all the back and forth?

2006-10-19 14:41:56 · 8 answers · asked by wondering 4

Say the husbands relationship is okay, but not perfect, but he has beautiful kids that he will always be there for (never leave the wife). Can he still have feelings for or a crush on another woman?
If so, would he still think about her all the time like when single people have a crush, even when he is busy with his family or work?

2006-10-19 14:39:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

we were each others first in everything i love him terribly...but the lack of experiance, if you will, its draving me crazy. i wish he had more sexual experiance, actually in every department. if i tell him what i want he'll do it because i told him so and that doesnot turn me on and he'll forget after awhile. we've been together for 8 years now, and he doenst drive me crazy (in a sexual way) as he used to. what can we do?

2006-10-19 14:28:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I married the first time at 18 and the marriage lasted almost2years. That was me that wanted out. The second time I was 21, that one was also almost 2 years. But he cheated and ended the marriage. The 3rd time I was 28, I'm still married for going on 10 1/2 years. He says he's not happy, but when the kids and I left to moved back home without him. He decided to come back too 2 weeks later. He quit his job and came home to us. Is that a man that isn't happy and don't want to be with me or what? Before I left I asked him if we had to rush into a divorce, he said no. Most of the time it seems like we are trying to make things better, sometimes no. Expecailly when he talks to 1 of his sister it seems like he changes. He almost treats her like she is his wife more than me. He has to call her almost everyday(she lives in a different state). He seems to mop around if he don't talk to her for awhile or she seems not to answer his calls.

2006-10-19 14:26:42 · 16 answers · asked by desprite 1

I know the parent that gets visitation with the child every other weekend is limited with thier time but, can they keep the child from
going to thier scheduled activities/ sports , etc.? Are there any legal ramifacations? Does the child have rights? Can the other parent do anything about it( such in a court of law)?

2006-10-19 14:23:59 · 12 answers · asked by Ashley 2

2006-10-19 14:22:07 · 18 answers · asked by wondering 4

my heart tells me that he is the one for me, but his actions tell me something else, this guy don't call me and shows very little signs that he cares. but my heart tells me that he is the one for me.

2006-10-19 14:20:30 · 5 answers · asked by coco 1

My husband is 29 and I'm 23 my sex drive is way more than his.
Sometimes we don't have sex for 2-3 months. Is it that he's getting older and is it wrong for me to want it more..

2006-10-19 14:17:41 · 10 answers · asked by dolphin_heart19 4

I love my wife very much. I cleaned the house,cooked diner, got her flowers, the laundry,and did every thing she ask. I was very loveing to her. When i would give her the flowers she would say thats nice and she would just leave them sit there. It would hert my feeling so i stoped. When i got done cleaning the house. she would come in and thow her stuff all around, and when i would say hay i just got done, She would say it's called living, so i stoped. She wants a lot of animals, but she don't take care of the ones she has, I have to. I would ask her to rub my back. and she would say, the more you ask the more i don't want to. But she never did. She was getting mean all the time,I started to get depressed, she was pushing my love away.I started a hobbie i did spened alot of time, but i was feeling good about my self, Then I started projects on the house she wanted done. Remodeled the bathroom, porch,some windows, and some other things. I was tired, "To be continued" A lot more to say

2006-10-19 14:13:25 · 14 answers · asked by td_sn_lr 1