I have known this man about 2 years, and he has been coming over my husband and my house for about a year now. He has never shown us any pictures of his family. He has been living with this woman for about 12 years. She cheated on him about 2 years ago. He went back because they have a 12 year old child together. He told me that he didn't trust her, he wasn't in love with her, and that they have nothing in common. He then married her about 2 months ago. He didn't tell me, another friend told me. When I asked him, he said that he forgot to tell me, yet we had seen each other the day before the other friend told me. He said that he got married for the children. What is your opinion on this? What advice do you have for me? I have feelings for him, but I'm married. What do you think?
2006-10-19 04:40:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He was embarrassed to tell you!
2006-10-19 04:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you say T R O U B L E? Feelings don't matter. You are married and so is he. If you can't control your feelings stop having him in your life. You are not being fair to your hubby. He deserves all of you. Your vows must not be that important. I was married for almost 15 years, and I can honestly say that I didn't have feelings for another man the entire time. I am now single and can have those feelings without betraying any vows.
It doesn't matter why he married her. It is none of ur business. You aren't his wife and you don't get to speculate on his motives.
U need to back the heck off and leave him alone. Maybe he didn't tell you because he knew that this is how you would be. Maybe he wants your support and not your judgement.
2006-10-19 12:01:28 · answer #2 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably didn't tell you because he knew it would hurt you. My dad married my mom because of us kids. Maybe he knows the way you feel about him. Just be careful because it sounds like you may be in love with a married man. (and your married yourself)
2006-10-19 11:47:43 · answer #3 · answered by panda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a marriage of convenience for him. In any case both of you are married so you should just remain friends.
2006-10-19 11:43:50 · answer #4 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have answered you own question. You have feelings for him and he probably has feelings for you too.
He can't do anything about it cause you are married.
He knew it would hurt you but he feels like this is the only way to get over you.
2006-10-19 11:44:48 · answer #5 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he knows you and your husband have feelings for him and he still wants to be in themiddle of the bed. I think i see you and your husband taking turns with this guy.
2006-10-19 11:43:02 · answer #6 · answered by Karrien Sim Peters 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is interested in you its simple but i think you suspect that already
2006-10-19 11:42:59 · answer #7 · answered by Eric c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's his choice. Let it go. If he wants to be miserable that's his choice too.
2006-10-19 11:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd never trust a prick like him, ever.
2006-10-19 11:45:31 · answer #9 · answered by johnno K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He hates your guts.
2006-10-19 11:43:03 · answer #10 · answered by mark leshark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋