I married my husband a year ago. Until recently everything was going well until he had a meeting with his ex-wife about their two kids. Now I am finding out that she is calling everyday if not more than once a day, she is stopping by our house, sometimes when I am not home, and now he has invited her to take the kids' out on holloween and the fourth of July. There are other things that I have noticed. He has changed a lot since that meeting and become very defensive when I ask him questions or get mad at him when he does these things. Should I be suspious or am I just fretting over nothing?
2006-10-19 14:08:53 · 12 answers · asked by sue_treece 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you for the info. Just a few more things. I am very active in the childrens lives. We have them month on month off, with weekends being ours also. Me and my husband have been together for 4 years and have a child of our own.
2006-10-19 14:20:09 · update #1
This one is a hard one to answer. Well i use to be in the same situation as you but i was fretting over nothing because i asked my husband if anything was going on i should be worried about and told him how i felt. i said be with your kids its fine but why is she always around. He saw where i was coming from so yes she still comes around but when it is a family gathering and i am there. because if your not seeing whats going on then u do get paranoid and nervous. If she is calling to let him talk to the kids or to talk to her kids there really isnt no need to worry as long as the conversation is about the kids or their needs no worries. just have a talk with him and if he doesnt want to listen then give him a reason to listen such as "listen to me if u can't then im gone. with no communication there is no room for anything else right. good luck and dont fret it really could be nothing but i would do my best to find out if it was me because i have been there and know how u feel. and he should of closed a door before opening a new one with you and if he didnt then u have the right to know. best of luck
2006-10-19 14:19:17 · answer #1 · answered by nuzzihuzzi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a talk with your husband - he should be reminded that your his wife and not his ex. However, that being said, they do have children and it's important to acknowledge that the issue isn't about them but their mother. You can't stop him from having contact with his children or their mother, but you must speak up about how and when this happens. Perhaps you should also try to involve yourself in the lives of those children - you'd get a better sense of the dynamic. Good luck!
2006-10-19 14:15:12 · answer #2 · answered by Jemma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to tell you whats going on with his kids and stop being so secretive he may be afraid of his ex bothering you but he needs to change his attitude and why is she calling so much and you do not want her in your house and that is your right,,,sureilll
2006-10-19 14:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by COOKIE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be suspicious of his behavior. It sounds like he may be cheating on you with her since her visits have suddenly increased and so have her calls. The best thing to do is trust him, but it doesn't sound good. Red flags going up everywhere!
2006-10-19 14:14:36 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lay down the law! she should not be stopping by alone ...watch the situation but do not vocalize any jealousy over them talking more. It's about the kids. Its also about respect
2006-10-19 14:16:46 · answer #5 · answered by BB'sMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but it sounds to me like he is trying to make things right with the mother of his children while he may not be banging her only you can find that out he is showing her the respect that divorced couples with children should show each other... calls everyday i can not see how that is necessary though
2006-10-19 14:12:34 · answer #6 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be VERY suspicious. There is something going on here. He's being defensive for a reason.
2006-10-19 14:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by Carrie! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey i am in the same situation except im the ex wife and true to the game we are ******* the hell out of each other every chance we get
2006-10-19 14:12:31 · answer #8 · answered by Darnella C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SPY ON THEM TO CONFIRM UR SUSPICION. A FORMER HORSE IS EASY TO RIDE. Have u seen the movie " Parent Trap"?
2006-10-19 14:21:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yal you should be suspious! sounds like she is trying to wiggle her way right back in there!
2006-10-19 14:14:09 · answer #10 · answered by kierstead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋