I have never ever gotten along with my father. He drinks at night and gets very aggresive and my parents just got separated. I have to stay with him with my other three siblings every other weekend but i cant take it anymore! He's genuinly cruel to me, but a court order forces me to go see him. He basically insults whatever I like, and he's really racist and prejudiced which is the total opposite of me. When we fight, he gets really mad and then the day after he acts like nothing happened and makes little comments like "Someone's in a bad moddo today!" and stuff like that. What can I do to get out of the visits?
2006-10-19 15:34:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am 15.......
2006-10-19 15:37:48 · update #1
I AM 15 YEARS OLD
2006-10-19 15:38:54 · update #2
your 15 when your with your mom tell her you want to go back court and let them know that you don't like your father he drinks to much and he's All way's changing with you and you don't feel safe with him you rather just live with your mother if she doesn't want to anything about it tell your counselor in school they'll help
2006-10-19 15:42:19 · answer #1 · answered by `~*sheila *~` 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well find out what the law in your state is. Here in Mississippi when a child turns like 12 or 13, they get to decided what they want to do. Let your mom and her lawyer know you don't want to go, there should be a way to change the court order. I grew up with a father like that, so I know what you are going through. I was in his house for 21 yrs, now I am 30 and have not spoke to him in like 3-4 yrs. Good luck.
2006-10-20 06:41:18 · answer #2 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but your 15...you have to go, you have no choice, if it is court ordered. I'm in the same situation with my husband and his kids, so I know.
The custodial parent has to make sure that the non-custodial parent gets their visitation, but on the other hand...the non-custodial parent doesn't have to accept the visitation. I know, doesn't make a whole lot of sense.
Ask your mom to talk to her lawyer about this. Maybe you can get things changed.
Good luck.
2006-10-19 16:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by charliesangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi sweetie I feel so bad for you its hard dealing with a dad who drinks..and you are so young to be in this position and also your siblings....have you mentioned this to your mom she needs to know what is going on ..also the court order states that you and your sibling stay with him every other weekend it does not state that you and your sibs have to put up with his abuse......the courts need to know about this and believe me in no way do you kids have to endure this kind of cruelty this needs to be reported to child abuse program you can call your local police dept and tell them what is going on have them file a report and they will direct you to the child abuse program,,your mom needs a wake up call she has no right leaving all of you in the hands of an abuser..do it but do not tell anyone not your sibs or your dad ..i will pray for all of you please be safe sureilll
2006-10-19 16:03:21 · answer #4 · answered by COOKIE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother or somebody ought to petition the court on your behalf to alter the custody arrangements, at least until your father gets some counseling and takes some parenting classes. You shouldn't have to go back until he treats you like he should.
2006-10-19 15:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Mom needs to get in contact with her lawyer. I really don't think you have to go. Until you talk to the lawyer...act like your sick. Also talk to your school counselor about this. That way, should you go to court, you have a person who is not a family member to back you up.
Good luck
2006-10-19 15:44:15 · answer #6 · answered by Kathy S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need supervised visits - not overnights. If the social worker knows how horribly you are treated, they have to change the visitation orders. Tell your mom or another trusted adult like one of the counselors at your school.
Verbal abuse IS abuse!!! Also, if he's drunk he's in no condition to be trusted.
2006-10-19 15:49:17 · answer #7 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Court order only states that your mom has to allow u 2 see him. You don't have to go if you don't want 2.(Tell your mom I'm sure she will be on your side)
2006-10-19 15:39:18 · answer #8 · answered by ♡chele♡ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nickname,
You are 15. Dad is naturally you're enemy. Wait it out. You and he are probably a lot more alike than you realize. When you become an adult, the two of you will be best friends.
2006-10-19 15:56:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your visits are court ordered and you are a minor, you probably have to go unless you can get him to agree not to see you. Maybe he will respect your wishes if you can tell him in a way that he understands that is not aggressive or negative towards him.
2006-10-19 15:39:24 · answer #10 · answered by EB 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋