im not married,i live with my bf.we have three children.its been 5 years that weve been together.and i love him.we are making plans for our wedding.but i feel that i need someone to love me.i feel my bf dont apreciate me,or anything i do.im not a stay at home mom,i work full time.i dont ask him for anything i take care of my needs.i help with all the bill and the children expenses.i just feel unapreciated.is it my imagination?or im just too needy of his atention as he calls it?on my days off i want to be with my family but he rather be writing music and recording.i dont know,what do you think?when he says tomorrow,but his friends come over and our plans get kicked to the curve.
2006-10-19 16:39:18 · 12 answers · asked by super girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
and if i complain about it he responds with you just dont want me to have any friends
2006-10-19 16:40:45 · update #1
Doesnt sound like you should be making any wedding plans and no it is not your imagination. He should be doing more to show you some appreciation. You shouldnt have to beg for his attention.......life is too short. Kick him to the curb and find yourself someone who will appreciate you
2006-10-19 16:47:03 · answer #1 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok....you need to take a big step back and really think about what you need in a perminent relationship before you make a lifetime commitment. Marriage is supposed to be a partnership...meaning you share not only daily responsibilties, but love!!!! If you are not feeling appreciated, and if you feel that you are not a huge priority in his life, why would you want to marry him? You loving him is not enough, it needs to go both ways hun. There is nothing wrong with expecting to be treated the same way you treat the person you love>
2006-10-19 17:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by catywhumpass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you better really think about marrying this man it only gets worse. You should have a long talk with him and try to come to a compromise. Tell him every other weekend is family time. Nothing wrong with him having friends but you and your children should come first.
2006-10-19 17:13:43 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your feeling this way, why would you marry him? It's not going to get any better after you marry him. You either have to accept it or move on to someone who will be a family man and show you some attention.
2006-10-19 19:02:00 · answer #4 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel he doesnt appreciate you then you shouldnt marry him i am going throught this with my husband we have been together for 6 years with a 1 year old he works part timei work full time take my son to work with me he pays rent i pay bills car payment everything else on top of cleaning house taking care of our son buying everything we need on a very low income and i am not appreciated at all he wont even change a diaper or take out the trash and he moved out last night because of this so give it time express your feelings and if it doesnt change find someone who will appreciate you and your children
2006-10-19 16:58:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that your boyfriend is an easy going type of person and you've been taken for granted. You're not going crazy, it's just you have unmet needs from your boyfriend that leads you to question his feelings toward you. You have a problem with him but did he ever had any idea about it? The best thing to do is to confront him instead of ignoring your feelings. Have a heart to heart talk with him instead of keeping it to yourself.
2006-10-19 16:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think it's like this living with him now...wait till you are married! he is going to be too comfortable girl...you need to have a serious talk with him since there are children involved. If there is no improvement then you need to call off the wedding...don't go thru a wedding and then go thru divorce! that's a hassel...
2006-10-19 16:53:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To get, you've got to give.
Things are a 2-way street.
You've both got to know that.
You both have your own responsiblities and rights.
Why does your bf not like your friends coming over??
Go, ask him!
And why do you have 3 bastard children??!
Don't they deserve married parents??!
I thought your story sounded like a song!
And then you tell me you are a musical recording artist and writer!
Please e-mail me!
(musicandloveismydrug@yahoo.com.au)
I want to know about you!!
2006-10-19 17:36:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is having all the fun! Friends, music and all.
Accept the care taker role, for yourself, chidren and him.
May be one day he will grow up.
Love conquers all!
2006-10-19 16:49:50 · answer #9 · answered by SS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have some issues to work out before you plan on marriage.
2006-10-19 16:42:25 · answer #10 · answered by hamhead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋