2006-10-19 16:09:45 · 46 answers · asked by always helpful 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take this in....He may love you, but does he actually care about you? There IS a such this as "empty love," trust me. Have you ever stopped to think that this could be just a physical thing? (assuming that you all are physical) Have you ever pondered on why he has not left his wife. Please don't leave your heart out on limb. You sound kind of touchy as if your heart could be broken at any time. Now is not a good time for you to be the "monkey-in-the-middle". You should take some time out for you and wonder if it may be time to move on. Women love hard, baby but it is too easy for them to fall out of it. Have you reached your breaking point? =(
2006-10-19 16:18:22 · answer #1 · answered by Grad_gurl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you've only been the "the other woman" That's all you'll ever be to him and why would you want a man who is cheating on his wife with you! Don't you think he'll do the same to you! Do you know what NACHOS are? A man that you're sleeping with and he has a woman/wife is Nachos(not yours)!!! Let him go FIND YOUR OWN MAN!!! He's not going to be a good man for you, what makes you so special? Maybe I'm egotistical but I have to be the center of attention, the only woman or at least #1 if I'm going to do something like that! I couldn't play second best! I'm always on top and #1! You should value yourself more and find a man who is going to put you first on his To Do List!!! Understand?
2006-10-19 16:30:50 · answer #2 · answered by EriksSweetheart 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FYI... Marry Men Lie! Of course... they are going to tell you .. "the mistress" whatever you want to hear for awhile.. until the fun is over for them on their end and they get bored. Then.. they ease the wife back into the picture. NO>>>> He can't love you both. There is such a think as "Guy Talk/Code" you have to read in between the lines. What he "Really" means.. is he loves having sex with you and does not want the sex to end.. so he will tell you what you might want to hear.. that he loves you that will keep you on the side.. of the wife he is cheating on and breaking her heart.. and the kids IF he has any that would all be crushed if they knew. If he wanted to leave his wife.. he would have filed for divorce by now. He won't. BUT.... if you want to help all women in the world and his wife.. find a way to let her know the kind of husband she has. Tell her. Write her a letter.. OR.. better yet get his number at the house and call her and ask her to meet you for coffee. She would most likely divorce him. If he cheated once and on her.. he will do it again with or without your help. She has the right to know. Own it. Step up. Do the right thing here. End it with this loser... bastard.
2016-05-22 04:17:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not really cause if he loved you a little bit more than his wife he would divorce his wife . since he is still with his wife he love you more. He is just using you for bragging purposes. You are just his mist-rice and always will . Why would you want to be second and what most men would say you would be their sloppy second. You need to let him go and find someone to be first and not second to another woman. He is never leaving his wife. don't you want to get married someday. if so how can you if you are dating a married man.
2006-10-19 20:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
After 26 years, my husband had an affair. He said that he loves me and he loves her too. He said the mistress doesn't bother him about his drinking. My husband is a mean drunk. He drinks alone and then Mr.. Hyde comes out. He said some hurtful things. Wife gets live in the real world and tell him like it is. Mistress gets to live in the same world, but gets to tell him what he wants to hear and not make waves. Can a married man love wife & mistress: yes, but could he treat the two women with the respect & trust? No,. If you stole him from another, another can get him from you.
Sorry alittle bitter about the other woman thing.
2006-10-19 16:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by Chyna R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well yes, BUT as others previously stated - He got with you because of what you do for him that his wife is not giving him.
Secondly, from experience a friend of mine has been with a married man for six years waiting, waiting and more waiting.
That sob keeps promising her that he will leave but won't.
A older cousin been with a married guy 10 years, guess what?
The guy dies but in the end he still lived with his wife with my
cuz on the side. My grandfather 50 years with a sidekick.
What did these people get out of this? Nothing.
Take the heartbreak and move on. Don't look back.
Its better to be alone than in bad company.
I did.
2006-10-19 16:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by sakamoko2001 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Quite wasting your time.
He loves the situation period.
Keep your standards, and walk away.
Respect should be your number one line in the sand. Respect yourself and move on honey.
Seriously, I am the daughter of a serial dater dad. None of the girlfriends were respected, spoken of well, or remembered. We had family pets longer. (Yes the comparison is mean, but true).
Question: as a mistress, what would you do if you found out there was a third? Or a fourth? Ten to one the wife knows of each of you already.
2006-10-20 05:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by Oh, I see 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO.NO.NO. But that is what he is telling you. I had a fried as you was dating this married guy. And guess what? She is with another guy now. He never left his wife for his "sex buds" which he "loved and loved". He is telling you what you want to hear. And even if is true he will not leave his wife for you. And when he will decide to do it. You will be the first one he will replace(he will find another "lover"). Your choice. You want to be truly loved or truly used? All depends on personal choice. Depends how much you respect yourself. And at this point I don't think you can respect anyone. You don't respect your own person. How can you be happy? Do you like to be on the second place? You don't like to be the first in his heart?
2006-10-19 17:16:14 · answer #8 · answered by cool2b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible for a man to love his wife and lust after the other woman. He loves the sexual side of your relationship. Wise up. Has he left his wife in 2 years for you?
2006-10-19 16:12:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
And all i can say to that is watch out your day is coming. So look at it this way. Everytime he leaves you he goes home and cheats with his wife on you. You 2 are made for one another. You have no respect for yourself i can see cause if you did you would find your own and not accept someone else's left overs. Have you figured out why it has been going on for 2 years? Guess what he is getting his cake and eating it too... You go girl.
2006-10-19 16:17:02 · answer #10 · answered by Karen S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋