you don't want to be the kind of wife who is always telling her husband what to do? when it comes to our kids and he know's that it shouldn't be the way it is? or whenever you try to have a conversation with him and all he can say is "i don't know"? To all you men that want to get on my ****, shut the f*** up, because i don't want to hear, you guys act like you don't want any woman to tell you what to do or how to do it, well then start acting like it! I am so sick of naive people who aren't married, or are married and there husbands get away with acting like a complete moron, because a woman should "set a good example", what the F ever, because you where a man before you hooked up with that woman, so stop acting like you need a friggin mom. I'm not falling for that anymore.
2006-10-19 15:48:39 · 15 answers · asked by MiZmeL 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oooh boy! Your hubby must have done something really bad to piss you off this much! Ouch, I would hate to be him right now.
2006-10-19 15:51:40 · answer #1 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I'm one of those perpetuators. I let hubby get away with everything. I don't want to be a nag. I knew coming into marriage that it would never be anything close to 50-50. So what if he doesn't do a whole lot, I'm an independent woman, and could do it all myself, especially as I know there are single moms out there who never get a break, so at least once a week, he can watch the kids, do it his own way, and I can go out and get a break. Lose the anger, nag if you want to, or don't. It won't really make any difference anyway.
2006-10-19 23:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by venusiaint 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you settled for less than what you wanted from a relationship. What's more important, the marriage, or your happiness and your children's well being? Sometimes the choices we have in front of us are difficult because the consequences aren't clear. I do know that blaming each other for the unhappiness doesn't help the situation. You sound very frustrated, perhaps because you are in a relationship where you have grown incompatable. Be true to yourself first. Have you sacrificed part of your "self"? Maybe you need to put yourself first more often. Go ahead and vent if you need to, but realize that being unhappy and lonely in a marriage can be some of the worst kind of unhappy and lonely. You may need a change that puts more focus and attention on you and your needs. I am guessing but you sound like you have invested in a relationship where your needs aren't being met. I don't have the answer for you but I do know what it feels like to feel alone in a marriage. I think you need to start fullfilling your needs before anyone else's, except your children's of course. I mean, find a balance that allows you some TLC. I think you need some nurturing and some appreciation.
2006-10-19 23:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by brad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Argh! I agree with you 100% !! You don't want to be a "nag" or a "ball and chain" so you try to keep your mouth shut and PRAY he'll do the right thing, but he rarely ever does!
It's so frustrating and I can understand why you're venting. Don't you wish that sometimes you could just shake the sense into him? LOL.
Good luck, I hope things get a bit better for you.
2006-10-19 23:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by sweets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man i heard of venting but dame u let it all out. sound like u need a hug a role model or something. I'm sending u a hug and a kiss on the cheek from the bay to where ever u are
2006-10-19 23:04:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me you need to move on in your life. If this makes you this crazy i would get out. Men are like that for the most part. They need us to help them deal with life. They are like children and do not know how. Makes me wonder what they did before we came along.
2006-10-19 22:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by Karen S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes my man he is always doing something that just gets me mad,to the point where I tell him him to shut the f***up,but you can look at it this way you love him or you wouldn'tfell in love with him in the first place rightor wrong?so sit him down and talk to him tell him ,how you feel,and if he can't change for you,and he see's it's hurting you,then leave for awhile to think things through and sit down talk to him again, because you love him and you know he loves you to,so work it out with your husband.
2006-10-19 23:05:26 · answer #7 · answered by Brandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that you've unloaded, can you talk civilly to your hubby and resolve this or should we call Rabbi Schmully from Shalom in the Home?
2006-10-19 23:15:44 · answer #8 · answered by Empress ~of~Roam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a few deep breaths and go for a long walk. You and your spouse need some counseling.
2006-10-19 23:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by rec 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm totally with you! Good job girl! At least some people still have some sense in their heads! good luck to you.
2006-10-19 22:56:43 · answer #10 · answered by JD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋